Once More With Love (Paperback)

by Bobbi Doyle-Hennessey (Author) "When we prepare for a second marriage, we need to review the two major factors that contribute to the failure of second marriages: 1) marrying..." (more)
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Understanding that second marriages fail at an even more alarming rate that first marriages, this practical, down-to-earth book offers useful strategies for coping with the problems and issues of remarriage. Focusing on communication and conflict resolution skills, it also presents resources to help deepen and enrich relationships. Includes worksheets.

Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Ave Maria Press, Inc. (January 1, 1993)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0877934983
• ISBN-13: 978-0877934981
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #1,318,849 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars good overview, and misses key points, August 3, 2004

By	Peter Gerlach (Portland, OR) - See all my reviews

I have specialized in providing professional education and therapy to divorced, courting, and re/wedded couples since 1981. I am (a) 66, (b) a stepgrandson, stepson, and ex-stepfather and stepbrother, (c) an invited Board member of the Stepfamily Association of America, (d) a contributing editor to 'Your Stepfamily Online,' and (e) the author of six personal-growth and family-relations books.

I recommend "Once more With Love" to courting partners who want a perceptive introduction to important surface issues in re/marriage. The "/" notes it may be one partner's first union. I do not recommend this book to any mate, student, or family professional seeking to understand and avoid the core causes of re/divorce - specially when prior kids are involved.

Like most authors in this genre, Bobbi Coyle-Hennessey misses four core hazards that (I believe) every re/married partner needs to know:

1) why and how to assess and reduce co-parents' psychological wounds from childhood (vs. divorce);

2) the origin and impacts of blocked grief in adults and kids, and how to spot and reduce it;

3) co-parent unawareness of five key topics: (a) normal personality formation, composition, and function; (b) keys to high-nurturance families and relationships, (c) effective communication skills, (d) healthy 3-level grief, and - for co-parents - (e) stepfamily realities and norms and implications. and...

4) little effective re/marital and co-parenting help (i.e. courtship coaching, classes, informed counseling, co-parent support groups) available in most communities and the media.

In my clincal experience since 1979, these factors will often block the best-intentioned adults from following well-meant re/marital advice in this and similar books. If ignored, the factors inexorably promote choosing the wrong people to re/wed, for the wrong reasons, at the wrong time. That promotes subsequent stresses and psychological or legal re/divorce. Awareness, acceptance, and discussion of these and related) factors - specially before re/wedding - can reduce three of these stressors, and help to achieve healthy re/marriages and high-nurturance stepfamilies.

For more perspective on this review, see:

http://sfhelp.org/11/choose_bks.htm