101 Lies Men Tell Women -- And Why Women Believe Them (Paperback)

~ (Author) "Men lie, they just do" So says Madonna during police questioning in her 1993 movie, Body of Evidence..." (more)
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"This book is really about being lied to, whatever the sex." -- --USA Weekend

Product Description

‘I’ll call you.’ ‘I love you.’ I’ll be home in 20 minutes.’ ‘No, I don’t think your thighs are too big.’ ‘I’m going to leave my wife.’ From first date deception to martial dishonesty to last-ditch efforts to evade detection, 101 Lies Men Tell Women exposes the extraordinary diverse lies that invade male/female relationships and destroy trust. What do men tend to lie about? Why do they feel the need to life? Dr. Dory Hollander offers rare insight into the most prevalent lies and the often startling reasons why men tell them. Based on the provocative findings of her research, Dr. Hollander also shows why women are more vulnerable to certain types of lies that others, while helping the reader to understand the dynamics of deception. Learn how men use the lies as a means of both attracting and distancing themselves from the women in their lives and how this affects the women who love them. Filled with highly amusing, as well as emotionally wrenching stories from the men and women in Dr. Hollander’s study, 101 Lies Men Tell Women captivates and enlightens with original quizzes and exercises for decoding – men’s words and actions. A self-defense manual for women who, until now, have had little understanding of, and even less protection against, the well-told lie.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 384 pages
• Publisher: Harper Paperbacks (December 6, 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0060928123
• ISBN-13: 978-0060928124
• Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 5.3 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (34 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #76,478 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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27 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars An English girl writes..., June 29, 1998

By A Customer

I stumbled accross this book whilst browsing Amazon.com for other titles. The title naturally aroused my curiosity, having immediately struck an all too familiar chord. What surprised me was that the reviews this book had already received were not that promising. Undaunted, I decided to give it a go.

I could not put this book down!

Having experienced the relationship that is littered with a catalogue of lies, fibs, not-tells and truth-bending, like so many females I just wanted to understand why it happened and how could I try and prevent it from re-occurring. My approach to buying this book was therefore coloured by past experience. However, in reading it, despite its obviously American slant which can be offputting for the English at times, I found it genuinely enlightening. It holds a nub of truth for just about every woman in the world.

'101 Lies...' has also been an amusing conversation starter. People who haven't read it naturally fall into two categories - those that immediately treat it as a bit of a spoof and those whose personal experiences arouse their immediate curiosity - and want to talk about it. Only on reading it will you appreciate what this book is about.

'101 Lies...', as its author declares, is a defence manual intended for women against a barrage of male falsehoods with which we get bombarded daily. But to regard the subject in isolation would be a mistake and this book is more than that. It's an insight into the male AND female mind that can help BOTH sexes understand each other better. As it repeatedly points out: women can lie too and do, although differently than our male counterparts. What this book is not is an arch feminist male-bashing piece about the hazzards of encountering the opposite sex. There are many ways women can help themselves to understand and positively appreciate the men around them. Reading mens' magazines is one example. This book is another.

30 of 36 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Your Self-Respect Also Impacts Men, June 4, 2002

By	Carmen Matthews "The Serene Samurai" (San Diego, California) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: 101 Lies Men Tell Women and Why Women Believe Them (Hardcover)

Although I've read this book years ago, I was drawn towards this book, last night, just to review my notes in the margins, because a man whom I've only went out with 3 times, went out of his way to evade answering my questions.

Every woman should read this book, more than once, because we are conditioned to choke off the truth, when we are starting to date someone new. We want to be nice, and that's good.

But it isn't good if we are nice to someone else, at the expense of our own worthiness.

Men are socialized to lie to avoid their fear of women's anger, because it brings up insecurities in many men, who have spent their lives running away from their emotions.

Because I read this book several times, and because I have written notes in the margins, I am empowered to choose what I want.

For example, if a man say's, "Oh, it wasn't that," he is evading your subject, and his feelings.

And here are 4 reasons why:
1. He wants his thoughts, feelings, and actions to be inaccessible to you.
2. He wants to build upon your good faith and acquiescence.
3. He intends to do what he wants to do, without your knowledge.
4. He has no desire to be accountable to you.

Now, if you turn these reasons around, asking yourself what the long-term affect this would be upon your life, you will notice that you will question your sanity, if you don't confront his dishonesty, and appreciate the persistent rumbling in your gut.

You would also leave it up to him to give you permission to be who you are.

Many women look the other way, because to directly look at these lies, would also lead to confronting some mis-truths that women are socialized and bound by.

But, again, the long term affect is terrible.

So, any woman reading this review, please read this book, and choose to do as I do, let go of any man who desperately needs to run away from himself. Your life is too precious to be his dumping ground.

17 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Details and insights, October 16, 2004

By	Kurt Tucholsky "Kurt" - See all my reviews

The book is filled with stories and detailed interpretations of how lying by men to women works. It is not driven by "hate" of men, as "A Reader" suggests, but by the desire to reveal and understand. The men emerge (almost) as much as victims of their lies as the women.