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Explore the Passionate Power of Words
A whispered term of endearment, a flirtatious phrase, a secret suggestion, a cry of passion--words can be the most intimate gift that lovers share. This guide to their sensual power invites us to explore the erotic potential in verbal communication, as sexuality counselor and seminar leader Bonnie Gabriel shows how words can arouse desire, reveal and fulfill fantasies, and infuse lovemaking with romance and fire.
Based on Gabriel's popular workshops, this frankly provocative and warmly encouraging book is designed for both singles and couples: to help singles navigate the the shoals of attraction, budding intimacy, and safe sex; and to inspire couples to chrage longtime romances with new creative expressions of love and ardor through explicit examples, sample fantasy scripts, "naughty" games, and techniques for nurturing and sexual healing. And for those who feel too shy or fearful to express passions and yearnings, Gabriel offers guidance, support, and inspiration to help them give full voice to their desires.
Discover how words can deepen intimacy, heighten sensuality, intensify eroticism, and fulfill your every fantasy when you master The Fine Art of Erotic Talk.
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
1
EROTIC TALK:
The Magic of Making Love with Words
". . . with sweetness through mine ear,
Dissolve me into ecstasies"
John Milton
Words are wonderful aphrodisiacs! With words, you can stimulate the pleasure centers in your partner's mind so they send shivers of sensual delight through his entire body. With words, you can help her become more relaxed and receptive to your touch. With words, you can ignite his erotic imagination or lift her to the heights of unbridled passion. And with words, you can melt the barriers that may be keeping you and your lover from experiencing the profound joy of a sacred sexual union.
Until very recently, most "experts" on the art of making love have ignored, underplayed or underestimated the importance of words and verbal communication in creating a fulfilling sex life. Books abound on physical techniques for stimulating your lover, positions for experiencing increased passion and methods for extending the duration of your orgasms. Other works explain how to communicate with your partner about the difficulties and frustrations you are having in your sexual relationship. But where are the instructional guides that show you how to use the language of love to arouse, delight and nourish your partner and bring enriching new dimensions to your sex lives? Why has the physical act of making love been given so much more attention than the verbal?
The truth is that writers of sex manuals find it easier to focus on improving sexual performance than on expressing erotic feelings for the same reasons that many lovers find it easier to make love silently than to put their sensual experiences into words. You see, sexual bonding, whether we're writing about it or experiencing it directly, opens us to our deepest longings for connection, to the awareness that we are truly interdependent and therefore vulnerable to each other. Words make tangible the unspoken ache in our bodies and yearning in our hearts.
When you tell your lover "I need your touch" or "I want you so much," you are allowing yourself to be emotionally exposed. This exposure gives your partner the power to hurt you, which we all fear, but it also is the basis for true intimacy, and profound connection with another human being. Words can become a bridge across which the loving energy in your body, heart and soul can travel. They can become the keys that can unlock the hidden delights of your secret sexual fantasies. Your words and the sound of your voice can become the rhythms that accompany your sexual dance and help your passionate connection to thrive when you are apart. Through the language of love, you can reveal the many delicious dimensions of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual loving.
REDEFINING EROTIC TALK
Many people think of "erotic talk" as being synonymous with "talking dirty." Certainly, well-timed explicit sexual conversation can be a wonderful way of celebrating the sheer joy of intimate connection. It can add an earthy, lusty element to lovemaking and convey to your partner the intensity of your physical passion. It is one aspect of what I've termed the "fine art" of erotic talk.
But erotic talk is also a form of communication you can use in those moments when the quality of your desire is more delicate or playful or tender, or when you're feeling a deep appreciation for the pleasure your mate is bringing into your life. It can be an imaginative medium that lets you share a sexy fantasy or create dialogue for its enactment with your lover. It can convey your awe of the depth of emotional or spiritual connection that you share with your lover.
When you begin to notice the subtlety and variety of mood states that interplay with your sheer physical desire, emotions that sometimes yearn for verbal expression even more than simple graphic accounts of your lust, you can understand why "talking dirty" is such a limited concept when applied to erotic talk. Similarly, when you are listening to your lover express his passion for you, the kinds of words and phrases that excite you can be equally distinctive and varied. A simple acknowledgment by your mate of how attractive or special or sexy you are might evoke a sudden rush of sensual energy throughout your body. Or perhaps a love song sung softly in your ear while the two of you are dancing sends a delicious thrill up your spine.
