Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care for (Paperback)

~ (Author) "Have you ever wondered at the way certain people are able to draw others to them and gain the admiration and affection of friends?..." (more)
Key Phrases: cultivating intimacy, guideline number, best friendships, New York, Brian Piccolo, Helen Keller (more...)

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Product Description

Here's a book that helps you learn how to be a warmer, more lovable person, how to communicate better, and how to resolve tension in your relationships. These clues for getting close apply to friend and friend, husband and wife, parent and child.

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An updated edition of the original bestseller!

--Readers learn how to be a warmer, more loving person, how to communicate better, to resolve tension in relationships
--For friendships, marital relationships, and parents and their children.

The first edition of The Friendship Factor, published in 1979, has sold more than 350,000 copies. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Augsburg Fortress Publishers; First Thus edition (May 1979)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 080661711X
• ISBN-13: 978-0806617114
• Product Dimensions: 6.8 x 4.2 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 3.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (32 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #65,198 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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58 of 59 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A MUST read to strengthen friendships!!!, September 27, 2001

By	V. VanCamp "lovesbookslovesmusic" (Ithaca, New York USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I believe that if the entire world read this book we would be a happier, healthier, friendlier, more supportive, more understanding and a more tolerant planet. I think this book should be required reading in schools!

This book is as applicable today as it was when it was written over 20 years ago. Maybe even more so. Even if you think you have the right approach to people and relationships and even if you feel all your relationships are healthy... you could learn from this book. I guarantee there are things in this book that you have not thought of.

I love this book and I highly recommend it because I believe it will benefit you and make you a better person. It had a great impact on me. I intend to read it annually.

The author gives ideas on how to deepen friendships. These include: 1) Assign top priority to your relationships 2)Dare to talk about affection 3)Learn the gesturs of love (i.e appreciating someone offering help and graciously accepting this help) AND 4) CREATE SPACE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP (in other words don't CONTROL, don't strangle ~ let them grow and breathe!!!

The author also gives pointers on cultivating intimacy. He suggests that you 1) Be liberal with praise 2) Learn to LISTEN (such as asking questions the other will enjoy answering, get the other to talk about themselves and dispensing advice SPARINGLY) 3) Use your body to demonstrate warmth AND 4) Talk freely about your feelings (Dare to need the other person and let them feel that and benefit from it)

A quote from the book that I especially like is: "Don't stop expressing needs because of occasional disappointment - you'll end up bedding down with disappointment as your constant companion."

You will also find ideas on how to handle negative feelings w/o destroying the relationship; how to disagree and understand at the same time and alternative methods of ventilating your anger.

Another quote I appreciate: "If you dish it out - you have to take it" !!!!!

Other interesting subjects in this book are: 1) The art of creative forgiveness 2) Eros - It's power and problems and 3) Loyalty, an essential ingredient.

The author writes in an easy to read fashion and backs up his suggestions and ideas with many quotes from people far and near, young and old and from other books. If you have not read this book yet... do so now. I suspect that you will find it as wonderful and helpful as I did. You and your relationships will be the better for it.

What is better in this world than people and healthy relationships with them. These are the things that matter. All else is dust in the wind.

13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Timeless Classic, May 12, 2005

By	Lana "funnshyne" (Richmond, Virginia United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care for (Paperback)

I bought this book over 20 years ago at my childhood summer camp bookstore and I have definitely gotten my money's worth. Having been read and re-read over the years, it is one of the most worn out books I own and definitely one of the most valuable.
This book not only tells you how to get great friends but how to be a great friend and how to take the friendships you have to a deeper and more meaningful level. I'll often pick it up for a re-read when I feel a tension in my friendships or when I just want to refocus on the people I love.

16 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A manual for living., August 7, 1998

By A Customer

I've read this book twice and given it to several people, including my mother who said, "Everyone should have this as a reference book in their home." The author, who doesn't conceal his Christian background, does the best job of anyone I've read at putting core human ethics and etiquette into a package without a hint of religious language or preachiness. There are stories in "The Friendship Factor" that have stayed with me for 15 years and are as powerful as any lecture, advice or sermon I've heard.