Lovetypes: Discover Your Romantic Style And Find Your Soul Mate (Paperback)

by Alexander Avila (Author) "Imagine sneaking into a glitzy costume ball where single men and women primp and prance in the hopes of find Mr. or Ms. Right..." (more)
Key Phrases: dating masquerade, future soul mate, relationship preferences, Social Philosopher, Dutiful Host, Growth Teacher (more...)

Editorial Reviews

Review
"LoveTypes is an absolute must-read for anyone who really wants to find Mr. or Ms. Right." -- --Don Gabor, bestselling author of How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends

"LoveTypes offers a fun, easy-to-use system for finding the love of your life." -- --Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., bestselling author of Are You the One For Me?

"LoveTypes: Discover Your Romantic Style and Find Your Soul Mate is an absolute must-read for anyone who really wants to find Mr. or Ms. Right." -- Don Gabor, bestselling author of How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends

"LoveTypes takes you way past the simplistic 'male-female' model of relationship psychology and introduces you to an in-depth model based on sound research. Alexander Avila has written a rare book that is both fun and practical." -- Gregory J.P. Godek, "the most romantic man in America" and author of the million copy bestseller 1001 Ways to Be Romantic

"Alexander Avila has taken Carl Jung's work to the marketplace of dating and mating. Highly recommended for every man and woman who wants to balance their compatible and not their competitive energy." -- Dr. Pat Allen, bestselling author of Getting to I Do

"Dr. Alexander Avila offers a unique approach to identifying a compatible partner, based on 16 Jungian personality types. It's a fun, easy to use system for narrowing down the field of potential mates and finding the love of your life." -- John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

Product Description

Everyone who has ever been disappointed in Love knows how hard it is to find the "right" person. All too often we fall for people who seem too good to be true...and then discover they are. True romance is a gamble. But now there's a way to greatly reduce the odds.

In LoveTypes, relationship expert Dr. Alexander Avila declares a dating revolution with his groundbreaking LoveType system -- the scientifically proven and effective method for instantly recognizing your true soul mate when you meet him or her. Based on the theory behind the most popular personality test today -- the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator -- and years of extensive research, the remarkable LoveType system is exactly what you need to cut through the dating maze.

By first taking a brief quiz, you determine your unique LoveType profile. From there, the system guides you toward the LoveType best for you and provides specific answers to your most pressing relationship questions:

Which of the 16 LoveTypes is most compatible with me psychologically, emotionally and sexually?

What four questions can I ask to determine instantly if someone is right for me?

Where can I meet my ideal mate?

How can I break the ice naturally and smoothly, even if I'm shy?

What dating strategies will win the heart of my ideal LoveType

and ensure a Long-term relationship?

Lasting love no longer has to be hit or miss with LoveTypes, your complete and indispensable guide to a happy and fulfilling romantic life.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Avon; 1st Avon Trade Paperback edition (February 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0380800144
• ISBN-13: 978-0380800148
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.2 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #432,046 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Best Investment I Ever Made!, May 7, 2000

By	Holly Barrington (Monrovia, CA) - See all my reviews

Alexander Avila's LoveTypes is the single best book I've EVER read in my quests for self-understanding and for meeting the right mate. Charmingly written and drop-dead accurate, it's an immensely practical, easy-to-use system that saved me from marrying the wrong man. What a revelation! Suddently I see where I went wrong, over & over, in my 50 years. Using the myriad insights gleaned from LoveTypes, I can now accurately identify my "best bets" for both friends and romantic partners--in advance--instead of getting carried away by wishful-thinking or trying to fit round pegs into square holes. Dr. Avila's compassionate attitudes also reassured me that as a relatively rare personality [Idealistic Philosopher--INFP], it's NOT my imagination: there aren't alot of us out there! I also read Just Your Type, also excellent, but find that LoveTypes is more condensed, with a terrific format. Instead of using the rather confusing Myers-Briggs 4-letters (ESTJ, ISFP, etc,), Avila identifies the 16 personality types with delightful, easier to use descriptions, such as "The General" [ENTJ]. I used some invaluable practical tips on locating compatible people, with amazing results. As a bonus, reading LoveTypes feels like a big hug!

18 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A VERY unique approach. It makes A LOT of sense!, February 17, 2000

By	Mindguy (SoCal - United States) - See all my reviews

I heard the author in a workshop that he gave and it really whet my appetite to read the book and try out what he suggests.

I have read countless books on dating, trying to figure out what I have been doing wrong, how/why I keeping picking/attracting the wrong partners, why there has been so much resentment, conflict and bitterness in my past relationships, etc.

After I read the book it all became crystal clear to me. I had been considering personality compatibility, but only in a general way. Neither my partners nor I were "bad" people, we were just the "wrong" people for each other.

Dr. Avila's book enables you to "type" yourself, how to quickly size up others for their "type" and my favorite features, WHERE to meet others of your compatible type and HOW to attract and build relationships with them. These techniques apply to BOTH opposite AND same sex friendships. Very targeted, specific information, very rare in dating books.

I realize now that by following the advice in other dating books, I was hanging out in the wrong places to meet MY best type.

His theories sound rock solid both from a psychological and common sense point of view.

I think that his book settles once and for all the opposites attract, but do they stay together debate.

Lastly, I commend Dr. Avila for going beyond the theory, and putting the principles into practice by actually encouraging/helping set up LoveType social groups. In fact, I am going to his book signing tonight, to be followed by mingling and discussion of starting up a social group in the Los Angeles area. I'm REALLY looking forward to what might come of it!

Feel free to contact me with questions or comments .

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Great book for changing your love life, September 3, 2001

By	Jeff Thompson "Sloper Dude" (Minneapolis, MN United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

If you're tired of attracting or being attracted to the wrong people for you, this is a good book to not only show you what you've been doing wrong, but what to look for, and where to find Mr. or Ms. right.

If you haven't been introduced to personality typing, there is much more to understand about this fascinating and often life-changing subject that will be useful to you. I'd start with "Please Understand Me" by Kiersey, and strongly recommend "Survival Games Personalities Play" by Eve Delunas to understand what people from each personality type do when things go bad, and most importantly, what you can do about it.

Getting back to LoveTypes, one minor improvement I wish the author would make is in his "Where to find your mate" areas. I detected a strong preference towards upwardly mobile people. I mean, wine is great, but not everyone is going to find their perfect mate at a wine tasting event. Some of the other personality-type books are better rounded in this area.

I don't want to sound like I'm slamming the book, however; I gave it 4 stars, after all. For those of you who are already committed to (stuck with?) a mate you are feeling incompatible with, please read "Survival Games", noted above. You just might find ways to improve your love life, and even learn to appreciate your partner's strengths.