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32 of 32 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Wonderful, sensitive, kind treatment of birth trauma, October 28, 1998
By A Customer
This book represents one-of-a-kind treatment of the emotional havoc that a traumatic birth can have on a mother, and in turn her partner and baby. It is particularly effective in utilizing the birth stories of three women (including the author herself), which come from a spectrum of birth-traumatic experiences: the unnecessary cesearean, the absolutely necessary cesearean, and the highly manipulated vaginal birth. Through the accounts of these three women, a pathway is shown for many to follow in coming to terms with their own birth trauma. Perhaps the most commendable aspect of Madsen's treatment of the subject is that she choses to acknowledge birth trauma and the possible depression that follows as something other than "just hormonal," and even makes a good case for birth trauma being a particular instance of post-traumatic stress syndrome.Besides the much-appreciated acknowledgment (to this reader, at any rate) that birth trauma is not merely unjustified self-pity, Madsen provides very concrete ways of coming to terms with what has happened and pushing on with life. Each chapter has "journal topics" for women to think, write or talk about. She also includes an entire chapter, "Creative Tools for Recovery," which details several more pathways, including art, writing, storytelling, dreams, bodywork, among others. Not only is this book a must-read for any woman who has had a less than ideal birth, it would be highly recommended to people who have contact with new moms, including partners (who may have their own birth stress as well), doctors, nurses, midwives, doulas, counselors, and so forth.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
A need for this book, but will not serve all, June 11, 2002
Perhaps if I read this book after my first birth, I might look at it differently, but I read it after my last birth and I felt left with the thought afterwards of "now what". After 3 difficult births, I had already gone through a lot of grief, research, and personal thought before we had our 4th child nearly a year ago. Despite doing everything I could do to have a good birth experience, it was an extremely difficult one. I do not plan on more children (nor did I before my last birth). This book, along with other books of this subject (related to cesarean trauma/birth trauma/VBAC issues) puts a lot of emphasis of planning for a "next birth". For many people who grieve because of a birth trauma (i.e. excess pain and suffering whether cesarean or vaginal, prolonged separation from baby due to health issues, a loss of child), it may be our last birth and while I'm pleased the author's second birth was a good experience, not all of us will have that option. What I needed was a book to help me come to terms with my experiences and integrate it into who I am, not something that seemed to gear so much toward a future birth. Traumatic births are life-altering experiences, but some of us do not get another chance. This book is necessary and I would recommend to anyone who is planning more children with a past difficult birth or loss, but I wouldn't recommend to anyone who knows that their traumatic experience will be their last birth experience.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent!, April 22, 2003
I thought this was a great book for those of us with negative feelings of our birth experiences. Some real truths are dealt with here and I felt better reading about situations and emotions like my own. The book helped me realize that what I was feeling and people's reactions to my feelings were not at all uncommon. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is trying to recover from a negative experience and feels that no one understands. I am so glad I found it!
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