Review
This is a practical book for singles looking for a life partner. The book is presented in two parts: Part I - Making Romance Happen and Part II - Real People. The goal of each section is clear. Part I is designed to help the reader explore his or her attitudes and beliefs about loving relationships. Part II is a series of stories about Dr. Dreyfus' patients search for romantic partners. Dr. Dreyfus proposes approaching romantic relationships in the same way we do losing weight. Ask yourself this question: Am I really committed to finding a partner/losing weight? The author proposes that commitment requires an openness to new information and new ways of doing things; whether looking for a partner or trying to lose weight. He then provides tools for examining the difference between sincerity and commitment. A man or woman may be sincere in having a clear intention and strong desire for romance. But commitment means change, too, not just desire. Tools offered include specific ways to assess personal blocks to intimacy and how past relationships may interfere with the present ability to become close. Examples are: (1) assuming personal power in relationships; (2) overcoming shyness; and (3) honest self-appraisal. Dreyfus provides a method to view yourself from a point outside your own consciousnss. The method involves family and friends in an assessment process that offers self-knowledge. Though it may be hard to see yourself through another's eyes, it gives you an important tool in your quest for companionship.
So if you're looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, and willing to do some homework, this book is the perfect choice for you. Best of luck! -- From the Publisher
Product Description
Most Americans spend more time planning a dinner party or shopping for a car than they do seeking a mate who is right for them. They think the person of their dreams will materialize out of thin air. Romance becomes a matter of serendipity and happenstance. Take a look around you and see the results when luck takes the wheel: unhappiness, bordeom, domestic violence, and divorce.
Someone Right for You offers a strategy for finding a mater, not a playmate. It helps you create a plan based on undertanding of yourself and it teaches you the interpersonal techniques needed to make your plan work.
