Men Don't Cry, Women Do: Transcending Gender Stereotypes of Grief (Series in Death, Dying, and Bereavement) (Paperback)

~ Terry Martin (Author) "All of these individuals are grieving a significant loss..." (more)
Key Phrases: instrumental grievers, intuitive grievers, dissonant grievers, Carl Jung, The Compassionate Friends (more...)

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Overrall, I found this a wise and bracing critique of conventional wisdom in the therapy field. I expect that the books influence will be significant.
–Journal of Feminist Family Therapy

Product Description

Do men and women grieve differently? This new text, while emphasizing that there are many ways to cope with grief, offers a refreshing change from the popular gender stereotypes of grief. Two patterns of grieving are described: an intuitive pattern where individuals experience and express grief in an affective way (stereotyped as female); and an instrumental pattern where grief is expressed physically or cognitively (stereotyped as male). A third pattern representing a blending of these two is also introduced. Of critical importance is that such patterns are related to, but not determined by, gender; and each has distinct strengths and weaknesses.

Organized into three main parts, this topical new text begins by defining terms, introducing and delineating the grief patterns, and rooting the book's concept in contemporary theories of grief. The second part speculates on factors that may influence individuals' patterns of coping with loss (e.g., personality, gender, culture, etc.). The final part considers implications and therapeutic interventions likely to be effective with different types of grievers.

Product Details

• Paperback: 184 pages
• Publisher: Routledge; 1 edition (December 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0876309953
• ISBN-13: 978-0876309957
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.8 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #166,183 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars men don't cry, women do, January 28, 2008

By	N. Thorpe - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I needed a dictionary to get started. Some of the vocabulary was used in a way I was not familiar with. I've facilitated grief groups and families for 15 years and this book was helpful in helping me understand the men in these groups a little better. I also felt in some ways this book was written by Ph.D's for Ph.D's, it could have been a little more lay person friendly.
The book arrived in good shape and in a timely fashion.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very informative, March 8, 2007

By	MFT - See all my reviews

I bought this book for a course on grief and loss. I found the information invaluable, giving me a whole new perspective on the way we grieve.The title doesn't do it much justice.It's a must read.