Divorcing (Mass Market Paperback)

by Mel Krantzler Ph.D. (Author), Melvin M. Belli Sr. (Author), Christopher Taylor (Author) "I was born in 1907 and grew up in a time when divorce was an unmentionable subject..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly
Lawyer Belli and California psychologist Krantzler are both experienced in counseling people who confront the myriad problems of divorce. In the introduction to this minutely detailed guide, they tell how they themselves overcame the traumas of failed marriages (Belli's three, and the fourtha "footnote"quickly annulled; Krantzler's one) and ultimately re-wed successfully. The authors seemingly cover all aspects of divorce, starting with suggestions for avoiding the breakup, if possible. There follows advice on financial arrangements, protecting children from the hurts and anxieties of separation, arranging custody, dealing with loneliness when suddenly single, etc. Belli and Krantzler emphasize that it is wrong to mistrust or back off from a promising relationship, but they caution readers to guard against possible hazardsphysical or mental abuse, incurable diseases like herpes and AIDScaused by intimacy with a new partner. The book is an excellent resource. 75,000 first printing; first serial to Cosmopolitan; author tour.
Copyright 1988 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal
Co-authored by a well-known therapist and an attorney, and hence covering all the legal and psychological aspects of the topic, this book is required reading for anyone contemplating a divorce. Belli draws on his own life experience as a four-time divorce and a divorce attorney as he guides the reader through the legal intricacies. Advice from therapist Krantzler, drawn from his earlier works on the divorce experience, helps normalize what for many seems a painfully idiosyncratic event. The vignettes of divorces of the rich and famous lend nothing to the rest of the book, but readers needing sound, well-written, and practical advice will find it here. John M. Haynes, Haynes Mediation Assoc., New York
Copyright 1988 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Mass Market Paperback: 434 pages
• Publisher: St. Martin's Paperbacks (February 15, 1992)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0312927444
• ISBN-13: 978-0312927448
• Product Dimensions: 6.8 x 4.2 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5.3 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #767,541 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Absolute MUST read!, July 8, 2001

By A Customer

Hi - This book is an incredibly dead-on helpful resource for anyone comtemplating, going thru or having already been through a divorce. These guys know their stuff. They give excellent advice and counseling and cover things you didn't even realize you actually needed counseling on. I didn't find this book until 5 years after my divorce from a very short term marriage. I didn't think I had any problem or needed counseling, the marriage was a mistake, we corrected that without much ado, signed the papers, paid the fee and it was done. I didn't even have a problem getting an annulment from the Catholic church. Life goes on and I thought I was ok. I'm not sure what made me decide to pick up this book and read it, but I can tell you it helped me deal with the guilt and hurt and fears and feelings of failure, etc. Feelings I really didn't realize I had until they hit on them and it hit me that this information applied to me. And the book gave me good advice and insight for future relationships. 6 years ago I had a HS friend going thru marriage hell. She was dealing with all the emotional stuff I mentioned above, plus outside pressures from friends and family and the community (since they were active in city counsel etc.) - and this looser was a real weasil who'd been divorced before and knew all the tricks to make sure she wouldn't get much, if anything, from him and he would walk away with all sorts of things that her very hard earned money had bought. I remembered this book had gone through preparing a person for all that too, as well as getting good legal counsel etc. and I loaned my book to her. It was a Godsend for her. She not only came out well in the settlement, but was able to keep her sanity and self-confidence and gained some real peace. She walked away from that marriage with very little "baggage" because this book helped her so much. Three short years later she found a wonderful guy, a healthy relationship and finally has the married life and family everyone wishes for. That wasn't just "luck". Just a few months ago, another HS friend was divorced and confided in me he was having a difficult time coping with it all, even though he was ready to find someone new. I recommended this book to him. He recently wrote me that this book helped him with all kinds of things - he was surprised and grateful that I recommended it and that he had the good sense to trust me on that and follow through. He just wished he'd known about it sooner! I bought this book over 15 yrs ago for about $15, and it was good advice then and it's good advice now. It's VERY easy to read, well-written with a good flow to it. It's not laborous reading like a textbook or manual. And at the price it's offered for now - its a HECK of a good deal, and you'll be so glad you did. It might just save you a whole lot of money in divorce expenses/mistakes, and counseling. And it will certainly save you a lot of grief in future relationships because you'll be more of a "well" person going into them instead of a train wreck with baggage and issues. If you're still married and not "yet" going through separation or divorce but seeing that "writing on the wall" PLEASE read this book! [Just don't make things worse by letting your partner know you're reading it. Do it at the office or over at a friend's where your spouse won't be upset you're spending time.] Good luck and good reading.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Divorcing really spells out the process in clear language., August 24, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Divorcing: The Complete Guide for Men and Women (Paperback)

This book puts the divorce process into clear and concise language. You can understand and deal with the emotional, cognitive, legal, custodial, and other issues that you will confront as you move forward. The book also presents a good framework for evaluating your situation and deciding whether or not you are a future divorcee.

This is a "must read" for all people, but especially people who are confronting a separation from their mates.

0 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars This book is good to use for divorce, January 8, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Divorcing: The Complete Guide for Men and Women (Paperback)

this book is inspiring for people who are going through a divorce