I Shop Therefore I Am: Compulsive Buying & the Search for Self (Hardcover)

~ April Lane Benson (Author)

Editorial Reviews

Review

"...a comprehensive and timely examination of an understudied but emerging public health problem." -- Eric Hollander, 2000

"...addresses the multitude of psychological issues that shopping can encompass and attempt to negotiate." -- Frank M. Lachmann and Beatrice Beebe, 2000

"...so timely it ought to be on bookshelves everywhere, from the consulting room to the training institute." -- Ron Taffel, 2000

"...the first serious, scholarly, comprehensive (and fascinating) study of compulsive buying, its root causes, accompanying disorders, and treatment approaches." -- Joseph A. Califano, Jr., 2000

"This is a substantive, impressive, and important book that should be read by every clinician in practice." -- Jerrold Mundis, 2000

Product Description

"Compulsive buying is a serious, often secretive affliction, with profound emotional, social, occupational, and financial consequences. As many as a quarter of us have problems with buying, and studies suggest that between one and six percent of the population are full-fledged compulsive buyers. I Shop,Therefore I Am: Compulsive Buying and the Search for Self brings together, for the first time, the most important thinking about this disorder. As more and more therapists encounter compulsive buying (whether as a presenting problem or revealed in the course of ongoing therapy), the need for an in-depth clinical understanding of the disorder has grown. Dr. Benson has responded admirably to that need with a practical, comprehensive, and wonderfully readable work. A Jason Aronson Book"

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 528 pages
• Publisher: Jason Aronson; 1 edition (July 28, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0765702428
• ISBN-13: 978-0765702425
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6.3 x 1.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.8 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #510,596 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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57 of 62 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars a real missed opportunity, September 20, 2006

By	T. Powers "pbooks" (United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This book is, at best, mediocre and I agree with the reviewer who said it costs too much. A well-written, well-chosen, well-edited series of essays on overshopping would have been worth the price. Not this relatively simplistic analysis.

For example, we hear (over and over and over) that people who shop compulsively do so to avoid emotional pain in their lives: they shop to manage feelings. I do believe I grasped that by about the 5th repetition. This obvious point is repeated again and again and again in different essays, which means that there was a mind-numbing sameness to many of them.

And a really good psychology book shouldn't do that. One essay, two at the most, to make the basic points - then on to something more substantive. For example, is childhood sexual assault an important variable in overshopping? What about physical abuse? What about child neglect, or present-day illness or disability? I didn't see any of that addressed.

Secondly, there is no consideration of what to do when overshoppers have other very serious mental health problems - even though it is stated that other problems, such as overeating, often coexist. It seems to me that the priorities in this case would be as follows:

1 - don't commit suicide; 2 - stay out of the hospital; 3 - avoid mania and depression and other extreme moods that cause immediate and serious crises; 4 - get enough sleep; 5 - avoid alcohol and other drugs; 6 - make sure you have a stable, violence free place to live; 7 - fill the day with structured activities, work if possible - the order I put things in might be questioned, but the fact that all of these things are more important than stopping overshopping is not.

The essay on clothes is particularly poor. It is stated too many times that "clothes reveal as much as they conceal." first of all, I got that after the 2nd time. secondly, in many parts of the world, this is demonstrably untrue. women wear the chador and it is designed to be as ugly and unrevealing as possible. I have heard that underneath it, women often dress up to impress each other, but in public they are to be concealed. similar points might be made about nun's habits and the head coverings that married European women wore in the Middle Ages.

so the treatment of clothes was very, very simple, and very much focused on current times and Western sensibilities, making me wonder why it was written. What is considered appropriate wear for women has changed dramatically over the past 200 years. Are women from religious families more or less likely to buy clothes compulsively, or does it not matter? How does the "obesity epidemic" affect clothes buying? (other than the obvious - that people need larger sizes. are overweight people more or less likely to buy clothes compulsively?

Finally, I did not care much for the conclusions, which involved praising simplicity circles and debtor's anonymous. it seems to me that compulsive shoppers probably tend to be people who need to get in touch with and manage their own feelings (see above), and so telling them what to do seems counterproductive. Of course basic financial information needs to be imparted, but TELLING clients how to find meaning in their lives seems the opposite of what a good therapist should be doing. Letting clients discover it for themselves, which may have nothing to do with a simplicity circle, seems a lot better.

I think this is recommended only for therapists who need basic information, because IMO you won't get much more than that here.

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109 of 139 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Looking deep within the shopping bag, October 16, 2000

By	The Rev. Martha S. Jacobi, M.Div., CSW (New York NY) - See all my reviews

I Shop, Therefore I Am is a Shopping Bag filled with a veritable cornucopia of well-made and carefully placed articles. Exploring the contents of this book-bag takes the reader into its deepest depths, as if into the "fabric" of the bag itself wherein lies the previously taboo realm of compulsive buying, spending, and shopping. For this reason alone the book is singularly important and a "must read" for interested persons from a wide range of perspectives.

I Shop, Therefore I Am is at once thought provoking and behavior challenging. Being part introduction, part overview, and part anthology, the book nonetheless unpacks its material with purposeful movement and in clear and readable language. Indeed, the more one reads, the more one wants to read! Each chapter contains compelling insights, all of which are brilliantly woven together into a single piece in editor April Lane Benson's own concluding essay. Nuances of definition are revealed as writers from behavioral, biological, psychological, social and spiritual disciplines present their understandings of the scope and nature of problems related to money-use, as well as assessment and treatment options.

But Benson does not leave us consumed by the bag! Quite the contrary-in noting that the exchange of money for goods and services can be done as "conscious shopping" she suggests that shopping can be about the "process of search...about being" rather than having or buying. She thus leaves the reader searching for the next book-bag(s?) of goodies, in which one might hope to find essays attending to issues of culture, ethnicity, socio-economic status and downward mobility in relation to "shopping gone bad", as well as a fuller exposition of the reparative use of shopping, or "shopping gone good."

When all is said and done, however, I guarantee - after reading this book you will never shop the same way again!

14 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Not a typical self help book, July 30, 2005

By	tampa woman "TW" (Florida) - See all my reviews

This book is packed with more clinical information than any self help book. Not that it doesn't have a fair amount of personal stories to tell. The price is high but it is apparent that it is because of the research that went into the writing. If you really wish to use your brain to get a handle on shopping problems of any level ...read this book and think about its contents.............