Paula Martinac's The Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage is a crossbreed of a book that offers knowing, humorous insights on love in the gay lane. Crossing romantic advice à la "Dear Abby" ("Meeting Ms. Right") with practical tips on gay weddings that would make Martha Stewart proud ("Right in Your Own Backyard") and homo-child-care cues by way of Dr. Spock ("Are Grandma and Grandpa on Board"), Martinac has assembled a collage of expert interviews, statistics, personal opinions, historical anecdotes, intimate photos, and chats that, while covering an enormously wide range of interests and positions, is quite centered and focused. This is because Martinac understands that there is no one gay or lesbian point of view on any of these topics; each person and each couple has unique needs and opinions. While it does not avoid the controversial (Gabriel Rotello's belief that gay marriage can help stop AIDS) or the sentimental (Mubarak S. Dahir's mediation on what to call his boyfriend in public), The Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage manages to be both frank and funny, practical and political. --Michael Bronski
From Library Journal
Lambda Award-winning novelist Martinac (Out of Time, Seal, 1990) considers various aspects of gay and lesbian relationships, focusing on "married" couples. Martinac discusses courting, commitment ceremonies, and divorce and reflects on how to deal with finances, in-laws, and blended families; how to adopt; and even what to call one's partner. Each topical discourse is generously leavened with illustrative anecdotes from various couples about how the issue has played out in their relationship. There is a good mix of male and female couples. The book ends with an especially useful annotated appendix listing organizations and resources for lesbian and gay couples and families. This very readable book considers the most important issues for most gay and lesbian relationships and could provide valuable guidance to those who have few role models for successful "marriages." Recommended for all public libraries.?Debra Moore, Loyola Marymount Univ. Lib., Los Angeles
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