In fact, right now, try a little experiment: Close your eyes for a moment and imagine that your beloved, or someone to whom you're very attracted, is calling out your name. First imagine that there is an undertone of "You're very precious to me" in his or her voice. Notice how the uttering of your name in this context makes you feel. Perhaps a warm glow begins to surround the area around your heart. Or maybe you feel a tingle of excitement running up the back of your neck. Now, imagine that the message your lover is conveying with the repeated calling of your name is "I want you now." What feelings are being generated in your body? Is there a rush of energy to your lower torso, or a shudder of delight that courses through your entire being? Enjoy the sensations.
Next, picture yourself at a party in deep conversation with someone to whom you're very attracted. Suddenly this fascinating person says to you. "You know, I love the way you're looking at me right now." Or perhaps you're on the dance floor, moving to your favorite music, when your partner whispers in you ear, "Honey, I really enjoy the way you feel in my arms." Or maybe you're just kissing goodnight after a first date and you hear, "Mmmm, your lips taste so good to me." Again, notice the sensations such words generate in your body and enjoy them.
All of the examples above are forms of erotic talk, which this book defines as any verbal or vocal expression that generated or intensifies passion. It can be used in the very first encounter with a perspective lover to create a romantic mood, to build intimacy between lovers or to enhance the sensual bond between established couples.
Erotic talk can be used to gather information on how to arouse and satisfy your lover and to give your partner guidance in the most effective ways of pleasing you. It can provide you with a greater variety of ways to enjoy safe sex. It can even transform the usually awkward, cumbersome period of preparing for safe lovemaking into moments of excitement and fun. And erotic talk can be used as a form of lovemaking in and of itself. When you must be apart from your partner for long periods of time, sexy communications via the phone, the mail or the Internet can keep the romantic and sexual sparks alive over the miles.
When we make love, we connect not only with our bodies but with our minds, hearts and spirits as well. We may be able to become aroused and feel sexually nourished from our lover's touch and physical caresses, but we need verbal caresses to nourish our intellectual, emotional and spiritual selves. As we reach into each other's hearts and souls with our words of love and desire, we can create a profound, passionate bond that can last a lifetime.
MAKING EROTIC TALK A NATURAL PART
OF YOUR DAILY LIFE
You do not have to wait until you and your partner are in bed, getting ready to make love, to start practicing erotic talk. You can begin to incorporate romantic and sensual words into your everyday routine. For instance, Jed and Darlene,* a couple who attended my erotic-talk seminars and diligently practice what they learned, now make erotic talk a significant part of their daily lives.
"We begin every morning with a statement about how much we enjoy loving or sleeping next to each other," says Jed. "I might tell Darlene, 'I love the way you smell' or 'It feels so good to hold you in my arms like this.' She might say to me something like 'I still feel the wonderful sensations from our lovemaking last night' or simply 'Thank you for making me feel so good.'"
Darlene continues, "Since Jed leaves for work before I do, I like to send him off with one of Bonnie's 'take-out fantasy specials.' I might tell him, 'During your coffee break, honey, just sit back at your desk, relax and imagine that I'm standing behind you gently massaging the back of your neck. Then I begin to run my fingers through your hair as I plant little kisses behind your ear. Then I reach around and slowly unbutton your shirt one button at a time. You can take the rest of the fantasy as far as time will allow, knowing you can complete or repeat it with me in person when you come home tonight.'"
Jed laughs. "I really look forward to my coffee breaks! She used to send me off with take-out fantasies about playing sexy games with me while hiding under the conference table during my staff meetings. But I found that such thoughts really interfered with my ability to concentrate on the tasks at hand and made it embarrassing for me to stand up after the meetings were over! So now she gives me fantasies I can focus on when I'm alone.
