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Deciding whether or not to become a parent (and if so, when and how) is one of life's biggest decisions. For some people, the choice to have a child is intuitive--something they've always known they would do. Nonetheless, questions arise for them. How can I know if the time is right? What are my real reasons for wanting a child? Are my motivations questionable? For others, the question is whether or not to have a child at all. What if I want to parent and my partner does not? Am I capable of being a good parent? Is my partner? What about money issues? In
The Parenthood Decision: Discovering Whether You Are Ready and Willing to Become a Parent, Beverly Engel, a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor and bestselling author (
The Right to Innocence and
Beyond the Birds and the Bees), takes a look at all the issues potential parents face, posits important questions, and leads readers who are struggling with a variety of dilemmas through compassionate and thoughtful decision-making exercises. Engel realizes that her soul-searching process may lead to the conclusion to wait or remain childless, and she fully supports this option, stating, "You owe it to yourself, your partner if you have one, and especially to your future baby to make your decision based on reality, not fantasy."
--Ericka Lutz
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Emotional, physical, and mental readiness for parenting; willingness to accept permanent lifestyle changes; and emotional ability to provide a nurturing environment are the three major qualities involved in the parenthood decision. Short questionnaires throughout the text help prospective parents assess honestly and in detail whether they are ready, willing, and able to take on parenting. Answering such questions as Why do I want to have a child? Do I have the energy to be a good parent? and What will I give up? is intended to get prospective parents to grasp the qualities needed for successful parenting. For those who must acknowledge, however unwillingly, that they are not prepared for the sacrifices demanded by child rearing, Engel also offers comforting strategies for deciding whether to wait until the time is right or to forgo having children altogether. Her knowing, empathic style further assists prospective parents in deeply exploring personal qualities and concerns.
Kathryn Carpenter
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