Helping Children Cope with Divorce, Revised and Updated Edition (Paperback)

by Edward Teyber (Author) "This book teaches divorcing parents what they can do to help their children successfully adjust to divorce..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly
Each year more than one million children in the U.S. are affected by the dark reality of divorce. Nevertheless, assures child psychologist Teyber, who teaches psychology at California State University at San Bernardino, parents can ameliorate the harsh impact by addressing their children's concerns with sensitivity and compassion. Among the difficulties he covers are children's separation anxiety at a parent's departure; guilt feelings ("If I was good . . ."); and fantasies of reuniting Mom and Dad. Teyber also discusses custody disputes and arrangements, post-divorce parenting concerns and step-parenting. Urging parents to watch for and respect their children's responses to the alterations of divorce, he offers an understanding guide to negotiating this disturbing process.
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Review
"Dr. Teyber writes in the mature voice of a seasoned clinician, providing parents with not only his own observations, but a substantial amount of conclusive research regarding the effects of divorce on children, accompanied by realistic, age-appropriate advice for the whole family." (Child Magazine)

"Will be extremely helpful to any parent going through the process of divorce. It is conceptually sound, easy to read, and has important information for parents, professionals, and anyone who is working with children whose parents are going through divorce." (Hugh McIssac, LCSW, director, Family Court Services, The Superior Court, Los Angeles County)

"An outstanding book. It reinforces the value of putting children first and acknowledges children's need for both parents during and after the divorce. Teyber clearly describes the stress and pain children experience and explains how best to shield them from the parent's own conflicts. . . . Essential reading. . . ." (David L. Levy, Esq., president, Children's Rights Council)

"Dr. Teyber covers the importance of parenting skills [in offering] stability and continuity in critical stages of child development following a divorce." (Louis Welch, director, Child Custody Reform Project)

". . . should be recommended reading for any parent going through a divorce. Teachers, counselors, therapists, family law judges, and attorneys will find Teyber's book a valuable adjunct to their work." (Benson Schaffer, L.A. County Superior Court (retired), Family Law Mediator)

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass; Rev Upd edition (April 5, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 078795554X
• ISBN-13: 978-0787955540
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #9,278 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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19 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Really does help, May 10, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Helping Children Cope With Divorce (Paperback)

I realy enjoyed reading this book because it made sence and it helped me. Not only did it help me cope with my child,but also with the father of my child. We came to an understanding for the sake of the child. I highly recommend this book to whomever that are going through a divorce.

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Most Important Book for Divorced Parents, April 24, 2006

By	M. Gerrity - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Should be required reading for all parents going through a divorce. This book really puts the kids first, and discusses how children of varying ages will react differently to divorce. It gives the absolute best advice for keeping your children healthy both during and after of a divorce. I send this book to all my friends who are contemplating or experiencing a divorce.

11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars this book is the best., March 4, 2002

By	steve & tanya hogan (Sun Valley, Idaho) - See all my reviews

I have many problems with the divorce I started 6 years ago. The statistical information, research, details, and background information of what divorce does to families is very helpful. The way these are helpful to me is that they show what the results have been with many of the particular choices that divorces have raised in the past, and what current trends in these are showing.
The descriptions that are given about what feelings children endure are gripping. I came to truly understand what our three have had to bury in their beings. Now, before its too late, however, I have unique insight that will enable me to help them --hopefully with their father.
I cannot write too much about the value of knowing what divorce does to children, how to help them heal, how to take charge of the situation that seems hopeless, and what to NOT do.
...Tanya Hogan