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If you have low self-confidence, it's difficult to imagine being self-assured. Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz knows this firsthand. She was 5'9" at age 11--taller than the other children and the teachers. She was date-raped in college, stalked, abused in relationships, and sexually harassed at work as a young adult. She was too embarrassed to tell anyone about any of this and assumed it was her fault. She kept trying to be "nicer"--which exacerbated the problems and her lack of confidence. As a married woman and mother, she put everyone else first--always.
Now a powerful, confident, and self-actualized woman, Shaevitz presents the steps you can take to empower yourself and create self-confidence. There's a ton of helpful material here: quotes, concepts, strategies, and questionnaires, all aimed at helping you figure out what you really want from life (work, home, relationships) and how to create the confidence to get yourself there. A nice touch at the end of each chapter is "the Break": a tip for some nice things you can do for yourself, like new flavors of tea, uplifting music, refreshing activities, relaxation alternatives, and book recommendations. This book will help you become a person
who has a strong sense of herself, who takes good care of herself, who solves her own problems, who competently handles life's challenges, who chooses to spend time with loving, supportive people, who reads and is well educated, who loves her work and yet takes time for herself.
--Joan Price
From Publishers Weekly
Unlike self-esteem, confidence can be cultivated by carefully defining one's identity, likes and dislikes; learning to focus and manage time; eliminating stress; learning to be assertive; and developing trust in one's instincts, according to Shaevitz. A therapist in Los Angeles associated with Stanford's Institute for Research on Women and Gender, she points to her own development as a case study. Her advice on developing confidence is thorough if unoriginal; in an effort to be entertaining, she also includes "Tea Breaks" at the end of each chapter, which contain a recipe, jokes or music suggestions. The appendixes on depression and abuse and her bibliography are quite solid. However well-researched and well-meaning the book may be, its somewhat staid view of women's concerns and its programmatic approach make it a cousin to an earlier generation of self-help books. Shaevitz studiedAand draws fromApsychological research and self-help literature from such highly respected sources as Martin Seligman, Herbert Benson, Harriet Lerner, Ken Pelletier and David Burns. The sections on improving time management and assertiveness and the variety of quizzes, how-to exercises and self-assessments aimed at clarifying identity are particularly well done. In its entirety, however, the book is behind the times and too long. Agent, Sandra Dijkstra. (Nov.)
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