Ability to Love (Paperback)

by Allan Fromme (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback: 366 pages
• Publisher: Wilshire Book Company; Revised edition (June 1980)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0879800003
• ISBN-13: 978-0879800000
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #554,507 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Your values may vary, April 12, 2007

By	Elizabeth (Wisconsin) - See all my reviews

A well written and practical psychological (especially Freudian) perspective on love as attachment. Discusses the ways disorders of the ability to love originate, particularly in childhood, and affect us through our lives in friendship, romantic love, parenthood etc, and the ways we can heal and have healthy attachments. I think different readers will relate to this book in different ways; I found its assumptions about what is normal were rather far away from the way I try to live my life. The book has a lot of emphasis on positive self image and getting one's needs met, and those with a spiritual perspective of cultivating humility and nonattachment as a basis for self-giving love may find this book hard to relate to and "worldly." In trying to read this book I was challenged to make a clear distinction between disordered psychology (for instance chronic, morbid feelings of inferiority and unworthiness) and the counterintuitive values of the spiritual life (for instance a generous spirit of humility and poverty, as in the Beatitudes) which require good psychological health for their full practice. The book did help me think about some of my problems constructively.

6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Relationship wisdom, April 14, 2006

By	C. S. Javadi (Austin, TX USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I found Dr. Fromme's book while wandering in my university library, thinking as I opened it that it would be dated and old-fashioned. Not so. The book's observations are timeless, and its advice relevant to anyone regardless of his or her experience with relationships. I'm sure I don't need another book on this subject, that's how much I learned from it.