Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again (Paperback)

~ (Author) "ANN WAS THOROUGHLY CONVINCED THAT HER MARRIAGE OF FIFteen years was over..." (more)
Key Phrases: brief therapists, unproductive patterns, symptom substitution, Butterfly Effect

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Weiner-Davis offers down-to-earth, effective advice to couples working together and to individuals attempting unilaterally to save a troubled marriage.
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Review

Arlene Modica Matthews

author of Why Did I Marry You, Anyway?

This refreshing approach for breaking relationship stalemates may be just the catalyst for change your relationship requires.

<br /><br />Claire Berman

author of A Hole in My Heart: Adult Children of Divorce Speak Out

By focusing on the positive and the possible, Weiner-Davis offers couples hope and much needed help in making marriages work.

--Arlene Modica Matthews

Claire Berman author of A Hole in My Heart: Adult Children of Divorce Speak Out By focusing on the positive and the possible, Weiner-Davis offers couples hope and much needed help in making marriages work. -- Review

Claire Berman author of A Hole in My Heart: Adult Children of Divorce Speak Out By focusing on the positive and the possible, Weiner-Davis offers couples hope and much needed help in making marriages work. --Claire Berman

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Simon & Schuster (February 1, 1993)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0671797255
• ISBN-13: 978-0671797256
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (47 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #24,771 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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154 of 155 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This Book Saved My Marriage, August 21, 2001

By A Customer

I have been married for 16 years, 3 kids, 2 dogs, great home - what I thought was the perfect life. Almost two years ago my wife came to me and told me she wanted a divorce. She "loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore", was how she put it. She had been going to a therapist for over a year who had encouraged her to "find herself", "make herself happy". Never mind her husband and her children. I agreed to go to counseling sessions with her therapist. The counselor wanted us to explore our past and express our anger at each other. With each session our marriage got worse. I begged my wife to stay in the marriage and keep trying to make it work, not just for us, but for the children. She refused. She said it was over.

I bought "Divorce Busting" after visiting the author's web site. I read that there was a name for what happened to me. It's called the "walkaway wife syndrome". I read the book from cover to cover several times during the next few months. I immediately stopped chasing and begging my wife to return. I employed every technique in the book. I even tried what Michele calls "the last resort technique". I learned that I couldn't change my wife, but I could change myself. If I changed, truly changed my behavior, it would have to change my marriage. I love how this book is so clearly written. I really enjoyed( and continue to enjoy ) setting and achieving my goals. I love how this book gave me hope. It took almost 4 months of constant work on my part, but it worked!! My wife came back. For the first month that she was back, it was touch and go. I continued to use my divorce busting techniques and mindset, and now things are better than they have ever been in our marriage. We're like newlyweds again.

If you need to save your marriage and your family, Divorce Busting is the book to buy! Should be required reading before and during marriage. Thanks Michele!

Justin

63 of 64 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars #1 Most Recommended Book, June 4, 2000

By	Becky Freeman "beckyworms" (Greenville, Tx United States) - See all my reviews

I'm a marriage columnist and author of two books on marriage: Marriage 911 and Chocolate Chili Pepper Love. I'm not a professional counselor, I'm a humorist/storyteller and write as a friend to others who are hurting in their relationships. The #1 book I recommend to those "stuck" in problem areas, the book that was most helpful to me during a time of darkness and confusion in my own marriage is Divorce Busting. When couples are hurting they don't usually need a course in WHY (they are already experts at that) -- what they need is HELP and RELIEF. Michelle's warm, practical, engaging advice is the medicine this writer/speaker prescribes for those who want to improve their marriage and maintain a sense of personal peace and dignity in the process. Thank you, Michelle! Keep up the good work.

41 of 42 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Divorce Busting changed my life!, August 19, 2001

By A Customer

I couldn't disagree more with the woman from California. Although this book isn't everything for everybody- no book ever is- it completely changed my life. My husband was in the midst of a mid-life crisis, big time. He had an affair, lost weight, the whole bit. Everyone was telling me to leave. But I didn't want to give up seventeen years of marriage when we have 3 kids together. Call me crazy, but through the whole thing, I still knew our marriage could work. But I didn't know how to make that happen. I was so depressed. My friends were tired of talking to me. I went to a therapist who told me to leave. Nothing helped.

Then I saw Divorce Busting in the bookstore. When I read it, it felt like the author had been watching my marriage from my living room. I learned so much from it, not only about getting my husband back, but about all kinds of relationships. The methods WORK! My husband and I have never been happier. I don't usually write reviews, but I just couldn't keep quiet when I read the review from that unhappy woman. I realize that some people can't save their marriages because it's too late. But even if I had not been able to turn things around in my marriage, I feel I am a better, stronger person because of this book. I have the author to thank for saving my marriage!