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The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love (Paperback)

by Pia Mellody (Author), Lawrence S. Freundlich (Author) "Those of us in twelve-step recovery learn that the most pernicious effect of our addictions and the psychic disorders that come along with them is..." (more)
Key Phrases: listening boundary, external physical boundary, adult wounded child (more...)
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A certified addiction counselor and registered nurse, Mellody (Facing Codependence), writing with the assistance of Freundlich (president of Freundlich Communications), offers a self-help guide based on the role of spirituality in intimate relationships. As a recovering alcoholic, Mellody experienced a profound love coming to her from God; this supportive love led her to develop the fairly complex program that she currently uses while counseling clients. The author believes that many children are traumatized by parents who either shame (disempower) their children or force them into a parental role (falsely empower). Labeling both actions as abusive, Mellody provides examples of how children treated this way can recover and function more happily in the adult world. She details here how to erect healthy physical, emotional and intellectual boundaries that will foster rather than hamper intimacy and boost self-esteem. For example, she advises that affectionate approaches require controlled containment, e.g., when deciding to engage others in sexual intimacy, it is necessary to respect their physical boundaries by asking permission. In order to really communicate, people in close relationships should maintain other boundaries such as refraining from giving unasked-for advice, accusing or making judgments. Appended is an example of a "feeling reduction" workshop conducted at a residential treatment center where Mellody practices. According to the author, these workshops are central to overcoming trauma and abuse. Devotees of Mellody's earlier books will be the most interested in this latest offering.
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--John Bradshaw, author of the #1 New York Times bestellers Homecoming and Creating Love
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Product Details
  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: HarperOne (May 25, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0060095806
  • ISBN-13: 978-0060095802
  • Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.9 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
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