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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
The Magic of Fatherhood as a Sole Caregiving Parent, May 18, 2001
I have always been partial to the idea of coupling genres. I like to see sculptures that are imaginatively lit, with music playing in the background. To take a song and turn it into a book was an inspired choice to me. As I read the words and look at the beautiful images, I feel strong emotions that are evoked by hearing the song in my mind. The effect is a lot like seeing a motion picture, or being in an emotion-filled moment with wonderful music resonating through your body. Whether or not you are a single father, this book will move you in beautiful ways.The book builds from a father's reminiscences about what it was like to become a man, a father, and then to take on the sole parenting role after a divorce. Every father will remember having these same emotions, and will be glad to have memories of them reawakened. The book begins with: "I told my parents I wanted to build a castle in the sky." "'Here's a pencil and paper, let's draw the plans,' they replied." The book ends with: "My son told me he wanted to build a castle in the sky." "'Here's a pencil and paper, let's draw the plans,' I replied." The song has many other inspiring lyrics that work well here. Some of my favorites include: "I pledge my life to you." "a little me" "I wanna kiss you all the time." "I try to be a tough dad, but you keep making me laugh . . . ." "It didn't work out with me and your mom . . ./You were conceived in love." "One day some girl's gonna break your heart." "Throughout life people will make you mad . . . /Let God deal with the things they do . . . ." "Always tell the truth, say your prayers/Hold doors, pull out chairs, easy on the swears." Some people may be bothered by the colloquial words and grammar. If the book were not based on a song, that would be a problem. But I found the usages helped with the mood. This is just an ordinary man, with feet of clay, doing his best. If his grammar isn't perfect, that's just part of portraying his character. Some readers may not like the way the rhymes scan. Some rhymes are definitely forced, but others lines flow nicely. If I were to judge the book as poetry, I would definitely grade it down for these problems. But in the context of the musical experience, I found it worked all right. So it is just a missed opportunity to be even better. I found the recollections of what it was like before going to the hospital, the experiences there, and coming home to be especially moving. I hope other authors will take on these important moments of fatherhood and give them their own special interpretation, as well. The illustrations should be singled out for special praise. They create a magical mood that allows your mind to experience the book as both memory and movie while the music plays on. Whether you are black or have some other color skin, you will identify directly with the characters in these illustrations without thinking about what their color is. That is a fine achievement in portraying universal expressions of love. Almost any father would be delighted to have this book as a gift for father's day from a daughter or son. After you finish reading the book, take a moment to reflect on your father or your experiences as a father. If your father is still alive, share with him some of your memories of when it was "just the two of us" when you were growing up. Be inspired by the most precious and optimistic memories you have!
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