How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything: Yes, Anything (Paperback)

by Albert Ellis (Author)

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Product Description
Dr. Ellis argues that not only are anger, anxiety and depression unnecessary, they are unethical--for when one allows emotional disturbances, he or she is being unfair and unjust to his/herself.

Product Details

• Paperback: 215 pages
• Publisher: Lyle Stuart; 1 edition (1988)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0818404566
• ISBN-13: 978-0818404566
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (25 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #22,242 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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79 of 83 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A rational approach to everything., August 7, 2002

By	Bill (Austin, Texas) - See all my reviews

Of my greatest irrational beliefs, the worst was that I was that my life had a greater meaning for this world than anyone else's. After suffering from a panic/anxiety disorder for several years, I was given this book by my therapist. I had partially convinced myself that the philosophical foundation for it was entirely too simple. Don't we all beleive that? "My case is a special one.", No My panic attacks aren't because of that, you're not understanding me." , "No one will ever understand why I feel this way." These are exactly the kinds of irrational beliefs that this book can put an end to. It's been in my possession for two weeks, and in that time I have had peace and clarity and a sense of mastery over my anxiety I have never had before. You're not different. You're not being singled out by God. Your belief that you are is the kind of irrational thinking that means you're right for this book. You're a human. Anxiety is part of life. Learn to cope with it rationally.

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Albert Ellis's Best Self-Help Book, April 9, 2006

By	Jeffrey T. Guterman "Jeffrey" (Bal Harbour, FL, USA) - See all my reviews

This is clearly Albert Ellis's best self-help book on rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT). In "How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything--Yes, Anything," Ellis makes the simple, yet profound point that "you can figure out by sheer logic that if you were only . . . to stay with your desires and preferences, and if you were never...to stray into unrealistic demands that your desires have to be fulfilled, you could very rarely disturb...yourself about anything" (p. 21). At the end of the book, Ellis identifies various unfortunate potential life circumstances and then shows readers how to use his REBT refuse to feel disturbed. I strongly recommend this book for the general public. Mental health professionals will also find this book to be a helpful resource to learn the theory and practice of REBT.

23 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Strong, powerful book on managing & changing one's attitudes, June 14, 1998

By A Customer

Dr. Ellis thinks most people create their own misery by distorted thinking (such as 'I must be perfect'; 'everyone else must be perfect'; and 'the world must be perfect'.) The neat part is that if one has distorted thinking, one can *change* that thinking. A powerful self-help book and one of the few which can be 'life changing'. No hint of 'positive thinking', 'count your blessings', or 'trust in <fill in the blank>. Highly recommended.