Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No: Making Life Right When It Feels All Wrong (Paperback)

~ Herbert Fensterheim Ph.D. (Author), Jean Baer (Author) "When I got married at the advanced age of forty, everyone said, "What a lucky girl you are..." (more)
Key Phrases: assertive difficulties, thought stoppage, variant behavior, Assertiveness Training, New York, Andrew Salter (more...)

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Product Description

Yes, you can learn to say what you mean and mean  what you say. This best-selling guide has already  transformed thousands of lives--and can change  your as well. The authors' pioneering Assertiveness  Training Technique can help you gain recognition  and promotion on the job, renew your marriage, put  more zing in your sex life, deal with your  children more effectively, and make new friends. Change  your life as you learn how  to:

Target your own assertiveness difficulties and set  your own goals.

Follow your  progress with a workshop that gives you step-by-step  reinforcement.

Visualize and  actualize through exercises designed to perfect new  behavior patterns.

Develop  self-control that comes from within.

Change  habits that keep you from getting what you want in  every area of your life.

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Yes, you can learn to say what you mean and mean what you say. This best-selling guide has already transformed thousands of lives--and can change your as well. The authors' pioneering Assertiveness Training Technique can help you gain recognition and promotion on the job, renew your marriage, put more zing in your sex life, deal with your children more effectively, and make new friends. Change your life as you learn how to:

Target your own assertiveness difficulties and set your own goals.

Follow your progress with a workshop that gives you step-by-step reinforcement.

Visualize and actualize through exercises designed to perfect new behavior patterns.

Develop self-control that comes from within.

Change habits that keep you from getting what you want in every area of your life.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Dell; 4th THUS edition (October 15, 1975)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0440154138
• ISBN-13: 978-0440154136
• Product Dimensions: 6.7 x 4.1 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #419,747 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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18 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Not much help, August 11, 2001

By A Customer

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I was expecting a book that would simply help someone who couldn't say no. There were too many case histories and it lost me along the way. It didn't hold my attention.

14 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A happy way to live your life - assertive training, December 24, 1998

By A Customer

I read this book more than 10 years go. I enjoyed reading it. I can still remember the exitment that I fell. We live for ourselves. The book teaches us that what we deserve and what we are not responsible for. As I was grown up in a Chinses society, where the recognition of individual rights was not a tradition. This book help me much in strengthen my self recognition in my life.

7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Very useful - for standing up for yourself, in a daily life, December 18, 2001

By	Ramesh (Nashua, NH United States) - See all my reviews

I found this book, very useful. To some extent, it helped me to
shape my character. I feel stronger now, while dealing with tricky issues, both at work and with friends. Try to finish the whole book and be patient. You should try to use some of the techniques in real life, to see any change. You will have a chance to understand that being humble, all the times, doesn't necessarily make you are a nice person. You should respect yourself first, before expecting some one would respect you.