The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who's Right for You (Paperback)

by Laura Doyle (Author) "Dishonoring your desire to get married is a way of protecting yourself from disappointment and trying to avoid becoming dependent..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review
Cast your fears aside, ladies: in this case, "surrendered" doesn't mean "doormat"--which is not to say that The Surrendered Single might not raise a few eyebrows. Laura Doyle (The Surrendered Wife) has some pretty insistent basics for women on the dating circuit that may not always sit well with modern feminists. Don't ask him out? Throw out your mental checklist of what you want from a mate? Smile openly at every man you pass on the street? Expect that he'll pay for dinner?

Yep. And according to those who have already surrendered, this old-school stuff works. The book is easy to read; entertaining dating stories are mixed with lots of bullet-pointed lists focused on self-esteem ("good self care is attractive") and myth debunking ("no one respects flirtatious women") that range from truly helpful to slightly simplistic.

Following Doyle's techniques may require a fair amount of modification on your part, but her ideas are aimed at opening yourself up to a loving, stable relationship, rather than simply angling for that ring on your finger from whatever deer you've caught in your matrimonial headlights. If you think it's time to implement some changes in your dating routine, you may find just what you need by "surrendering." --Jill Lightner

From Publishers Weekly
Controversial author Laura Doyle (The Surrendered Wife) turns her attention to singletons in The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who's Right for You. Doyle claims that since the perfect man does not exist, women need to settle. In 27 succinct chapters, she explains how to find intimacy with a man by letting go of inhibitions about the way things are "supposed" to happen. Although many will perceive Doyle's approach as extreme and overly submissive, some of her tips are effective, e.g., "treat yourself as well as you want a man to treat you" and "every romance starts with a smile."
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Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Fireside (April 30, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0743217896
• ISBN-13: 978-0743217897
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (38 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #35,664 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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37 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Found My Best Friend and Partner for Life, May 1, 2002

By A Customer

I followed the principles in Surrendered Single and it helped me to open my eyes and heart to the best man I could have imagined. We'll be getting married in 5 months. If people tell you that you are a catch, but wonder why you haven't "found the right person", this book is for you. If you think of yourself as confident and competent in other areas, but are afraid of disappointment in love, you MUST read this book. Great practical, sensible advice with lots of entertaining stories about real single women like me and you.

35 of 36 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Definitely worth a try, January 11, 2003

By	laeney (Phoenix, AZ United States) - See all my reviews

I have read and browsed quite a few self-help books for single women trying to find mr. right. After hearing about this book from a friend, I browsed it a bit at a bookstore and decided to buy it. I read it over a few days and found that while I didn't agree with everything, I think it's a refreshing way to look at dating and relationships. The biggest lesson I've learned is that I essentially teach men how to treat me. I have been following some of her tips and have found many of the things she says to be true. This books doesn't just stop once you have found that person but it also has plenty of information on how to stay happy in your relationship and deciding whether or not you need to leave it. Most of her suggestions seem like common sense but may take a little bit of practice to follow. I would recommend this book to all single women who have problems finding a relationship or keeping one.

29 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Must must must have!!!, November 11, 2002

By A Customer

I opened the first page of this book and the first paragraph shocked me. "Dishonoring your desire to get married is a way of protecting yourself from disappointment and trying to avoid becoming dependent....Ultimately, however, such denial and control will stand between you and finding the love you crave. Surrender to your desire to be married and you give that desire the chance to become a reality" This was me! I ALWAYS said I didn't want to get married, I even had a list of over 100 reasons not to get married that I would actually cite on my dates! I thought guys liked women that were independent and didn't want to "trap" them into getting married. I couldn't understand why no one I dated wanted to marry me. At least I could say "no" I reasoned with myself, I just wanted them to ask. This book helped me get real with what was really going on with me and gave me the courage to open my heart to the truth. The first guy I tried these techniques on, it was hard. Letting him carry my bag when he offered instead of insisting "I can do it" Letting him pay for everything instead of making sure things were even. All of these things lead him into feeling like a man, and to my surprise, made me feel like a valued woman. After 7 months of dating, we just got engaged and will be married in the Spring. We have a great relationship. More than I ever dreamt possible. I believe that this book made the difference.
READ IT!