Bound to Be Free: The Sm Experience (Paperback)

by Charles Moser (Author), Jj Madeson (Author)

Editorial Reviews

From Library Journal
Of the vast array of human sexual behaviors and practices, sadomasochism (SM) is probably the least understood and, thus, the most feared among the general public. Moser and Madeson here provide perhaps the first intelligent, fully informed, fact-based discussion of what SM is, what it means to its practitioners, how it is practiced, and the structure of its subculture in contemporary American society. Moser, a practicing psychotherapist and counselor, provides the clinical approach taken in the first few chapters. Madeson, a 15-year participant in the SM subculture, provides the practical viewpoint taken in the remaining three quarters of the book. Together, they provide a perspective that is uniquely accurate, sensitive, and fair in its depiction and interpretation of erotic sadomasochism. Highly recommended for academic and special human sexuality collections; small and medium-size public libraries should consider if they have strong popular sex collections.?David R. Johnson, Fayetteville P.L., Ark.
Copyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Description
This work is intended to explain and demystify the world of sadomasochism (SM). It is neither a political statement nor scientific research. It is a discussion of SM, what it means to its practitioners, how it is practised, and the structure of its subculture in contemporary American society. Like all sexual behaviour, SM is more than it seems, encompassing a spectrum of physiological and psychological mechanisms. By its reliance only on observed behaviour, the outsider's view has consistently led to misconceptions and false interpretations of SM behaviour. This book moves beyond the superficial and the misleading, focusing on the actual SM experience by fully integrating the external view of the academic with the internal view of the practitioner.

Product Details

• Paperback: 216 pages
• Publisher: Continuum (October 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0826410472
• ISBN-13: 978-0826410474
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #683,322 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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23 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars This book has merit, March 6, 2000

By A Customer

"Bound To Be Free" is an interesting mix of the professional and the personal. The first three chapters, written by noted sexologist Charles Moser, M.D., PhD, are a good overview of what is known in a scientific way about SM. (Actually, not much although the observation that about one person in ten is interested in SM is interesting.) The rest of the book is written by SM practitioner JJ Madeson.

The book contains good information about the multi-faceted nature and definition of SM, and a good essay on the nature of consent. There are also numerous and somewhat lengthy descriptions of SM play. In fact, there are so many that the book reads like soft porn in some areas. The book also contains numerous, lengthy excerpts from other SM books and even anti-SM books such as "Against Sadomasochism". In fact so much of the book is made up of excerpts from other books that this book almost started reading like a term paper. The book also contains commentary from various members of the SM Community.

The book covers that basics of SM play and techniques, including such matters as safe words, limits, and confidentiality, but reads somewhat flat in areas. However it does contain a long and good essay on why someone would enjoy pain.

The book also contains information on how to contact the SM community such as the Eulenspeigel society in New York City and the Janus Society in San Francisco. It could have used more internet resources though.

Other good books in this field include "Consensual Sadomasochism", "The Sexually Dominant Woman", "Screw the Roses Send Me The Thorns" and "SM 101".

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Bound to Learn Something New, December 22, 2003

By	Meitar Moscovitz "maymay" (Sydney, Australia) - See all my reviews

I first learned of this book when I was at a Barnes and Noble Booksellers browsing through the small collection of sex books and trying to hide myself inconspicuously from the passers-by. When I found this book, I sat down, started reading at a random page and didn't stop for another three chapters.

That's how well this book is written.

That said, the most important thing you need to know is that the book is co-authored by a sexologist (technically a psychologist, actually), and a long-time SM practitioner. The first part of the book is filled with history, reports of research studies, and other relatively dry medical information that some readers may find boring but which give the rest of the book deserved license to speak with its voice of wisdom and experience. (Then again, if you're reading this book in the first place, you probably want to learn all you can about S&M anyway. I did, so the academia lesson was much appreciated.) This first part was written mainly by the Docto. His efforts to be objective and accurate come through in his writing very successfully.

After this, the book is turned over to JJ Madeson, who spends some time speaking about herself before she ventures into discussions of others. This not only gives you an immediate sense of being able to relate to the writing but also gives you an incredibly personal sense of who S&M players really are.

The book is general, covering the more basic parts of the "who," "what," "where," "why" and "when" questions than any specific information on the "how." Throughout each section, interspersed within the text, are short quotes, stories, and experiences related by fellow S&M practitioners -- both those in the public scene and those who play with a boyfriend, a wife, or a play partner, etc, in private.

Above all else, this book gives you a real sense of what S&M is at its physical and emotional core, what it can do for you and to you, and can help give you a little nudge in whatever direction you seek to go. It is full of encouragement, reassurance, and care.

I highly recommend this book to anybody who is interested in learning more about the S&M experience, whether or not they are "into it" themselves. In addition, it may provide a wonderful way to introduce a vanilla ("not-kinky") friend or loved one to your once-secret desires. Newbies will find this book exciting, though may be disappointed to learn of its lack of practical information apart from basic safety information. (You should pick up a book like Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns soon after this one and before you begin to play.)

I came away from reading this book with a sense of gratitude for the authors, excitement about my possibilities, and eager to learn more. I bet you will too.

13 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A beautifully written, demystifying handling of S & M, May 17, 1999

By A Customer

Frankly, this is a book that every serious student of human nature needs to read. Most of what is "out there" is either from academicians who make the topic so dry that it is no fun to read, or from practitioners who are so involved that they either lose or scare us. Moser, the scientist and Madison, the practitioner, have combined to produce a book that is both fun and educational. The book lets us know just what it is that S&Mers do, why they do it and how they do it. Safety issues are emphasized. Finally we learn how S&M can be a very loving, alternative, life-style.