"Sometimes, during lunchtime, I'll call up Darlene at work. If she's not busy, I'll use another of Bonnie's special techniques called 'preview of coming attractions.' I'll begin to describe to Darlene how I'm planning to pleasure her when we're in bed that night. If she is too busy to take the call or to listen to my erotic inspirations, I tell her, 'I'm leaving a preview of coming at
Explore the Passionate Power of Words
A whispered term of endearment, a flirtatious phrase, a secret suggestion, a cry of passion--words can be the most intimate gift that lovers share. This guide to their sensual power invites us to explore the erotic potential in verbal communication, as sexuality counselor and seminar leader Bonnie Gabriel shows how words can arouse desire, reveal and fulfill fantasies, and infuse lovemaking with romance and fire.
Based on Gabriel's popular workshops, this frankly provocative and warmly encouraging book is designed for both singles and couples: to help singles navigate the the shoals of attraction, budding intimacy, and safe sex; and to inspire couples to chrage longtime romances with new creative expressions of love and ardor through explicit examples, sample fantasy scripts, "naughty" games, and techniques for nurturing and sexual healing. And for those who feel too shy or fearful to express passions and yearnings, Gabriel offers guidance, support, and inspiration to help them give full voice to their desires.
Discover how words can deepen intimacy, heighten sensuality, intensify eroticism, and fulfill your every fantasy when you master The Fine Art of Erotic Talk.
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
1
EROTIC TALK:
The Magic of Making Love with Words
". . . with sweetness through mine ear,
Dissolve me into ecstasies"
John Milton
Words are wonderful aphrodisiacs! With words, you can stimulate the pleasure centers in your partner's mind so they send shivers of sensual delight through his entire body. With words, you can help her become more relaxed and receptive to your touch. With words, you can ignite his erotic imagination or lift her to the heights of unbridled passion. And with words, you can melt the barriers that may be keeping you and your lover from experiencing the profound joy of a sacred sexual union.
Until very recently, most "experts" on the art of making love have ignored, underplayed or underestimated the importance of words and verbal communication in creating a fulfilling sex life. Books abound on physical techniques for stimulating your lover, positions for experiencing increased passion and methods for extending the duration of your orgasms. Other works explain how to communicate with your partner about the difficulties and frustrations you are having in your sexual relationship. But where are the instructional guides that show you how to use the language of love to arouse, delight and nourish your partner and bring enriching new dimensions to your sex lives? Why has the physical act of making love been given so much more attention than the verbal?
The truth is that writers of sex manuals find it easier to focus on improving sexual performance than on expressing erotic feelings for the same reasons that many lovers find it easier to make love silently than to put their sensual experiences into words. You see, sexual bonding, whether we're writing about it or experiencing it directly, opens us to our deepest longings for connection, to the awareness that we are truly interdependent and therefore vulnerable to each other. Words make tangible the unspoken ache in our bodies and yearning in our hearts.
When you tell your lover "I need your touch" or "I want you so much," you are allowing yourself to be emotionally exposed. This exposure gives your partner the power to hurt you, which we all fear, but it also is the basis for true intimacy, and profound connection with another human being. Words can become a bridge across which the loving energy in your body, heart and soul can travel. They can become the keys that can unlock the hidden delights of your secret sexual fantasies. Your words and the sound of your voice can become the rhythms that accompany your sexual dance and help your passionate connection to thrive when you are apart. Through the language of love, you can reveal the many delicious dimensions of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual loving.
REDEFINING EROTIC TALK
Many people think of "erotic talk" as being synonymous with "talking dirty." Certainly, well-timed explicit sexual conversation can be a wonderful way of celebrating the sheer joy of intimate connection. It can add an earthy, lusty element to lovemaking and convey to your partner the intensity of your physical passion. It is one aspect of what I've termed the "fine art" of erotic talk.
But erotic talk is also a form of communication you can use in those moments when the quality of your desire is more delicate or playful or tender, or when you're feeling a deep appreciation for the pleasure your mate is bringing into your life. It can be an imaginative medium that lets you share a sexy fantasy or create dialogue for its enactment with your lover. It can convey your awe of the depth of emotional or spiritual connection that you share with your lover.
When you begin to notice the subtlety and variety of mood states that interplay with your sheer physical desire, emotions that sometimes yearn for verbal expression even more than simple graphic accounts of your lust, you can understand why "talking dirty" is such a limited concept when applied to erotic talk. Similarly, when you are listening to your lover express his passion for you, the kinds of words and phrases that excite you can be equally distinctive and varied. A simple acknowledgment by your mate of how attractive or special or sexy you are might evoke a sudden rush of sensual energy throughout your body. Or perhaps a love song sung softly in your ear while the two of you are dancing sends a delicious thrill up your spine.
