Living When a Loved One Has Died (Paperback)

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When someone you love dies, Earl Grollman writes, "there is no way to predict how you will feel. The reactions of grief are not like recipes, with given ingredients, and certain results. . . . Grief is universal. At the same time it is extremely personal. Heal in your own way."

If someone you know is grieving, Living When a Loved One Has Died can help. Earl Grollman explains what emotions to expect when mourning, what pitfalls to avoid, and how to work through feelings of loss. Suitable for pocket or bedside, this gentle book guides the lonely and suffering as they move through the many facets of grief, begin to heal, and slowly build new lives.

"If you're far away when someone you care about is in mourning, send this book--it's the next best thing to being there. And if you doubt whether your being there will do any good, read this book, and you will learn how to become the wise, reassuring, and understanding person a good friend is when a loved one has died."


—Minneapolis Star

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Rabbi Earl A. Grollman is an internationally recognized bereavement counselor who has been named Hero of the Heartland and given the Distinguished Human Service Award from Yeshiva University, among countless other awards. He is author of the best-selling Living When a Loved One Has Died (Beacon / 2719-7 / $10.00 pb), among many other books, and articles about him and his work have appeared in USA Today, Harper's, Reader's Digest, Ann Landers, People, and in virtually every major American daily. He lives in Belmont, Massachusetts.

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Product Details Paperback: 115 pages Publisher: Beacon Press; 3 edition (June 1, 1995) Language: English ISBN-10: 0807027197 ISBN-13: 978-0807027196 Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.4 inches Shipping Weight: 5.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies) Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (29 customer reviews) Amazon.com Sales Rank: #143,281 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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• Common Threads: Nine Widows' Journeys Through Love, Loss and Healing by Diane S. Kaimann in Front Matter, page 166, and Back Matter
• Mourning Journey: Spiritual Guidance for Facing Grief, Death and Loss by Dennis Young on page 98, Back Matter (1), and Back Matter (2)
• The Crisis Counseling and Traumatic Events Treatment Planner by Tammi D. Kolski on page 106, and Back Matter
• Awakening from Grief: Finding the Way Back to Joy by John E. Welshons in Front Matter, and Back Matter
• Your Healing Journey Through Grief: A Practical Guide to Grief Management by Stanley Cornils in Back Matter (1), and Back Matter (2)

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Most Helpful Customer Reviews 19 of 19 people found the following review helpful: 5.0 out of 5 stars Living When A Loved One Has Died, January 17, 2000 By  Donna J. Joldersma "djoldersma" (Northern California, USA) - See all my reviews My husband died at 47 of lung cancer. I went to grief counseling and purchased any book or piece of information I could find to help me through the grieving process. This book, by far, has helped me the most. It was easy to read when my concentration level was at an all- time low. This was written by someone who has obviously been through this experience. I keep several copies of this book on hand to give to friends as the need arises. This is a book that can be read and re-read many times. It has brought me great peace and comfort over these last 4 years. Thank you so much Rabbi Grollman! 16 of 16 people found the following review helpful: 5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent; anyone grieving should have a copy, May 21, 1999 By A Customer My mother died unexpectedly two months ago after fracturing her hip. I was her sole caregiver (she had moderate stage Alzheimer's) and even though I was preparing myself for her first being in a nursing home and ultimately her death years down the road, this sudden passing away left me totally empty and void. I didn't know what to feel except that I had let her down somehow. I had always promised her I would take care of her and not let anything bad happen to her. I found myself emotionless with regard to anything except grief. Then I found this book two weeks ago, took it home and read it. This book touches upon every emotion you go through when you grieve. It is not written as a self-help book. It does not tell you what some professionals think you should be doing to continue living in spite of your loss. It is simple. The sentences are short. It tells you that it is alright to feel the way you do. I have kept my book on my coffee table ever since and have picked it up twice already when I was feeling low. I will definitely be giving this book as a gift to friends as the occasion warrants. 10 of 10 people found the following review helpful: 5.0 out of 5 stars The Words I couldn't Say, May 1, 2003 By  Stephanie Anne "music & book nut" (Maine, USA) - See all my reviews I bought this book sight unseen, simply because I think he's a terrific author on death. He speaks the language of the commoner regarding death. I was shocked to find the entire book is written as a series of poems. Originally it threw me off, but as I read the book I was better able to appreciate the impact of using that format for these words. I originally purchased the book for a close friend who was about to observe the 1st anniversary of her sister's death. I hadn't realized how much her sister's death affected me until I read this book and couldn't give it to my friend. I had to buy another copy just for her. The poems said exactly what I had been feeling through all my grieving stages but hadn't found words to express them. It was a godsend.		Most Recent Customer Reviews 5.0 out of 5 stars LIVING WHEN A LOVED ONE HAS DIED I HAVE USED THIS BOOK FOR YEARS TO SHOW SYMPATHY AND LOVE TO THOSE LOSING A LOVED ONE. IT IS THE MOST COMFORTING BOOK I HAVE EVER EXPERIENCED. READ IT, USE IT, SHARE IT. Read more Published 1 month ago by Richard E. Tumblin 5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book for understanding the grief process I actually found this book in 1983 when I lost my father to lung cancer. I kept this book on my bedstand and would pick it up and read from it randomly. Read more Published 5 months ago by R. Schuyler 5.0 out of 5 stars The Very Best Work on Grief and Mourning Rabbi Grollman has gifted the world with what, in my opinion, is the very best work on grief and mourning. Read more Published 14 months ago by JaZzCanary 5.0 out of 5 stars A Must for Anyone Who Hurts From a Loss This book was a gift a year after the death of my beloved mother, my best friend. Every feeling I had experienced so far was explained in the book, and it helped me to deal with... Read more Published 23 months ago by Janet Jochen 5.0 out of 5 stars Death of a friend... It has been almost a year since my wife died suddenly and unexpectedly. Since then I've spent much time reading and pondering, trying to come to terms with my new reality. Read more Published on October 10, 2007 by Charles Brumbelow 5.0 out of 5 stars What a book of comfort Those of us grieving will find great comfort here. Please take the time to read this book that can be read in one sitting. God Bless those of you grieving. Read more Published on August 16, 2007 by Sharon S. Walker 5.0 out of 5 stars I want to share with all who need. This little book was recommended to me by a friend. I treasure her sharing with me. I purchased several to hand out to any who may need for this is very uplifting and to the point... Read more Published on June 10, 2007 by Nancy Ratcliff 5.0 out of 5 stars Share With a Friend This book was recommended from someone who had shared it with a friend who had recently lost his wife. Read more Published on January 3, 2007 by DLS 5.0 out of 5 stars Help in time of great loss............ This is not for those who are in the first weeks of loss. The honesty of the text can be hard to deal with while the loss is still new. Read more Published on December 16, 2003 1.0 out of 5 stars Not that great I wasn't very much impressed with this book. It only had a few words per page and didn't offer anything to comfort. Read more Published on January 10, 2003 by Toby Ward Search Customer Reviews Only search this product's reviews

