How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You (Paperback)

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Hard to believe anything other than luck and maybe fate, never mind a book, can make someone fall in love with you, but oddly enough, Leil Lowndes seems to offer the advice that can do just that in How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You. The sensation of falling in love comes from a chemical secreted by the nervous system, phenylethylamine (or PEA, as Lowndes calls it, as in "Scientists tell us only PEA-brained people fall in Love"), and the trick is to trigger the manufacture of PEA in your potential love partner, giving him or her the sensation of being in love. Lowndes offers 85 techniques for "Hunters and Huntresses" to capture their "Quarry." Much of what the book offers is common sense--the power of eye contact and compliments--but it's presented in a new way and with such detail that it seems that it can't help but work.

Following some of her advice will have you treading that fine line between nice and obsequious, and at times, this book may sound offensive to some, advising the reader to play what may sound like games. Lowndes is aware of this, and she offers some caveats, but still it is hard to get past advice such as, "Show him you're smart, but remember--not too smart" or "Watch your Quarry's reactions to outside stimuli, then show the same emotions." In all fairness, Lowndes doesn't play favorites: her advice to men and women can be equally appalling. Yet, the relaxed style of this book, presenting solid wisdom with a bit of scientific support, makes this book appealing, and, who knows, maybe it will make you more appealing, too! --Jenny Brown

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"The relaxed style of this book, presenting solid wisdom with a bit of scientific support, makes this book appealing, and, who knows, maybe it will make you more appealing, too!" -- Audiobook Reviewer "Amazon.com" --This text refers to the Audio CD edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 336 pages
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill; 1 edition (September 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0809229897
• ISBN-13: 978-0809229895
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (110 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #6,964 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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155 of 165 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If you could use a romance coach, this book is for you., February 21, 2000

By A Customer

I learned a lot from this book. First of all, I was made to recognize how subtle flirting can be, especially if the man is shy! I suddenly realized that guys approach me all of the time and I didn't recognize that they might be looking for a way to talk to me. (I've given directions, the time, tried to figure out if I went to school with people...etc.) I also needed a push to unlearn my old fashioned ways and start to flirt with guys myself. I am learning how to step out of my comfort zone, but don't get the feeling that I can't be myself. This book offers a lot of what might be common sense advice, but for someone who has been out of circulation, it's like having a friend nudge you in the direction that you wanted to go, but didn't know where to start. I am amazed at how successful the simple techniques of just looking around at people and smiling can be to open the door. The other tips take you to the next steps. I haven't met anyone really special yet, but I have met new people and have dated interesting men. I also know that I will meet someone special, and I am enjoying the personal growth in the meantime.

58 of 61 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book, especially if you want to know the science, May 8, 1999

By A Customer

This is an excellent book. It gives the scientific basis behind love and relationships in a very convincing format. I would recommend this book to anyone, especially someone who wants to have a clearly explained "path" or method to social interaction with the opposite sex. I feel far more confident having read this book because all of the information is supported by studies and science and it falls in line with other information I have read regarding relationships. I suggest first reading "How to Flirt with Anyone, Anyplace, Anytime" (I think that's the exact title) first, because it sets the basics for flirting. This book then goes into detail about why those things work and also gives more information regarding those and new techniques. This seems to be the "universal" book for relationshipss and meeting people if you want a scientific, detailed method to try. I think the outlined "steps" or "tips" in this book give the reader confidence and they also help those of us who are very shy to take a chance based on some scientific facts and clearly defined methods for meeting people.

31 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Manipulate your message, not your partner!, March 3, 2003

By	Tom Simon (Calgary, AB Canada) - See all my reviews

There's a wealth of good plain sense in this book, a rare quality that has a lot of people screaming in anger and giving it one-star reviews. The techniques described will dramatically increase your chances of attracting a mate, and some of them are downright essential. (Those are the ones that successful lovers dismiss as 'elementary' or 'simplistic'. Not everybody knows these things!)

Is it manipulative? You can use it that way. But there's nothing manipulative about showing someone that you find them attractive, or trying to display your best qualities -- not the ones you like, but the ones they'll be most interested in. You do the same at a job interview, and finding a life partner is a far more important and serious business than finding a job. The fact is that people are not born with the knowledge of how to start up a romantic relationship, and not all of us were the high-school jocks and prom queens who had all the chances to learn it early in life.

Let's be clear about this. Leil Lowndes' techniques ARE manipulative, but it's not your intended lover who's being manipulated . . . it's your own mind, and how you project your emotions. If you are attracted to someone but fear rejection, they will pick up on the fear but not the attraction. It takes skill and know-how to present yourself so that the attraction shows and the fear is muted. Movie directors know the maxim, 'Don't cast one to play one.' Leading men and leading ladies in romantic movies don't necessarily have the hots for one another . . . but they know how to act so that the audience will be convinced. To succeed at romance, you have to do what will convince your audience. The techniques in this book will be an important part of your repertoire.