Helping the Stork: The Choices and Challenges of Donor Insemination (Paperback)

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Helping the Stork The sourcebook for all the information parents-to-be need to know about the choices and challenges of donor insemination Each year donor insemination (DI) offers a pathway to parenthood for the hundreds of thousands who turn to family-building alternatives. Although DI is considered as often as adoption, couples facing male infertility, as well as single women and lesbian couples, have had few places to turn for information about this method, which has been shrouded in secrecy. In Helping the Stork, parents-to-be, as well as friends and family, doctors, and counselors, can explore the choices and challenges raised by this alternative to overcoming childlessness. This comprehensive handbook moves through each step of the process: reaching a solid decision about whether donor insemination is the best choice for a family's future; handling the difficult issue of privacy; selecting a donor and getting started; and learning to thrive as a family meeting DI's added challenges. Full of wisdom from medical and mental health experts, Helping the Stork is also enriched with stories from many families who share their insights and experiences. This book is a reassuring, supportive, and helpful guide that no one considering or going through the process of donor insemination should be without.

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Helping the Stork The sourcebook for all the information parents-to-be need to know about the choices and challenges of donor insemination Each year donor insemination (DI) offers a pathway to parenthood for the hundreds of thousands who turn to family-building alternatives. Although DI is considered as often as adoption, couples facing male infertility, as well as single women and lesbian couples, have had few places to turn for information about this method, which has been shrouded in secrecy. In Helping the Stork, parents-to-be, as well as friends and family, doctors, and counselors, can explore the choices and challenges raised by this alternative to overcoming childlessness. This comprehensive handbook moves through each step of the process: reaching a solid decision about whether donor insemination is the best choice for a family's future; handling the difficult issue of privacy; selecting a donor and getting started; and learning to thrive as a family meeting DI's added challenges. Full of wisdom from medical and mental health experts, Helping the Stork is also enriched with stories from many families who share their insights and experiences. This book is a reassuring, supportive, and helpful guide that no one considering or going through the process of donor insemination should be without. Visit us online at http://www.mcp.com/mgr

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Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: Wiley; 1 edition (October 7, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 002861917X
• ISBN-13: 978-0028619170
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #304,790 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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75 of 75 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best book on Donor Insemination to date!!!, November 12, 1998

By A Customer

If there was only one thing I could say about the book Helping the Stork it would be "Why did it take so long for this book to be written?" Carol Frost Vercollone and Heidi and Robert Moss have written an excellent guide for those thinking about using donor insemination to build their families, and also for those who already have their famlies through DI. This book was written for others to explore the issues surrounding donor insemination and to help them come to their own decisions about this common but not openly talked about form of family building. The added bonus is that it is also written for families, friends and health professionals to help in their understanding of the concerns and the issues that DI families face. The authors, from their own personal experience with DI and through counselling others want to provide reassurance that DI can be a wonderfully positive way to build families. This book has an easy to read style and is filled with numerous personal anecdotes from others who have either gone through DI or have some knowledge of it. I felt this was the best part of the book, the connection with others, their advice, fears, thoughts and honesty which can only come from people directly involved with this process. For those of you thinking you are alone in using DI, this book can certainly offer some comfort in the personal stories of others and the authors obvious intimate knowledge of this topic. The book goes through the various steps of DI, the decision making, issues of privacey and disclosure, and how to go about initiating the DI process. The authors are careful to try to cover issues concerning all individuals who may be using DI, including married couples, lesbians and single women. Also valuable in the book is the resource list and the bibliography. I'd like to share this passage from the book which I felt was it's strongest message. "Our goal, both in writing this book and in our counselling, is to change social attitudes toward DI so much that if you do tell, you can feel more confident that your child will ultimately view this news positively, not negatively. It may never be OK that there was so little donor information provided or that your family began with such suffering for the parents, but you'll certainly get across just how wanted your child was." Helping the Stork has been a long awaited for book that will hopefully do just that.

30 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Support Group in a Book!, November 16, 1997

By	Peggy B. Kindler (Pittsburgh, PA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Where has this book been? This book has everything you always wanted to know about DI but had no one to ask. Helping the Stork is truly a support group in a book. This book is as technical as necessary but it deals with the feelings involved in the DI process. This is a very warm book and easy to read. No matter what feelings you are having you will find them in this book. The authors recognize that DI is a physical and emotional journey toward parenthood. Why should you own this book? Because although this is the only DI book published in the 1990s, it is also an excellent book. These authors acknowledge that DI is not just for married couples. There is a section on Becoming a Mom Without a Dad, Becoming a Single Mom Through DI, Lesbian Couples Creating Families through DI, and a section on Celebrating Differences. Other sections I think are wonderful include: Putting Together Your Medical Team, Emotional Needs At That First Insemination, Two Methods of Insemination, When DI Memories Come to Mind, and Selecting on a Donor's Personal Statements. My favorite chapter was chapter 10 - Humor in Hindsight. The book quotes dialogue from Wendy Levy's zany film SWIM, SWIM...TALKING TO SPERM AND OTHER DESPERATE ACTS. "I start to take Clomiphene, a relatively mild fertility drug, and thankfully, I experience no side effects, except maybe locking my girlfriend in the closet once a week if she forgets to vacuum her hair off the bathroom floor. Okay, a few mood swings..." And, if you enjoy reading, which I am sure you do if you are an Amazon fan, this book is worth the price just for the bibliography included in the end of the book.

28 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Great book for anyone considering DI, March 1, 2000

By	Jen (Canada) - See all my reviews

Having a child is a decision that affects the rest of your life. When you turn to DI, there are many questions and dilemas to overcome before proceeding. This book does a wonderful job of discussing the challenges and emotional obstacles one should overcome before conceiving a DI child. Well done. A must read!