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Product Details

• Paperback: 115 pages
• Publisher: Beacon Press; 3 edition (June 1, 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0807027197
• ISBN-13: 978-0807027196
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #143,281 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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Most Helpful Customer Reviews

19 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Living When A Loved One Has Died, January 17, 2000

By	Donna J. Joldersma "djoldersma" (Northern California, USA) - See all my reviews

My husband died at 47 of lung cancer. I went to grief counseling and purchased any book or piece of information I could find to help me through the grieving process. This book, by far, has helped me the most. It was easy to read when my concentration level was at an all- time low. This was written by someone who has obviously been through this experience. I keep several copies of this book on hand to give to friends as the need arises.

This is a book that can be read and re-read many times. It has brought me great peace and comfort over these last 4 years.

Thank you so much Rabbi Grollman!

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent; anyone grieving should have a copy, May 21, 1999

By A Customer

My mother died unexpectedly two months ago after fracturing her hip. I was her sole caregiver (she had moderate stage Alzheimer's) and even though I was preparing myself for her first being in a nursing home and ultimately her death years down the road, this sudden passing away left me totally empty and void. I didn't know what to feel except that I had let her down somehow. I had always promised her I would take care of her and not let anything bad happen to her. I found myself emotionless with regard to anything except grief. Then I found this book two weeks ago, took it home and read it. This book touches upon every emotion you go through when you grieve. It is not written as a self-help book. It does not tell you what some professionals think you should be doing to continue living in spite of your loss. It is simple. The sentences are short. It tells you that it is alright to feel the way you do. I have kept my book on my coffee table ever since and have picked it up twice already when I was feeling low. I will definitely be giving this book as a gift to friends as the occasion warrants.

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Words I couldn't Say, May 1, 2003

By	Stephanie Anne "music & book nut" (Maine, USA) - See all my reviews

I bought this book sight unseen, simply because I think he's a terrific author on death. He speaks the language of the commoner regarding death.

I was shocked to find the entire book is written as a series of poems. Originally it threw me off, but as I read the book I was better able to appreciate the impact of using that format for these words. I originally purchased the book for a close friend who was about to observe the 1st anniversary of her sister's death. I hadn't realized how much her sister's death affected me until I read this book and couldn't give it to my friend. I had to buy another copy just for her.

The poems said exactly what I had been feeling through all my grieving stages but hadn't found words to express them. It was a godsend.