Bringing Up Kids Without Tearing Them Down How To Raise Confident, Successful Children (Paperback)

~ Dr. Kevin Leman (Author) "As I caught a "friendly skies" flight to a seminar recently, I passed one of those familiar flight insurance booths on the way to my..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

It's possible to raise happy, self-confident children while also letting them know you're the boss, stresses Leman ( Keeping Your Family Together When the World Is Falling Apart ) in this parenting guide. He explains why self-image is so vital to children, as well as how to provide them with "image insurance" that will last a lifetime, starting with the "A-B-C's" of self-worth (acceptance, belonging, confidence). Leman argues that parents can help kids learn responsibility and build self-esteem through encouragement rather than praise, action rather than words, and natural consequences rather than punishment ("If you miss dinner again, you won't get any when you get home"). He also discusses four causes of misbehavior--the need to gain attention, assert control, avoid pressure and seek revenge--and shows how these can be contained. While Leman does not generally condone corporal punishment, he does advocate spanking (one or two swats on the backside) as a last resort. Anecdotes from his own experience as a father illustrate his points and warm the book. The last portion is an extensive question-and-answer section about toddlers, chidlren over five and adolescents. Author tour.
Copyright 1993 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal

Leman, author of Keeping Your Family Together When the World Is Falling Apart ( LJ 2/15/92), here offers practical advice on raising children to be an integral part of the family while keeping their self-esteem intact and healthy. He advocates the use of reality discipline, where the consequences of actions become the teaching tool. Along with love, security, and family values, reality discipline builds a child's self-image and provides a good start toward becoming a responsible, happy adult, Leman claims. Good writing and numerous anecdotes keep his text lively. Each chapter ends with a "Words To Remember" and "Actions To Try" section for easy reference. The final section is written in a question-and-answer format, grouped according to the child's age. This book is recommended as a useful addition to most parenting collections.
- Lisa J. Cochenet, Rhinelander Dist. Lib., Wis.
Copyright 1993 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 384 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson (June 5, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0785266054
• ISBN-13: 978-0785266051
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #329,548 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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44 of 44 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent for finding a balance between love and limits., July 22, 1999

By	Holly B. Carroccio "hollyc" (Dallas, TX) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Bringing Up Kids Without Tearing Them Down How To Raise Confident, Successful Children (Paperback)

Dr. Leman presents a well thought out guide for helping develop proper discipline techniques, nurturing a child's self esteem, and teaching children how to grow into responsible, healthy adults. He gives specific ideas for handling challenges in "real world" situations. He even points out mistakes he has made and talks about things that have worked or not worked with his own kids.

31 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book! Worth every penny and more., May 31, 2000

By	Hans C. Zetzer (Springboro, Ohio) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Bringing Up Kids Without Tearing Them Down How To Raise Confident, Successful Children (Paperback)

Dr. Kevin Leman does an excellent job describing how to raise our kids while building thier independence and self image. He gives pratical examples and a useful list of home responsibilites for a wide range of ages. If you have kids you got to read this book. I am only sorry I did not read it earlier.

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Advice makes sense, December 6, 2001

By	KareninMS "karenann33" (Southaven, MS USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Bringing Up Kids Without Tearing Them Down How To Raise Confident, Successful Children (Paperback)

I love this book. I have many parenting books and this one is by far my favorite. The advice on discipline is priceless--no yelling or getting into major debates with your children. I have already used several of the suggestions with my niece and it has worked like a charm. Buy this book!!