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Having written thoughtfully and persuasively on women, competition and American sports culture, Nelson now detours out of sports writing; yet her latest book emerges from her previous writing as well. The lengthy process of coming to terms with having been sexually abused as a teenager by a coach and the larger phenomenon of coach/athlete abuse that she discussed in The Stronger Women Get, The More Men Love Football have led her to write this accomplished and engaging book about forgiving others. The book is constructed around what Nelson calls the "five keys" of forgiveness: awareness, validation, compassion, humility and self-forgiveness. Woven into Nelson's own story and her cultural and intellectual analysis of forgiveness are the often inspiring stories of people who have forgiven (or sought to forgive) both unimaginable crimes and everyday betrayalsAsuch as rape, torture, the murder of children, adultery and the abuse of authorityAand the peace and strength they seem to find. Whether it is entirely in everyone's interest to become a forgiving person is a question Nelson acknowledges, if gingerly and without resolution. She also acknowledges that forgiveness is a complicated, messy, never-ending business, and that victims do not always shine with innocence. Yet in seeking to apply her simple rules of forgiveness to all things significant and insignificant, Nelson sometimes minimizes her message. As with so many self-help books, while the person who is most completely served by the book is probably the writer, most people will recognize at least a little of themselves in this considered and eloquent volume. (June)
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More than a dozen titles have been published in the last year on forgiveness. What does true forgiveness mean, and how does one achieve it? These two titles attempt to answer those questions and more. Each, in fact, goes so far as to claim that forgiveness is important not only for spiritual but also medical reasons (it lowers blood pressure, for example). The Unburdened Heart focuses on Nelson's five-step formula for complete forgiveness: awareness, validation, compassion, humility, and self-forgiveness. The former professional basketball player and sports writer also considers whether to reconcile with the perpetrator or say goodbye and whether one can still forgive if the apology is insincere. At the core of her compelling narrative is her experience of being sexually abused by her high school coach; at the time, she very much believed his story that they were having an adult affair. While researching a previous book, The Stronger Women Get, the More Men Love Football (LJ 5/15/94), she could not get other coaches to comment on abuse, but here she reconnects with her old coach after 20 years to start the forgiving process. Written in straightforward workbook style, Nelson's text ends with three pages of group discussion questions. Ketterman and Hazard, a speaker/ psychiatrist and an author, respectively, write in a more folksy, storytelling style, but their point is no less convincing. Because they take a Christian stance, their book may be especially helpful to religious counselors; the chapter "A Personal Reckoning" poignantly illustrates what forgiveness means. Like Nelson, Ketterman has a deep personal connection to her topic: she had already divorced her successful husband when he called to tell her that he had been arrested and needed her help. They worked through their problems and remarried after he was released from prison. Both of these titles use forceful personal vignettes to show the process of working through events to exoneration. Nelson's book is better arranged for group work, while Ketterman and Hazard's is more amenable to an individual read.DLisa Wise, Broome Cty. P.L., Binghamton, NY
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.
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Having written thoughtfully and persuasively on women, competition and American sports culture, Nelson now detours out of sports writing; yet her latest book emerges from her previous writing as well. The lengthy process of coming to terms with having been sexually abused as a teenager by a coach and the larger phenomenon of coach/athlete abuse that she discussed in The Stronger Women Get, The More Men Love Football have led her to write this accomplished and engaging book about forgiving others. The book is constructed around what Nelson calls the "five keys" of forgiveness: awareness, validation, compassion, humility and self-forgiveness. Woven into Nelson's own story and her cultural and intellectual analysis of forgiveness are the often inspiring stories of people who have forgiven (or sought to forgive) both unimaginable crimes and everyday betrayalsAsuch as rape, torture, the murder of children, adultery and the abuse of authorityAand the peace and strength they seem to find. Whether it is entirely in everyone's interest to become a forgiving person is a question Nelson acknowledges, if gingerly and without resolution. She also acknowledges that forgiveness is a complicated, messy, never-ending business, and that victims do not always shine with innocence. Yet in seeking to apply her simple rules of forgiveness to all things significant and insignificant, Nelson sometimes minimizes her message. As with so many self-help books, while the person who is most completely served by the book is probably the writer, most people will recognize at least a little of themselves in this considered and eloquent volume. (June)
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.
From Library Journal
More than a dozen titles have been published in the last year on forgiveness. What does true forgiveness mean, and how does one achieve it? These two titles attempt to answer those questions and more. Each, in fact, goes so far as to claim that forgiveness is important not only for spiritual but also medical reasons (it lowers blood pressure, for example). The Unburdened Heart focuses on Nelson's five-step formula for complete forgiveness: awareness, validation, compassion, humility, and self-forgiveness. The former professional basketball player and sports writer also considers whether to reconcile with the perpetrator or say goodbye and whether one can still forgive if the apology is insincere. At the core of her compelling narrative is her experience of being sexually abused by her high school coach; at the time, she very much believed his story that they were having an adult affair. While researching a previous book, The Stronger Women Get, the More Men Love Football (LJ 5/15/94), she could not get other coaches to comment on abuse, but here she reconnects with her old coach after 20 years to start the forgiving process. Written in straightforward workbook style, Nelson's text ends with three pages of group discussion questions. Ketterman and Hazard, a speaker/ psychiatrist and an author, respectively, write in a more folksy, storytelling style, but their point is no less convincing. Because they take a Christian stance, their book may be especially helpful to religious counselors; the chapter "A Personal Reckoning" poignantly illustrates what forgiveness means. Like Nelson, Ketterman has a deep personal connection to her topic: she had already divorced her successful husband when he called to tell her that he had been arrested and needed her help. They worked through their problems and remarried after he was released from prison. Both of these titles use forceful personal vignettes to show the process of working through events to exoneration. Nelson's book is better arranged for group work, while Ketterman and Hazard's is more amenable to an individual read.DLisa Wise, Broome Cty. P.L., Binghamton, NY
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.
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Robert Willie, South Africa, Alcoholics Anonymous, Bud Welch, Cheri Huber, Linda Biehl, Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Fred Goldman, Kimberly Carter, More Men Love Football, President Clinton, Sister Helen Prejean, The Stronger Women Get, United States, Maureen Kaila Vergara, Mike Tyson, Monica Lewinsky New!
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I was fourteen when Bruce started molesting me. Read the first page Key Phrases - Statistically Improbable Phrases (SIPs): (learn more)
forgiveness process Key Phrases - Capitalized Phrases (CAPs): (learn more)
Robert Willie, South Africa, Alcoholics Anonymous, Bud Welch, Cheri Huber, Linda Biehl, Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Fred Goldman, Kimberly Carter, More Men Love Football, President Clinton, Sister Helen Prejean, The Stronger Women Get, United States, Maureen Kaila Vergara, Mike Tyson, Monica Lewinsky New!
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- Forgiving the Dead Man Walking: Only One Woman Can Tell the Entire Story by Debbie Morris on 5 pages
- Sex In Forbidden Zone: When Men In Power-Thereapists, Doctors, Clergy, Teachers & Others Betray Women's Trust by Peter Rutter on 5 pages
- Learning to Forgive by Doris Donnelly on 4 pages
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions by Alcoholics Anonymous on 4 pages
- Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman on page 130, Back Matter (1), and Back Matter (2)
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