What Men Don't Want Women To Know: The Secrets, The Lies, The Unspoken Truth (Hardcover)

by Smith & Doe Staff (Author) "We know men everywhere will despise us for writing this book..." (more)
Key Phrases: profound newness, psychological loading, does your man, Fantasy Barrier, Men Helping Men, Valentine's Day (more...)

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Amazon.com Review
Only 3.6 percent of men will remain faithful to their women. At least according to the controversial "Smith and Doe," two guys who wish to remain anonymous except for revealing that they work in the motion-picture industry and live in Southern California. A sampling of their "unspoken truths" aimed at turning women into "Smith and Doe-educated women":

--"If a man is given the opportunity to engage in sexual relations with an attractive female, with no fear of getting caught and little risk of transmitted diseases, he will do so. Always. Without fail. There are no exceptions."

--"Man spends his life in one of two basic states: loaded or unloaded."

--"A prostitute is the perfect one-nighter."

--"Men are attracted to beautiful young women.... If you saw your man at the office when you are not present, you would become physically ill."

Also included are detailed guidelines for monitoring your man's financial activities (see third item, above), "surefire methods" for getting your man to confess to cheating (past or present), and a 75-question fidelity test ("Does your man play his answering machine messages in front of you?"). They conclude with a "condensed guide to training your man," a more sexually focused takeoff on the ideas in How to Make Your Man Behave in 21 Days or Less Using the Secrets of Professional Dog Trainers.

From Publishers Weekly
The authors, who, the publisher reveals, work in the motion-picture industry, have assumed pseudonyms for this work, and readers will quickly understand why. This is their chief message: "The only reason your man is with you is because at this moment... he... believes... he simply can't do any better." Their basic conviction, quoting from Wilhelm Reich, is that the male of the species is a sexual animal who seeks "complete and repeated genital gratification." They see him as a gun, either loaded or unloaded according to whether he is hoping to have an orgasm or has just had one; women, they maintain, can trust a man in the latter state, but otherwise they cannot. The authors point out that the real danger zones for a woman are her husband's office, his "business trips" and bachelor parties, about which he can be expected to deny every occurrence if questioned. After presenting a test for fidelity, Smith and Doe offer a few words of advice for women on winning the battle of the sexes. Females who find the content equally frivolous might recall that many a true word is spoken in jest. Yet the generalizations are so sweeping and exaggerated here as to lead many readers to believe that the authors are talking only about themselves.
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 164 pages
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press; 1st edition (June 15, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0312186797
• ISBN-13: 978-0312186791
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.6 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars See all reviews (94 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #375,297 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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18 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Please do not believe this sexist garbage..., August 16, 2001

By A Customer

--"If a man is given the opportunity to engage in sexual relations with an attractive female, with no fear of getting caught and little risk of transmitted diseases, he will do so. Always. Without fail. There are no exceptions."

--"Man spends his life in one of two basic states: loaded or unloaded."

--"A prostitute is the perfect one-nighter."

--"Men are attracted to beautiful young women.... If you saw your man at the office when you are not present, you would become physically ill."

These are all lies. Only the trashiest scum would conform to the stereotype presented in this book. I realize that there are men like this in the world but I can garantee you that all of us men are not like the pathetic scum presented in this book.

22 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Of Course All Men Are Just Like ME..., March 4, 2004

By A Customer

Please speak only for yourselves. All men are not like the dehumanizing creatures in this book. I'm not, and neither are my friends. I have found that a lot of men use the excuse "baby, that's how all men are," or "men are just wired that way," to excuse anything. But it's not true. Some of us are actual human beings, and think and behave that way even when we're alone or at work or on vacation. And no, we're not all controlled by our sex drives. And yes, some of us do love the women we marry, and don't want to be with anyone else, even if offered. How egocentric to believe that just because you're a certain way, that all men are. Return this one, quick.

21 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars True to some extent, so what?, March 2, 2001

By	"jmccrery" (Texas) - See all my reviews

This book was interesting and some of what it said is true. However if every word written in this book was taken literally for every single man on this planet, then all women would be doomed. This book may have been written to open women's eyes to what is really going on, but it was also written with the intent to shock and in many cases take a mild case of the truth to the nth degree. The truth is some men are like that, some are not, and there is everything in between. Also worth mentioning is the point that there are men out there that are like that at SOME POINT IN THEIR LIFE only. There are men out there who like variety and no single woman can hold them even if she is a sex-goddess. There are also other men out there who spend their entire life obsessing about only one woman, and many times that one woman won't give them the time of day. My advice to women is not to look at this book as the secret manual to all men. Chances are if you picked this book of the shelf and if what you read in it bothered you, then there is probably something that bothered you in the first place about your man or your relationship or your self-esteem. Truth is, for most cases ladies, if you have a man in your life chances are he is not oblivous of the fact that there are other beautiful women on this planet. He may fantasize about his co-workers, your friends and every other woman you may or may not be afraid he is fantasizing about. He may lie when he gives you a PG rated version about what happened at that bachelor party. But in 99% of all cases he loves YOU. Most men will not jeopardize their relationship with you and will not cheat. And many will not cheat EVEN if they did not have to worry about being discovered or STDs. Others give in to temptation if and when the opportunity arises, much like you can't resist that piece of chocolate cake when you are on a diet. However they DO suffer a horribly painful loss if they lose you as a result. This book can be viewed as hilarious and funny, or may depress you for days and maybe even make you hate the world. Concentrate on YOUR relationship. It is a totally unique relationship with its own set of good things and bad things. Normally the fact that your man may find other women attractive should not bother you any more than it bothering him that you read romance novels. If it does bother you, either you have a very good reason to worry about it, or you are insecure. And in both cases you will need to address the issue and fast. I don't think you will find the answers in this book.