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by Benjamin Craib (Author) "This book is drawn from a range of experiences and ideas..." (more)
Key Phrases: effort bargaining, disappointed self, pathological mourning, Anthony Giddens, Christopher Lasch, David Pilgrim (more...)
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Ian Craib brings together the insights of both psychotherapy and sociology to argue that society seems to present new possibilities of living that are in fact illusions. Through the examination of modern theories of death and mourning, contemporary ideas of masculinity, and notions of the self espoused in modern therapies, Craig discusses how we have come to believe that we have rights to aspects of life such as happiness and a fulfilling relationship, and how psychoanalysis also becomes caught up in these illusions, offering ideals which are unrealizable, yet paradoxically reinforcing the conditions which lead people to seek help in the first place.

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  • Paperback: 216 pages
  • Publisher: Routledge; 1 edition (October 18, 1994)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 041509383X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0415093835
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.5 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
  • Amazon.com Sales Rank: #1,269,675 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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4.0 out of 5 stars Book Review, February 20, 2003
By S. A. McPherson (Colchester, UK) - See all my reviews
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In this book, Ian Craib examines the nature of identity in late modern society, using psychoanalytic and sociological perspectives. Acknowledging his own experience of dealing with a terminal illness, he explores such issues as the fear of death, the grieving process, and the disappointments of male identity. Drawing on his in-depth knowledge of psychoanalytic theory, Craib discusses ways of thinking about the self, as separate individuals and in relation to others. While fragmentation, anxiety, conflict and disappointment are virtually unavoidable in today's world, there is a bright side, Craib claims: the ideas and values of psychoanalysis hold the possibility, though in a limited way, of a "liberating, enriching and growth-inspiring process" (p. 57).

Admitting that the current climate for students of Freud is "dangerously conservative" (p. 34), he takes up a position that accepts internal conflict within the individual while not delving too deeply into such aspects as the relationship that men and women have with their own bodies. The book emphasises masculine identity, referring to the work of David Jackson and Robert Bly on masculinity and the men's movement, but dismissing any serious consideration of patriarchy as an ideology or organising system within society. Nevertheless, despite lacking a feminist analysis, many of his insights can be applied equally to the lives of either sex.

Drawing from the work of Melanie Klein, he expands on her notion of disappointment, suggesting that the idea of integration is a paradox: "integration is the acceptance of a process of being unintegrated, of depression, internal conflict and a normal failure to contain these within the boundaries of the personality" (p. 176). For those who see psychotherapy as offering solutions, happiness and satisfaction, Craib explains, the idea of integration may not be attractive. It means putting up with conflict and the bad aspects of relationships and of the self.

Despite Craib's criticisms of psychoanalysis - its structure and some of its ideas, he sees it as being of much value, "a self-governing profession which accepts its own limitations, and which does not try to pathologise whole areas of life, or insist on what it has to offer being essential if life's difficulties are going to be negotiated" (p. 183). The emphasis of psychoanalysis is on the individual, and the experience of the individual is penetrated by the system, including psychotherapy itself - a drawback, Craib argues, but not sufficient reason to reject it. While the ideal of achieving a unified, integrated identity or stable solutions to life dilemmas is unrealistic, he sees the insights of psychotherapy as being invaluable to those who choose this path.

This book also includes a chapter specifically on the organisation of social life, although the emphasis in general is on psychoanalysis with sociological insights, case studies, and anecdotes from the author's own life. This text refers to the paperback edition.

About the author. Ian Craib, psychotherapist, and sociologist at the University of Essex, died December 22, 2002, aged 57.

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4.0 out of 5 stars Book Review, February 20, 2003
By S. A. McPherson (Colchester, UK) - See all my reviews
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In this book, Ian Craib examines the nature of identity in late modern society, using psychoanalytic and sociological perspectives. Acknowledging his own experience of dealing with a terminal illness, he explores such issues as the fear of death, the grieving process, and the disappointments of male identity. Drawing on his in-depth knowledge of psychoanalytic theory, Craib discusses ways of thinking about the self, as separate individuals and in relation to others. While fragmentation, anxiety, conflict and disappointment are virtually unavoidable in today’s world, there is a bright side, Craib claims: the ideas and values of psychoanalysis hold the possibility, though in a limited way, of a “liberating, enriching and growth-inspiring process” (p. 57).

Admitting that the current climate for students of Freud is “dangerously conservative” (p. 34), he takes up a position that accepts internal conflict within the individual while not delving too deeply into such aspects as the relationship that men and women have with their own bodies. The book emphasises masculine identity, referring to the work of David Jackson and Robert Bly on masculinity and the men’s movement, but dismissing any serious consideration of patriarchy as an ideology or organising system within society. Nevertheless, despite lacking a feminist analysis, many of his insights can be applied equally to the lives of either sex.

Drawing from the work of Melanie Klein, he expands on her notion of disappointment, suggesting that the idea of integration is a paradox: “integration is the acceptance of a process of being unintegrated, of depression, internal conflict and a normal failure to contain these within the boundaries of the personality” (p. 176). For those who see psychotherapy as offering solutions, happiness and satisfaction, Craib explains, the idea of integration may not be attractive. It means putting up with conflict and the bad aspects of relationships and of the self.

Despite Craib’s criticisms of psychoanalysis – its structure and some of its ideas, he sees it as being of much value, “a self-governing profession which accepts its own limitations, and which does not try to pathologise whole areas of life, or insist on what it has to offer being essential if life’s difficulties are going to be negotiated” (p. 183). The emphasis of psychoanalysis is on the individual, and the experience of the individual is penetrated by the system, including psychotherapy itself – a drawback, Craib argues, but not sufficient reason to reject it. While the ideal of achieving a unified, integrated identity or stable solutions to life dilemmas is unrealistic, he sees the insights of psychotherapy as being invaluable to those who choose this path.

This book also includes a chapter specifically on the organisation of social life, although the emphasis in general is on psychoanalysis with sociological insights, case studies, and anecdotes from the author’s own life. This text refers to the paperback edition.

About the author. Ian Craib, psychotherapist, and sociologist at the University of Essex, died December 22, 2002, aged 57.

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