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26 of 28 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
I'll Hold you in Heaven, October 6, 2000
As the Infertility Host for Bella Online, I thought this would be a good book to read. Jack Hayford has written a book entitled "I'll Hold You in Heaven - Healing and Hope for the Parent Who has Lost a Child through Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Abortion, or Early Infant Death." This book discusses the life of the child who has died during pregnancy or shortly after. This is done in 8 chapters. Chapter 1 is "The Gift of Loves." Chapter 2 is "When Does Significance Begin?" Chapter 3 is "Life to What Degree?" Chapter 4 is "Destiny in the Afterworld." Chapter 5 is "In Heaven as a Person." Chapter 6 is "Instruments of Healing." Chapter 7 is "The Heartbeat of Love." Chapter 8 is "Three Steps to Loving." Although this book says that it is for any parent who has lost a child anytime from early in a pregnancy to shortly after a baby is born, I find that to not be true. This books seems to be more for someone who has had an abortion. There is a need for a book to minister to someone who has had an abortion, but I do not feel that this book should be marketed to people who have had a miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death, when it actually does not truly reach out to them. In spite of the fact that I have a problem with how this book is marketed, I do appreciate Chapter 6 "Instruments of Healing." It gives 3 steps to take in working through your grief to reach a place of healing. The first is "Understanding the Truth About God." God can take the pain that you are feeling and use it for our good. The second is "Embrace the Process of Grief." Losing a child is truly a loss regardless of what anyone tells you. It is natural to grieve for a lost loved one. Let yourself grieve. The third is "Put Guilt in Its Place." Guilt is a part of the grief cycle. When you lose a child, you are sure that something you did or did not do caused your baby to die. One must confront their guilt and determine whether it is real or not. Whether your guilt is real or not, God can and will help you through this. You can reach a place of healing.
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19 of 21 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
The book is hopeful, while offering biblical backup., October 25, 1999
I feel the book offers hope that our babies have gone on to heaven, backed up by scripture references. However, I feel the book focuses too much on abortion. While there probably is a need for this type of forgiveness and resolution to those who have had abortions, it felt uncomfortable for me to be lumped in with those mothers. I have suffered a stillbirth at 38 1/2 weeks. I desperately wanted my child, so it bothered me to have to deal with the abortion issue so much throughout the book.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
First book to give grieving parents., October 23, 1996
By A Customer
Two days after Christmas, in 1994, my baby died. She had not even been born yet; actually her life was only a few weeks old as she had only been conceived the first part of that month. But oh, how I grieved!
Noel was conceived in the midst of a long struggle with infertility. She has been our only *known* conception in all these years of trying to get pregnant, but my doctor and I think that I may have had several other miscarriages too early to know that I had even conceived.
I know that my babies aren't here anymore. I will never get to celebrate their births, nor watch them grow up. But where are they now? What happened to them? Were they ever really even "people"? _I'll Hold You in Heaven_ offers great assurance from the Bible that yes, my babies were and are very real. They have souls and are precious in God's sight. I have hope that I will see them again in Heaven some day where I will finally be able to hold my precious children and tell them just how much they have been loved and mourned on this earth.
I am now the director of a large Christian support organization designed to minister to couples hurting from the pain of infertility, pregnancy loss, or early infant death. I have a library of well over 100 excelent books on these issues, but _I'll Hold You in Heaven_ is the first book I try to encourage newly bereaved parents to read. It is small enough not to overwhelm, yet powerful enough to really help a couple begin their greiving and healing process. It possitively deals with several different kinds loss including miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, and early infant death.
Jennifer, "Hannah's Prayer" Director
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