From Defiance to Cooperation: Real Solutions for Transforming the Angry, Defiant, Discouraged Child (Paperback)

by John F. Taylor Ph.D. (Author) "BEN WAS A handsome child..." (more)
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Product Details

• Paperback: 226 pages
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press; 1 edition (June 26, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0761529551
• ISBN-13: 978-0761529552
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #373,309 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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52 of 54 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Worth it if you need an attitude shift, October 9, 2004

By	W. Cornett (Columbus, Ohio) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This book helped me achieve one major goal: my attitude shifted after I read it. If you're considering buying this book, you've probably reached the point of despair -- even hopelessness -- as I had. I was at the end of my rope emotionally. This book reminded me that what my child needs most is my understanding, support and unconditional love. It sounds simple, but when you're a stay-at-home mom taking care of a defiant 4-year-old, you can't be reminded enough that your child is not "out to get you" or behaving this way to drive you crazy. Your child is a child. This book treats children like the innocent little being they are. Dr. Taylor never uses negative language or terminology when describing the child's behavior. I had a new attitude and a renewed sense of purpose immediately upon reading this book. Dr. Taylor provides lists of easy-to-remember steps to take when dealing with an oppositional or defiant child. I began implementing his philosophy right away -- what these kids want is a verbal debate, so don't enter into one to begin with. The very first day, my son tried to get my goat by kicking a pumpkin we had just purchased, and when I said nothing, he said to me "I thought that would make you mad." I simply said, "Nope. I'm not mad at all. It's your pumpkin; if you kick it and it breaks you will no longer have it." For the first time in a long time, we side-stepped a verbal debate with ease. So, why didn't I give this book 5 stars? Only because I think the reading public would be better served by 2 books. Dr. Taylor tries to address parents of teens as well as toddlers, so I skipped over some sections that didn't apply to my son. I would love to read a book by Dr. Taylor that just focusses on toddler (mis)behavior, but I'm extremely glad to have read this one.

24 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Important wake up call for parents, October 29, 2005

By	P. Lacy - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I work with children that have every problem you can imagine and my own issues with one of my own children. It is always the parents that desire to have an outsider "fix" the child, feeling that it is the child who is at fault. Parents that cannot take a good close look in the mirror and embrace the messages that this book exposes and details will miss an opportunity to turn their family around, and really help themselves while helping their child. It is not about blaming but about honesty, and how to correct beliefs and patterns that may have been handed down from old generations that don't work so well in our current life-style. I found the book to be a worthwhile one among other resources to become informed and WORK on all of us.

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Very helpfull, January 23, 2007

By	angie erikson "lagwcat" (Springfield Mo) - See all my reviews

I found that this book gave me alot of very good advice. I would recomend this book to anyone who has a child that doesn't respond well to disapline, or instructions.