Boundaries (Fireside/Parkside Recovery Book) (Paperback)

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Are Your Boundaries Being Violated?

Boundaries separate us from others physically and emotionally. In fact, they are essential for our mental and physical health as well as for developing healthy relationships. Yet every day, people's boundaries are violated by friends, family, or coworkers. Despite the importance of personal boundaries many people are unaware of how or when these very important lines are crossed.

Which of the following are boundary violations?
Esther tells Betty a secret Mary told her.
Your therapist invites you to go for coffee.
Your boss wants to know the details of your personal life.
Your boss asks you if you'd like a hug.
Mom tells little Debbie about her troubles with Dad.
Your new neighbor pats you on the bottom as he turns away.
Your mother makes a comment about your being overweight.

All but one of the above incidents violate boundaries (your boss asks you if you'd like a hug). In Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, Anne Katherine explains what healthy boundaries are, how to recognize if your personal boundaries are being violated, and what you can do to protect yourself.

For anyone who has walked away from a conversation, a meeting, or a visit with others feeling violated and not understanding why, this is a book that can help.

About the Author

Anne Katherine, M.A., C.M.H.C., C.E.D.T., is a lecturer, counselor, and therapist, and the author of Anatomy of a Food Addiction. Her practice with Associated Recovery Therapists is in Seattle, Washington, where she leads food-addiction recover groups and therapy for recovering individuals. She lives in Snohomish, Washington.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 144 pages
• Publisher: Fireside; 1 edition (November 9, 1993)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0671791931
• ISBN-13: 978-0671791933
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.3 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (32 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #99,558 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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59 of 61 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must For Anyone Who Wishes To Learn About Boundaries!, June 5, 2000

By	Chasmodai "Chasmodai" - See all my reviews

Excellent for anyone who is trying to get a handle on what interpersonal boundaries are and how they work.

The concept of interpersonal boundaries can be hard to grasp, but Anne Katherine's book makes it easy, even for a layperson. Clear and concise, this book can be read on a single afternoon, but keep you thinking for days.

Including exercises designed to help increase awareness of boundaries, and life stories that illustrate how boundary dysfunction occurs, the book paints a clear picture of boundaries, enmeshment, and triangulation.

I recommend this book to anyone who wants to be a good parent, have a successful marriage, resolve childhood and current issues, or even manage a well functioning workplace with good employee relations.

36 of 37 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book, and more*!, November 11, 2000

By A Customer

If an interaction feels icky and you don't know why, perhaps this book can explain things.

We can't control how others treat us, but this book shows us how to tell them, in a positive and productive manner how we feel about being treated poorly.

This book is also an eye-opener for those who may not even be aware that their boundaries are being violated. The author illustrates many types of boundaries and how they can be respected (or disrespected).

By following the advice in this book, you will improve your interactions with others.

*Included in this book is a free jerk filter. It does an excellent job of weeding out those who choose to react badly when you set your boundaries.

31 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A must read for those interested in personal relationships., October 4, 1998

By A Customer

This is an excellent book to help in the understanding of what consitiutes a boundary in interpersonal relationships with family, friends and co-workers. If everyone recognized boundaries then there would be little need for therapists and counselors. Sometimes a boundary exists where it isn't readily recognizable and that's where this book comes in very handy when working with my clients. It's written in relatively "jargon free" simple style so one can concentrate on the content of the subject matter, not the vocabulary of the author. For those interested in personal growth, this is a winner!