From Publishers Weekly
Phenomena like postnatal changes and adjustment to motherhood are conspicuously absent from the truckload of information and advice new mothers receive. Figes (Because of Her Sex), mother of two, bravely blazes a trail to challenge the codified construct of make-nice new motherhood. She uses interviews, statistics, historical data and personal experience to explore this difficult, exhilarating and often traumatic transition. Via chapters on "Health After Birth," "Working and the `Good' Mother," "Exhaustion," "Relations with the Father," "Sex and Sensuality" and "Friends and the Outside World," she debunks myths and reassures and commiserates with new mothers. An appendix outlines common health problems. Maintaining that motherhood is the best thing that ever happened to her, Figes describes the radical physical and emotional changes new moms face. Her discussions of sleep deprivation, love for the child, range of severity in postpartum depression, anger at the loss of control in life, common sources of tension between new parents, deepening intimacy with the father and the history of the mother's role will interest and resonate with all mothers of young children. Though largely successful, Figes goes astray when, cutting new moms some slack, she is dismissive and judgmental about modern, child-centered parenting practices (e.g., she states that frequently sharing a bed with your child is a sign of "subtle sexual abuse"). Occasional extreme views, combined with sometimes overreaching historical comparisons and the awkward title, undercut her overall purpose. However, reading with a freshly sharpened eye, new mothers will find much comfort in this informative book.
Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.
From Library Journal
Drawing on her own experience and research as well as extensive interviews, Figes (Because of Her Sex: The Myth of Equality for Women in Britain) focuses on the effects that pregnancy and motherhood have on women. The author believes that new mothers can cope best if they understand the full range of emotions and physical changes that they may encounter. Life After Birth includes chapters on childbirth and subsequent health, working, emotions, exhaustion, and relations with others, including the father, extended family members, and friends. Figes emphasizes that normal reactions cover a broad spectrum and that the mother is not the only woman grappling with feelings and changes that were not expected. This book is unique in its focus on the mother, and many new mothers will feel reassured by Figes's honesty; readers will feel they are hearing from a best friend or older sister. Appendixes and bibliographical notes are included. Recommended for all libraries. Kay Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.
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