In fact, right now, try a little experiment: Close your eyes for a moment and imagine that your beloved, or someone to whom you're very attracted, is calling out your name. First imagine that there is an undertone of "You're very precious to me" in his or her voice. Notice how the uttering of your name in this context makes you feel. Perhaps a warm glow begins to surround the area around your heart. Or maybe you feel a tingle of excitement running up the back of your neck. Now, imagine that the message your lover is conveying with the repeated calling of your name is "I want you now." What feelings are being generated in your body? Is there a rush of energy to your lower torso, or a shudder of delight that courses through your entire being? Enjoy the sensations.
Next, picture yourself at a party in deep conversation with someone to whom you're very attracted. Suddenly this fascinating person says to you. "You know, I love the way you're looking at me right now." Or perhaps you're on the dance floor, moving to your favorite music, when your partner whispers in you ear, "Honey, I really enjoy the way you feel in my arms." Or maybe you're just kissing goodnight after a first date and you hear, "Mmmm, your lips taste so good to me." Again, notice the sensations such words generate in your body and enjoy them.
All of the examples above are forms of erotic talk, which this book defines as any verbal or vocal expression that generated or intensifies passion. It can be used in the very first encounter with a perspective lover to create a romantic mood, to build intimacy between lovers or to enhance the sensual bond between established couples.
Erotic talk can be used to gather information on how to arouse and satisfy your lover and to give your partner guidance in the most effective ways of pleasing you. It can provide you with a greater variety of ways to enjoy safe sex. It can even transform the usually awkward, cumbersome period of preparing for safe lovemaking into moments of excitement and fun. And erotic talk can be used as a form of lovemaking in and of itself. When you must be apart from your partner for long periods of time, sexy communications via the phone, the mail or the Internet can keep the romantic and sexual sparks alive over the miles.
When we make love, we connect not only with our bodies but with our minds, hearts and spirits as well. We may be able to become aroused and feel sexually nourished from our lover's touch and physical caresses, but we need verbal caresses to nourish our intellectual, emotional and spiritual selves. As we reach into each other's hearts and souls with our words of love and desire, we can create a profound, passionate bond that can last a lifetime.
MAKING EROTIC TALK A NATURAL PART
OF YOUR DAILY LIFE
You do not have to wait until you and your partner are in bed, getting ready to make love, to start practicing erotic talk. You can begin to incorporate romantic and sensual words into your everyday routine. For instance, Jed and Darlene,* a couple who attended my erotic-talk seminars and diligently practice what they learned, now make erotic talk a significant part of their daily lives.
"We begin every morning with a statement about how much we enjoy loving or sleeping next to each other," says Jed. "I might tell Darlene, 'I love the way you smell' or 'It feels so good to hold you in my arms like this.' She might say to me something like 'I still feel the wonderful sensations from our lovemaking last night' or simply 'Thank you for making me feel so good.'"
Darlene continues, "Since Jed leaves for work before I do, I like to send him off with one of Bonnie's 'take-out fantasy specials.' I might tell him, 'During your coffee break, honey, just sit back at your desk, relax and imagine that I'm standing behind you gently massaging the back of your neck. Then I begin to run my fingers through your hair as I plant little kisses behind your ear. Then I reach around and slowly unbutton your shirt one button at a time. You can take the rest of the fantasy as far as time will allow, knowing you can complete or repeat it with me in person when you come home tonight.'"
Jed laughs. "I really look forward to my coffee breaks! She used to send me off with take-out fantasies about playing sexy games with me while hiding under the conference table during my staff meetings. But I found that such thoughts really interfered with my ability to concentrate on the tasks at hand and made it embarrassing for me to stand up after the meetings were over! So now she gives me fantasies I can focus on when I'm alone.
"Sometimes, during lunchtime, I'll call up Darlene at work. If she's not busy, I'll use another of Bonnie's special techniques called 'preview of coming attractions.' I'll begin to describe to Darlene how I'm planning to pleasure her when we're in bed that night. If she is too busy to take the call or to listen to my erotic inspirations, I tell her, 'I'm leaving a preview of coming at