Friends, Lovers, and Soulmates: A Guide to Better Relationships Between Black Men and Women (Paperback)

~ Dr. Darlene Hopson (Author) "Soul mates have a special place in the lives of Black people in contemporary American society because they allow us to shed the burdens we..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Drawing on their own eight-year marriage, the psychotherapist authors offer what they claim is the first self-help guide to African American relationships, complete with skill-building exercises. With candor and insight, they discuss the fear of intimacy that can plague black men and women, aggravated by problems of ethnic--and, for women, gender--identity. The Hopsons discuss the qualities that African Americans purportedly seek in an ideal mate, but they caution that developing a sense of one's own identity and self-esteem are the first steps in finding that person. An Afrocentric view of the world with its pride in black culture can serve as a source of inspiration, racial identity and empowerment, stress the authors. They also cite communication as the key to dealing successfully in a relationship with issues like money, family, infidelity and spirituality.
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Review

Alvin F. Poussaint, M.D. Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, Department of Psychiatry This book provides a sound, positive approach, containing specific guidelines, on how Black men and Black women can build stronger and happier partnerships. I recommend this volume to Black couples seeking to improve their relationships. -- Review

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Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Fireside (February 1, 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0671505610
• ISBN-13: 978-0671505615
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #386,590 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Leave your Ego behind when you read this book....., November 2, 2000

By	Edward Saunders Jr. "hunnybeared" (Nashville, TN USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I say that because in reading and understanding the husband/wife authors, you will become humble and start looking for opportunities to become more of a soulmate to your lover or friend. I agree that a person can indeed become jaded or exasperated with the "games" that men and women play on each other! Sometimes a person wonders how did their parents or grandparents ever get together! This book was one of the FIRST of the truly HELPFUL books in the Iyanla Vanzant, Maya Angelou, Dr. Ron Elmore tradition! This one has the benefit of a very intuitive and intelligent husband and wife team aiding you in the process ! A very good investment. May the reading and applying of the information bring about a healing and lifetime love for you! Peace -ed-

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars All African American Couples Should Own!, March 4, 2003

By A Customer

This book is one that "ALL" African American couples should own. My professor used it as the main text in his class and it not only helps you understand yourself but your mate as well. It also gives you insight on why we behave in the manner in which we do, and provides exercises to help you sustain your relationships. The authors are African American Husband and Wife Psychologist who also practice what they've written.

5.0 out of 5 stars Perfect for anyone in a relationship, June 26, 2009

By	R. S. Jackson "Professor R S Jackson" (Oakland,CA USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This was a great read. Very helpful and enlightening as it opens your eyes to your own relationships. It is a great tool for all to read.