Will You Still Love Me If I Don't Win?: A Guide for Parents of Young Athletes (Paperback)

by Christopher Anderson (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Taylor Trade Publishing (March 25, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0878331727
• ISBN-13: 978-0878331727
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #828,418 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful parent guide , September 4, 2007

By	T. Kelly "T. Kelly" (Los Angeles,CA USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

The book helped me see how my parents effected me in certain ways,
particularly about my self esteem, and how I have carried that through
to my sons. Because of this I have become much more aware of how I
talk to my kids and I pay attention to how they react to me.
My husband I and I talk to each other more now since the book about
what we see in each other's behavior towards our kids.
It is the only book I have ever read that really talks about the
emotional side of sports. Reading it was such an education and so
helpful in understanding how much emotions play a role in my son's
approach to sports. I knew it to some extent, but not near to the
extent I now am aware of it.I found that this book is not really just about sports, but about
parenting, and it can apply to all areas in my son's life.
Not assuming that I always know how I am impacting my sons with my
behavior. I pay much more attention to how I speak to them,
particularly the tones in my voice when I am disappointed with them.
Until I read the book I did not understand how often my frustration or
anger (often it didn't have anything to do with my kids) was negatively
effected my sons, not only in sports, but in our relationship.
Learning how to be more supportive, by listening to them a little
differently and encouraging them--by asking more questions--to talk
about how they feel about things. Appreciating to a greater extent how
important this is.
Understanding much more about how their birth order effects how they
approach sports and everything else in their lives.I was honored to do a book signing and Q&A for our son's school,the author was kind enough to attend. The school sold over 60 books and parents responded possitivally to all ascpects of the book.
I would recommend this book to anyone.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Review of Will you Still Love me If I Don't Win, January 29, 2006

By	Claymom "Kerri Francis" (Houston, TX) - See all my reviews

I got some good information out of this book once I got to the journaling/exercises. Until then it really made me feel like I was going to screw up my kids and that everything I said or did was going to be either too pressure-inducing for them or too unsupportive! I almost quit reading just because it made me feel bad, but I kept going. I kept telling myself that it couldn't be all THAT bad...and as I said, the journaling/exercises were helpful.

I also thought it was very repetative. The same thing was said over and over in about 20 different ways..."you really MUST examine your feelings."

Anyway...I don't think I would recommend the book EXCEPT for the journaling/exercises in the last section.