Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse (Paperback)

by Mike Lew (Author), Ellen Bass (Author) "Child abuse. The term has entered our vocabulary with an eerie everyday familiarity..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

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"A passionate and compassionate book, both speaking out on behalf of male victims and illuminating a number of pathways toward healing."--David Finkelhor, University of New Hampshire

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"A touchstone of gtuidance, hope and understanding that helps therapists, survivors and their loved ones." (-Ernesto Mujica, Ph.D. )

"Victims No Longer sits on my desk as a reference guide for both myself and my clients." (Vicki Polin, M.A., ATR, LCPC, Director and Founder, The Awareness Center )

"The first book I recommend to new clients." (Howard Fradkin, Ph.D., Male Survivor Retreat Chairperson )

"The definitive book on men who were abused. I refer other professionals to the book and make it required reading." (Joe Amico, M.Div., CAS, CSAC, President, National Association for Lesbian and Gay Addiction Professionals )

"Victims No Longer will remain for years to come the original resource manual for adult male survivors." (Hank Estrada, P.L.E.A, the National Organization for Male Survivors )

"We finally have a book which can offer men support on their journey towards recovery and healing." (Dan Sexton, Survivors of Child Abuse Program of Childhelp USA )

"Male victims carry a particular burden of shame. Victims No Longer helps to lift the burden." (Judith Herman, M.D., author of Father-Daughter Incest )

"Passionate and compassionate , both speaking out on behalf of male victims and illuminating a number of pathways toward healing." (David Fineklhor, Director, Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire )

"Victims No Longer breaks the isolation, shame and sense of uniquness that most male survivors struggle with. (Ken Singer, LCSW, Executive Director, NJ Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers )

"The most important resource for men healing from past sexual abuse. Comprehensive, compassionate and clear, it offers hope.... (Wendy Maltz, author of The Sexual Healing Journey )

"Accessible, moving, and validating... a beacon of hope for sexually abused men and their loved ones.." (Richard Gartner, Ph.D., author of Betrayed as Boys )

"As an Episcopal priest...I depend upon Mike Lew's insights in my daily work." (The Reverend Anne C. Fowler, Rector, St. John's Episcopal Church, MA ) --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 352 pages
• Publisher: Perennial (February 1990)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0060973005
• ISBN-13: 978-0060973001
• Product Dimensions: 9.8 x 8 x 1.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.3 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars See all reviews (27 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #92,732 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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35 of 35 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best book for Survivors., February 3, 2005

By	Mr. D. Lloyd "David Lloyd" (England) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse (Paperback)

My copy of Mike Lew's book is well worn, most pages have sections underlined and notes written down the margins.
A lot of pages are stained with coffee, red wine and tears.
It's a book I still read a lot, five years after I first got it.

I am a Survivor of sexual abuse, and have recovered my life through therapy, and some hard personal work. But the personal work was so much easier with this remarkable book.
Mike Lew's understanding of 'our' problems is second to none and he expresses himself very clearly throughout the book. Don't think that this is just a book for professionals, it isn't. This is a book for everyone concerned with men who have been sexually abused.

I now work with other Survivors, and I always recommend this book to them, which is why I'm here at Amazon again; buying yet another copy so someone else can benefit.

Dave Lloyd

49 of 52 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars five stars isn't enough for this, June 17, 1999

By A Customer

Mike Lew's book is the definitive book on recovery for males from childhood sexual abuse. When I first bought it, I was not even able to open it to the blurb page without feeling that finally, there was something that I could use to help...finally there was someone who cared. The book is hard to read. Hard, hell, it is, at times, nearly impossible, but it is also hopeful. Mike Lew is sure to include positive messages directed at the survivor, messages of encouragement and hope. I found myself with tears in my eyes as I saw my story and my life on every page, but I now know that I will survive. If you need this book, first get yourself into therapy, then get this book and take all the time you need with it. Don't rush through it.

24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars MYSTICAL MIKE----LIFESAVER LEW, May 14, 2004

By	John C. Ireland (Chicago) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse (Paperback)

As an avid reader all my 44 years, I never dreamed a book was a true mystical lifesaver! For years, I was threatened into a prison of silence after surviving multiple acts of abuse & carrying deeply hidden scars. I finally knew I had to deal with my horrific male abuse. Typical book addict, I searched for anything on male abuse & was shocked with the lack of materials. Writing for years has been a lifeline for me & through my "black blood" I carried my pain, hoping to hear others in the same boat. I finally found Mike Lew's VICTIMS NO LONGER & after several attempts, I finally faced my anxiety & purchased a copy. It came at a time when I was in the darkest depression. I had just lost both my mom & dad, 5 weeks apart in Fall 1998. Along with complicated grief, I again felt wounds reopened with demonic force. (I had finaly told my mom & dad when I turned 30 & they were shocked that people they most trusted, some loved, had me as a victim threatened in silence for so many years). I am a "myth breaker" in that I hid even from my loving & protective parents, afraid death threats were real-----I was 8 when it all started... I would be amazed as I truly began my healing journey accompanied by the printed caring voice of Mike Lew! One day I hoped to thank him in person for the infinite lives he has impacted with his literary lifesaving!!! His words reach out---heart & soul... The energy of Mr.Lew is empowering! My recovery has been rough at times & I finally had the courage to attend a Male Survivor conference held at Dawn Manor in the Catskills. I KNOW I would never had attended if I hadn't discovered Mike Lew:):):) The Male Survivor group's awesome power reflects Mike! In September 2003, I attended the National Male Survivor Conference in Minneapolis where I finally got to thank Mike in person--- What an indescribable feeling! I hope his words reach countless oters suffering n silence as well as those who are in families & helping professions!! Join me on the Healing Highway coasting with Mike Lew, John C. Ireland:):):)