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We meet Grace on New Year's Day, trying to contact a doctor who will prescribe the morning-after pill because, against her better judgment, she and her husband, Eddie, made love the night before only to have the condom break. For Eddie, the idea he may have a shot at a son is glorious. For Grace, however, this is a potential disaster. "There is a moment . . . before knowledge or logic or training kicks in and tells us what to do when pure animal panic is running the show. This was the moment I was in."
Interspersed with the compelling story of Grace's inner struggle are the parallel, less captivating, tales of her mother and grandmother. In 1941, her 15-year-old future grandmother, Royal, known simply as Rae, ran from Mississippi to Memphis with her lover, who promptly deserted her but not without impregnating her first. Taking up with another man, she abandoned her first child, Mattie (Grace's mother). Rae's motto is "I'm just living, that's all." Mattie spends her life and livelihood trying to win back Rae's love and makes a career of self-sacrifice. The mantra she lives by: "Love means next to nothing. Duty is what counts."
McLarin omnisciently narrates the Rae and Mattie sections, which pale next to Grace's intimate, often disturbing, first-person account. It would have been enough to summarize her forbears' history, as Grace occasionally does anyway: "For my grandmother, to be a mother was to also be a slave, and a slave she refused to be . . . . Then my mother had children of her own and, in her woundedness, ended up walking away from herself." The mother/grandmother sections do not have the pulse, pace or rhythm of Grace's present-day story.
And even there, we never really learn why Grace feels as desperate as she does, beyond her legacy. In many ways, her frustrations with motherhood seem to be of the relatively normal, universal ilk (never-ending demands, sibling bickering, inconvenient illnesses, tantrums, etc.). Grace can seem a tad whiney. But McLarin's point is to explode the cliché that mothers naturally feel connected to their children. After all, in our society, we're usually fed only extremes: guerrilla moms or postpartum psychos whose play-date of choice is the deep end of the bathtub. Grace admits to disliking the "family bed" concept because she had to share one with her two sisters growing up. She also muses about why Eddie picked "someone incapable of love" but gives no satisfactory indication as to why she agreed to marry and have children in the first place.
To punctuate these issues, McLarin surrounds Grace with other problematic mothers besides Rae and Mattie. The supporting cast includes women in Grace's department who, before she got pregnant, "held their baby pictures" up to her face "as if warding off a vampire with a crucifix"; her mother-in law ("casually destructive even when she meant to be nice, throwing her spiked arms around you and leaving little wounds all over the place"); and her insecure sister-in-law, who ardently dislikes her own mother. Grace's friend Valerie -- the one woman who appears to be an ideal wife and mother, always equipped with tissues and Band-Aids -- dies suddenly of a stroke so Grace can see children made motherless and convince herself they'll be okay.
Some may see this book as an attack on motherhood or a long complaint about it, while others may question why Grace didn't return to work, hire a babysitter or seek therapy. After all, Grace is a sociologist who briefly dabbled in psychology and scares herself with thoughts such as "To have children is to understand the impulse toward child abuse . . . . You will be surprised at the visceralness of your reactions sometimes. You will be horrified at the way you behave." But most readers will find Grace's desperation heartfelt and her journey absorbing, as told in vigorous, luxuriant prose. Her eventual visit to her grandmother, accompanied by her own mother, is a poignant, heartbreaking scene, and Grace's question still haunts us after the book is closed: "Isn't everything everybody ever does about their mother in some way?"
Reviewed by Patricia Elam
Copyright 2006, The Washington Post. All Rights Reserved.
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