The One: A Realistic Guide To Choosing Your Soul Mate (Paperback)

by Ben Young (Author), Samuel Adams (Author) "assume that it doesn't really matter who you marry. They argue that what matters most is how you conduct yourselves and your level of commitment..." (more)
Key Phrases: Jesus Christ, God Himself

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Product Description
In their bestselling book, The Ten Commandments of Dating, Ben Young and Samuel Adams showed singles how to date effectively. Now The One shows Christians who to date and how to negotiate the difficulties of choosing a soul mate. The biggest question on the minds of the 78 million singles in America is simply this: How can I find the right one? This book answers that question, giving entertaining yet practical advice for that seemingly endless quest to find The One. This book emphasizes free will, personal responsibility, proactivity, and preparation, helping singles avoid the pitfalls of dangerous beliefs and hyper-spirituality. Single Christians will learn what approaches to avoid in mate selection, recognize the myths about finding true love, and learn practical strategies for finding the right person to marry.

Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson (July 10, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0785267441
• ISBN-13: 978-0785267447
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.2 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.5 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #686,401 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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19 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A hands on book for Christian dating, August 9, 2001

By A Customer

This is a great follow up book to The 10 Commandments of Dating. As a Christian, what I appreciate about this book is its healthy balance between following the will of God in the dating world and accepting personal responsibility for who we end up with as a mate. There has to be more to finding a soul mate than "you'll just know." This book gives concrete points to see if you and your boyfriend/girlfriend are on the right track. I think the reason so many people may end up with broken relationships is that they get carried away by all of the emotion in the beginning of a relationship and then no longer use their brain on down the line. Once things get more involved and complicated - they tend to ignore things because they are "in love."

The authors give a fresh approach with a solid biblical foundation in these crazy days of navigating through the dating world. I appreciate their honesty and reality when dealing with singles in today's society. The church often does not address "dating" and this book is a much needed resource.

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If Only I had read this book a few years ago!, August 9, 2001

By A Customer

This book was full of great advice I wish I would have known years ago. Especially helpful was the Myths that we really do believe. It helped to realize my flawed thinking and how I had made poor decisions in the past even though I would consider myself fairly wise and responsible. I dont think I read the same book as the last reviewer. Actually, I dont think he/she read much or any of it at all. I am definitely passing this one on to all my single friends!

13 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very Good, January 10, 2002

By A Customer

I found this book to be both practical and grounded in Biblical truth. The fact of the matter is that the Bible does not advocate a specific method of spouse-hunting (there is not a single example of courtship anywhere in Scripture, it didn't even occur until the 1400's. The rule of Biblical times was arranged marriage, which obviously doesn't apply very easily to modern times). Before you kiss dating goodbye, I suggest reading this book (and The Bible, of course, as the ultimate authority).