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Loving Someone in Recovery: The Answers You Need When Your Partner Is Recovering from Addiction (The New Harbinger Loving Someone Series) 1st Edition

by Beverly Berg MFT PhD (Author), Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT (Foreword)
4.9 out of 5 stars 52 customer reviews
ISBN-13: 978-1608828982
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Product Details

  • Series: The New Harbinger Loving Someone Series
  • Paperback: 232 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (February 2, 2014)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1608828980
  • ISBN-13: 978-1608828982
  • Product Dimensions: 6.1 x 0.5 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (52 customer reviews)
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5.0 out of 5 starsI thought I could see codependence a mile away. I was wrong.
By Rush Street on February 10, 2014
Format: Paperback
I read this book for one reason: I love my girlfriend but haven't been able to figure out how to deal with her behavior, my feelings or our relationship since she got out of rehab. Berg paints the definitive picture of codependence in a recovering relationship. She opened my eyes. While my girlfriend has been working to maintain her sobriety, I’ve been sabotaging our relationship with what I thought was “love.” I thought I knew codependence, I thought I could see it a mile away. I was wrong. I couldn’t recognize – I didn’t know, really know -- codependency in a recovering relationship until I read this book.
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5.0 out of 5 starsvery helpful guide
By Pamela on June 13, 2015
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Met my love AFTER he began recovery. 20 years addicted to opiates. Book very insightful for BOTH of us. Some obvious points but serve well to generate productive conversations. I've no experience with addiction, either personally or relationally ... Praise God. So this has helped me think long & hard about committing to recovering addict.
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5.0 out of 5 starsWide awakening
By Marsha Jauregui on April 12, 2016
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This book was my wide awakening of how codependent I was. Without this book I wouldn't have started attending CoDA (codependency anonymous) and started the recovery I needed to have a healthy relationship. Even though my relationship with the recovering addict didn't go well, this book helped guide me in the new direction I needed to go.
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5.0 out of 5 starsFinally!
By Rose in NYC on March 5, 2015
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Dr. Berg's book opened my eyes and changed my life. This book will help anyone who is dealing with an alcoholic relationship or any other relationship with addiction in the mix. If you find yourself caretaking all the time, where you're thinking or feeling responsible for other people, and feel it is your responsibility to help other people solve their own problems, find yourself with needy people always being attracted to you, and feeling unappreciated or used, then you are codependent! Each chapter of this book spoke to me. If you have weak boundaries with your recovering partner, are too reactive with your reactive partner, and need to get back to knowing yourself, this book has just the right exercises to fix these problems. I highly recommend it!
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5.0 out of 5 starsVery helpful.
By Kindle Customer on May 21, 2015
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My husband and I have been in a co-dependent relationship for many years. It sort of just snuck up on us with alcoholism progressing slowly and then very quickly. This book has helped me understand my role in keeping the status quo and allowing the addiction to keep progressing. I'm hopeful that with help such as this book we'll finally "get" what recovery is all about.
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5.0 out of 5 starsOne of the best books out there on codependency
By sharon b oberfeld on February 24, 2015
Format: Paperback
One of the best books out there on codependency!!
I’ve been studying mindful meditation for the last few years and have found Dr. Berg’s simple, unique and intelligent way of weaving the subject in with the area of recovery is genius. I’ve already given a stack of her books away to a few of my friends and family members, and they have thanked me for such a great resource. It is not only toxic to try and be in relationship to someone close to you who is active in the disease of addiction, but equally as confusing after he or she has gotten sober. If you are looking for a super smart and reader friendly book on this subject, and you are ready to put a little elbow grease into the process, look no further. I highly recommend this book!
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5.0 out of 5 starsA Must Read for Therapists AND Couples!
By Michael A. Ferguson on February 26, 2014
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Dr. Berg has knocked one out of the park with her book! As a professional in the addiction recovery field, I am always looking for smart ways to help my clients. Dr. Berg's book offers an interesting framework of using mindful meditation, exercises for breeding more connection and simple advice for the codependent to find their own identity while still being involved with their recovering partner. Berg approaches relationship in a step by step fashion. Her exercises promote feelings of safety and security. Berg lays out the critical characteristics that a recovering couple needs to strive for in an easy to read format, by providing clear examples and exercises to show how to create a daily practice for engendering love and connection between partners. This one is a must read whether you are the partner working on your codependent tendencies and love someone in recovery, a recovering addict loving a recovering codependent, or a therapist that wants to help recovering couples.
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5.0 out of 5 starsHelpful, But Not Necessarily Easy Reading
By Stephanie on June 3, 2014
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Loving Someone in Recovery: The Answers You Need When Your Partner Is Recovering from Addiction, is an extremely helpful book for romantic partners of anyone addicted to something potentially destructive. Unlike many books, this work by Beverly Berg applies to partners of recovering alcoholics, drug addicts, food addicts, compulsive gamblers, workaholics and the like. It is also a good choice for "double winners," those who are codependent (basically addicted to the addict) and also fighting their own process or substance addictions.

Loving Someone in Recovery is chock-full of exercises that can be done individually or as a couple. The spiritual, psychological and medical tips offered can work even if only one partner is active in a recovery program. As with most books, Loving Someone in Recovery highly recommends 12-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon (for friends and family members of alcoholics.) However, unlike too many works in this field, Berg lovingly yet strongly encourages the reader to do deeper work than just going to a lot of 12-step meetings. After all, even practicing tried-and-true advice such as "90 meetings in 90 days" doesn't work too well if the codependent or addict is not trying to improve his spiritual condition and personal circumstances outside of the meeting halls.

Ancient and modern society alike is largely based on what some experts might label as a love addiction. Berg is realistic in explaining that love doesn't always conquer all, especially when the couple is comprised of an addict and a codependent. Or sometimes two double winners fall madly in love and then try to see how their feelings can fit into real life situations.Read more ›
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Most Recent Customer Reviews

4.0 out of 5 starsFour Stars

This has been very helpful to me and my family.

Published 8 days ago by Scattervision
5.0 out of 5 starsTruly spiritually awaking

This book is amazing for relationships in recovery. Most of the time we think the problem lies with our addict and it lies within ourselves !!!

Published 20 days ago by Ashley B.
5.0 out of 5 starsI felt like the author was speaking right to ME!

So much helpful and thoughtful advice for couples in recovery. Once I started reading, I finished the same day. I felt like Beverly wrote this book just for me. A clear 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟!

Published 4 months ago by Chris B.
5.0 out of 5 starsNot just for people in recovery or with someone in recovery

I've been lucky enough to have Dr. Berg as my therapist for a long time. This book is not just for people in recovery, or with someone in recovery. Read more

Published 12 months ago by Ken
5.0 out of 5 starsYou'll never need another book in your desperate time of helplessness.

If you are struggling as an addict, or the codependent in your relationship, and are truly looking for help to help to find some tranquility in your thoughts and in your actions,... Read more

Published 12 months ago by Matt
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This book is a must-read for anyone one person or couple going through recovery. It is so relatable and personal and applies to so much of what life throws at us.

Published 14 months ago by Jessika B
5.0 out of 5 starsNot just for couples in recovery!

Like a wise big sister who has navigated the waters for you, Dr. Berg addresses the universal issues and challenges that all couples face at various times in their relationship. Read more

Published 14 months ago by Meggan Lennon
5.0 out of 5 starsPriceless

Buy this book right now! Dr Berg is an absolute genius. She has helped me navigate the hardest times in my life. This book could just save your life.

Published 14 months ago by Dana Klein

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