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"[A] wonderful resource.”—Staten Island Advance

“For anyone expecting or raising multiples, this book needs to be on their recommended reading list!...An important addition to the reading resources for anyone raising their multiples.”—MultipleBirthsFamilies.com

“[Friedman’s] tone is both authoritative and kind. This book is essential reading for anyone seeking to understand the complex psychological issues that twins and their parents face Armed with excellent strategies, Friedman shares her experience and knowledge to help parents combat their misguided impulses. This book gives me hope that life will be easier for the next generation of twins.”—California Society for Clinical Social Work’s “Clinical Update” newsletter

“Full of information and very handy and practical tips It is richly flavored with tips and tricks that are certainly very practical for the busy parents of twins...Friedman’s book makes a valuable and novel contribution to the twin parenting literature and is one that I will recommend to other parents of twin and indeed to parents of multiple singletons.”—Twin Research and Human Genetics

“Offers advice to frazzled parents.”—Brooklyn Daily Eagle

“A wonderfully enlightening book that brings raising twins into the 21st Century.”—Mad about Multiples blog

“Well worth a read…Thought-provoking.”—Twins, Triplets, and More, 8/08

“An excellent book.” —TwinsTalk.com, 8/27/08

“Will become the standard reference for parenting twins.”—TWINS, October 2008

“Will become the standard reference for parenting twins.”—Twins, July 2009

Product Description
A new parenting twins philosophy outlining the seven simple concepts to raising emotionally healthy individuals even while encouraging them to cherish their special sibling relationship.

Most parents try to treat their twins as individuals, but most unwittingly undermine their best intentions because they lack a practical set of guidelines for raising emotionally healthy multiples.

Drawing on her unique experience as a twin, the mother of twins, and as a psychotherapist, Dr. Joan A. Friedman outlines the seven key concepts for helping twins develop into self-realized, unique individuals and offers parents specific strategies for each stage in their children's growth. From how to set up the nursery to handling playdates and extracurricular activities, from deciding on same or separate classroom education to encouraging grandparents and other family members to think beyond the pair to see individuals, Emotionally Healthy Twins will become the standard reference for parenting twins.

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Paperback: 256 pages
Publisher: Da Capo Press (February 11, 2008)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0738210870
ISBN-13: 978-0738210872
Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)

Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars See all reviews (20 customer reviews)

Amazon.com Sales Rank: #39,184 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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4.0 out of 5 stars informative but a little much at times, April 22, 2008

By	Twinmama (Mississippi) - See all my reviews

I like, and agree with, a lot of what the author says, especially the individual identities approach. Although my twin boys are fraternal and don't look at all alike, we have still worked hard to keep them from thinking of themselves as "the twins" rather than each boy as his own person. So she had me at hello, in a way.

I think hers is the best, most well-reasoned out argument for putting twins in separate classrooms that I've come across. I'm intrigued by the suggestion of giving each twin his own birthday party (although I am thinking, for budget reasons, in our house maybe we'll just start out with each twin getting his own birthday cake).

That said, I can't get completely behind this approach. I can understand wanting the twins to be their own identities beyond "the twins," but at the same time, the twin thing is a very special connection and I really am reluctant to do anything to break that connection. I'm certainly not going to stop buying them matching (or slightly different -- same shirt in different colors) clothing to underline their individual identities. Believe me, if my children didn't want to wear matching clothes, they wouldn't! But they enjoy dressing alike...for now, anyway. When they're not so into it as they grow up, I'll stop buying them matching clothes. But in the meantime, I really don't see how it hurts them.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Friedman Brings Raising Twins into the 21st Century, May 1, 2008

By	Cheryl M. Wenzel "http://newmomcentral.blogsp... (San Jose, CA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Ms. Friedman has written a wonderfully enlightening book that brings raising twins into the 21st Century. She is an identical twin herself, as well as a mother of twins. In addition, she specializes in the treatment of twin-related issues in her practice as a psychotherapist. These experiences have given her a unique perspective on the needs of twins that she has developed into what she calls a new "parenting of twins philosophy."

According to Friedman, a lack of psychological boundaries between twins can lead to confused roles and cause problems once they attend school and begin to make friends. She encourages a new perspective of twins, one that views them as two individuals who happen to have been conceived and born at the same time. Along this theme, she advocates the separation of twins as a way to help them develop their own unique identities.

As a mother of 3-year-old twins, I am all too aware of the debate and controversy surrounding the issue of when, or even if, to separate twins from each other, whether it's putting them in different cribs, different rooms, or different classes at school. Ms. Friedman provides a depth of understanding of this issue that brings it to a whole new level and introduces many new ideas that had me re-thinking how I both parent and perceive my twins.

I thank Ms. Friedman for her valuable insight and experience into the psychological world of twins and will take her suggestions to heart as I try to navigate the sometimes complex world of twins.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Meeting the Challenges of Twins, June 1, 2008

By	Miriam Harris "psychologist - Ph.D." (Santa Monica, California) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

"Raising Emotionally Healthy Twins" fills the space earlier reserved exclusively for Dr. Spock, except that
it defines the understanding necessary to cope with the thrills, worries and trials attached to a 'two fer.'
Dr. Friedman has written what I deem to be the ultimate guide to the healthy development of twins - one that speaks from the heart as well as the mind. This is a book which needs to be read by every twin parent.

Miriam Harris, Ph.D.

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