What to Expect When You're Not Expecting: Infertility: What You Needed to Know... But No One Told You (Paperback)

by Ty Canady (Author)

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Product Description
After years of infertility, Ty Canady has turned her wallowing pain into a weathering passion. She openly explains in great detail how her circumstances consumed her and how her life has new meaning following this adversity. More than just an outpour of experiences, this book provides a forum for self-discovery. Serving as a step-by-step journal, readers are encouraged to reflect on their own feelings and experiences throughout their journey as a means of positive progression. This book will undoubtedly make a difference in the lives of people dealing with infertility with eye-opening experiences that bring about a deeper and different understanding of this difficulty and how it can be constructive, not destructive, in their lives. What to Expect, When YouÂ’re NOT Expecting lends a whole new perspective on life and adversities that arise. Whether youÂ’re an infertile woman/man, couple, or simply a supportive friend and/or family member, this book provides real insight that brings about awareness and added sensitivity to this growing phenomena. This book addresses REAL life issues you may experience, that most infertility books do not tell you and do not equip you on how to deal with the difficulty of infertility. Ty Canady reveals to you very personal and private experiences that she faced in an effort to help you through this difficult time as well as how to use the power of adversity to enhance your life and the lives of others. After reading What to Expect When YouÂ’re NOT Expecting, you will undoubtedly be a changed personÂ…forever.

Product Details

• Paperback: 144 pages
• Publisher: iUniverse (August 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0595290590
• ISBN-13: 978-0595290598
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 5.8 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.7 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars See all reviews (22 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #1,407,184 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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38 of 40 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Not What You're Expecting!, July 18, 2004

By A Customer

The purpose of this book can be summed up in Ty Canady's Declaration on p. 105 where she urges infertile women to make a commitment to "use" their infertility to further God's kingdom: "I declare to use infertility as a means to bring non-believers to Christ, to assist others in need of increasing their faith, as well as teach all nations of the majesty, dominion, and power of the Almighty."

While this is well and fine for the author -- the end result was problematic for me on several levels. First, although I am a Christian myself, I found this book not very helpful in advancing my own faith or understanding of God's will. The author provides some helpful reflective exercises and a nice list of inspirational bible verses. She is also very honest in discussing her own pain related to infertility. That said, however, the target audience appears to be someone very new to the faith, or the non-Christian. There is not a lot of depth or "meat" for someone who already believes. Furthermore, I take issue, theologically, with some of the aspects of spiritual warfare advocated in these pages.

Second, the book was not at all helpful in understanding fertility. There are no insights regarding treatments, causes, or outcomes. The list of "resources" at the back is cursory at best.

Third, the book is replete with typos and grammatical errors. Was this book self-published?

Finally, I suspect that the author engaged in sleight of hand, or even false advertising. There is nothing on the front cover or even on the back-of-the-book summary to indicate that this book is an evangelical tool or guide to spiritual warfare. I think this is purposeful, so that women searching for insights and answers regarding fertility will buy this book -- and SURPRISE! get an altar call instead. I think it's fine that the author wants to make the best of her own situation, to share what she's learned, and even to use her own problems as a way to reach others. I'm not against all forms of evangelism. I do think, however, that when people are making purchases online, a certain amount of truth in advertising is called for, especially when one is making truth claims about the Lord of the Universe.

Ultimately, the book was more annoying than helpful. And that's too bad because the title was so promising (not to mention clever).

31 of 34 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Misleading Book Description!, October 16, 2003

By A Customer

The book description belies the content of the book. There is nothing about Christianity in the book description, but this book is all about dedicating your life to Jesus, with prayers in Jesus' name. As a non-Christian, I am extremely annoyed that I had to buy the book before I found out that it was not only not relevant to me, but contrary to my religious beliefs.

If you *really* want to find out about "What to Expect When You're Not Expecting," check out something like "Experiencing Infertility."

18 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars What not to expect from this book., January 5, 2004

By	princesshannon2002 "princesshannon2002" (East Texas) - See all my reviews

Please don't buy this book looking for a comprehensive book on infertility with Christian overtones. This book really should be listed only under the sprituality or inspiration section. It has no realistic information about infertility. While I empathize with Mrs. Canady's experiences, having had my own, I did not find comfort in her words. Some people, however, may find her comforting as long as they know the book does not give you scientific or medical answers.