Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking (Paperback)

by Patricia Love (Author), Jo Robinson (Author) "It was the beginning of a candid two-hour discussion about sex..." (more)
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Written by Dr. Love, a sex therapist with an aptronym if ever there was one, Hot Monogamy is no contradiction in terms. Comedian Dave Barry may joke about his guide to "marriage and/or sex," but Dr. Love's book proves that becoming sensually and "sexually fluent" is a skill that can send flames soaring, no matter how long you've been a couple or how humdrum your sex life has become.

Hot Monogamy includes a nine-step program that starts with a self-quiz for each partner for determining "sexual style." This helps pinpoint which areas need to be worked on, such as resolving differences in desire--one of the most common problems among long-term couples. Communication is a big topic, but another painless quiz helps reveal romantic expectations both in and out of bed to help clarify exactly where overlooked problems may be festering.

Then comes technique. The chapter "Variety: How to Have More Fun in Bed" may prove the most useful, with discussions of sex toys, fantasy, sex games, and other forms of experimentation. Dr. Love is a firm believer in the G spot, and clearly explains how to make maximum fireworks with it. The book also includes contact information for sexual products that can be sent to you confidentially, as well as guidelines and resources for seeing a sex therapist.

From Publishers Weekly
ISBN 0-452-27366-8. Family therapist Love outlines a program designed to maintain intimacy and passion in long-term relationships.
Copyright 1994 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 320 pages
• Publisher: Plume (January 1, 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0452273668
• ISBN-13: 978-0452273665
• Product Dimensions: 7.7 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #68,221 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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73 of 73 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars excellent book for stimulating conversation in couples, March 3, 1999

By	Joseph Horak (Grand Rapids, MI) - See all my reviews

This book is written in a format that allows couples to engage in conversations that they would never come to alone. Hot Monogamy addresses the issues of sexuality and intimacy in a thoughtful and respectful manner. I highly recommend this book for my clients and they continue to find it extremely helpful. They especially like the questions at the end of each chapter for conversation. It stimulates some very intimate and important discussion about the inner most thoughts we have.

53 of 54 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars I wouldn't remain faithful to this book., December 13, 1998

By	Treebyleaf McCurdy (Seattle, WA) - See all my reviews

Hot Monogamy has some wonderful touching exercises, and very good examinations of how relationships work, especially where communication goes wrong and how it can go right. Unfortunately, the book's sexual content is sadly biased by cultural myth and mass-assumptions. This would be a nice companion for a book with better sexual content, such as Lonnie Barbach's For Each Other or the New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, but it shouldn't stand alone.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Hot manogamy, February 8, 2008

By	Denise (Ventura, CA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking (Paperback)

As an MFT Intern, dealing with conflict in the bedroom is an area that any therapist dealing with couples should be comfortable discussing. This book gives great guidance on what to say, how to approach it and gives the therapist numerous self-reports (questions could be used to guide discussion in sessions)and homework suggestions to acheive a more fullfilling intimate life. It has just as much to improve communication as technique.