Marriage: The Mystery of Faithful Love (Paperback)

~ (Author) "THE GREATNESS and sublimity of marriage, the closest and most ultimate of unions, raised by Christ to the dignity of a Sacrament, is revealed at..." (more)
Key Phrases: conjugal love, sacramental marriage, natural marriage, Holy Orders, Kingdom of God

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Text: English, German (translation)

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• Paperback: 84 pages
• Publisher: Sophia Institute Press (January 1, 1991)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 091847700X
• ISBN-13: 978-0918477002
• Product Dimensions: 7.1 x 4.9 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
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44 of 45 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars MARRIAGE AS IT IS AND AS IT SHOULD BE, January 20, 2001

By	Barry E. DeWalt (Redding, CA USA) - See all my reviews

Marriage gives true love a structure. Hildebrand makes the point that marriage causes each spouse to fight against himself for the sake of his beloved. This, argues, von Hildebrand is why it has become so unpopular.

Von Hildebrand has provides us a forcefully correct understanding of marriage. If you believe that love is both enduring and faithful and that marriage is an unbreakable bond, this book is for you. If you believe that marriage is a well intended union, but need not be permanent this book is really for you.

Von Hildebrand has not written another dimestore "discover yourself and save your marriage" books. Von Hildebrand understands, and argues forcefully, that in loving your spouse you are loving Christ because your spouse is a member of the Body of Christ.

Selfless love towards your spouse is to care solely for the salvation of the person meant by God for you. Once this is realized conjugal love, romantic love, and an enduring love follow.

I really enjoyed this book. It provides an insight into the Catholic understanding of marriage as a sacrament and indissolvable union. No reader will leave this book without having gained some insight and respect for marriage. Buy the book.

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Indebtedness of the "Theology of the Body" to Dietrich Von Hildebrand, July 4, 2006

By	Joseph P. Tevington - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

One hundred and twenty-nine of Pope John Paul II's general audiences (9/5/79 to 11/28/84) have become known to us as his Theology of the Body. In spreading the good news about the late Holy Father's teachings, Christopher West explains: "The Holy Father presents a vision of Marriage and sexuality never before articulated." Clarification may be in order. It takes nothing away from the Theology of the Body to look at some of its influences.

In 1929, German philosopher Dietrich Von Hildebrand published "Marriage," which was excitedly received by his country's papal nuncio (who later became Pope Pius XII). On its web site, EWTN explains that Marriage constituted the "earliest orthodox presentation of the personalistic approach to matrimony which would find its way into Vatican II's Guadium et Spes, Pope Paul VI's encyclical Humanae Vitae and...the writings of Pope John Paul II....Pope Pius XII called von Hildebrand `the 20th century Doctor of the Church.'" Published just one year before Pope Pius XI's Casti Connubii, "Marriage" is a wonderful little book, which reads as fluidly and beautifully as a Christopher West presentation of the Theology of the Body (My quotes are from Sophia Institute's 1997 paperback edition.):

"there is no greater mystery in the natural order of things than the fact that this closest of all unions procreates a human being with an immortal soul (although the soul, in each case, is a direct creation of God), and that this act brings a new being into existence destined to love God and to adore Him, a new being made after His image" (p. 26). "How terrible to think of man wanting to destroy this unity which God has established so mysteriously, deeming those united in the highest earthly union of love worthy to take part in His creative power" (p. 28). "He alone can understand the horror of the sin of promiscuity who has grasped the grandeur and sublimity of bodily union as the full realization of conjugal love, and who realizes that besides the primary end of procreation, the primary meaning of bodily union lies in the fulfillment of conjugal love" (pp. 30, 31). "Jesus has invested marriage with a dignity which represents something quite new....He raised it to the rank of a Sacrament. He made of this sacred bond a specific source of grace. He transformed marriage - already sacred in itself - into something sanctifying" (p. 53).

Despite its freshness and seeming newness, Marriage was based on notes from one of von Hildebrand's own 1923 talks! As per Dr. Thomas Howard (A Portrait of Dietrich von Hildebrand, 2000), "It is inconceivable that the writings of von Hildebrand will ever be dated, no matter what tortuous metamorphoses the coming centuries may bring."

Von Hildebrand's life seems to have been packed with sanctity, romance, heroism, and intrigue. An outspoken opponent of Hitler, he became targeted for assassination. Hunted throughout Europe, he arrived in New York City in 1940, where he taught at Jesuit-run Fordham University until 1960. Widowed in 1957, he remarried in 1959, to a woman 34 years his junior (Dr. Alice Von Hildebrand is familiar to many from EWTN.). Just two years before Pope Paul VI's Humane Vitae, Von Hildebrand published Man and Woman: Love and the Meaning of Intimacy (My quotes are from Sophia Institute's 1992 edition.):

"Although we hear that sex is overemphasized today, this is not correct. Rather, we live in a time in which sexuality is no longer understood in its true nature. People today are generally as blind to its true meaning as are persons who completely lack sensuality....Today's blatant sexuality conceals a pathetic sensual emptiness" (p. 3). "It was said that Christians are to be recognized by the fact that they love one another. I would add: Christians should also be recognized by the fact that they who have received the festival clothes in Baptism shun any superficial, mediocre approach to the great goods of creation, that they understand more profoundly than others `how admirable are they works, O God'" (p. 45). "As long as conception and birth are seen exclusively as mere physiological processes, we cannot understand the impact and seriousness of the making of a new human being" (p. 61). "Every active intervention on the part of the spouses, which eliminates the possibility of conception through the conjugal act, is incompatible with the holy mystery of the superabundant relation in the incredible gift offered by God....To make use of natural family planning is not to imply the slightest irreverence or rebellion against God's institution and the wonderful link between the love union and procreation" (pp. 68 - 69).

As reported by Dr. Thomas Howard (A Portrait of Dietrich von Hildebrand, 2000), "John Paul II forthrightly acknowledged his own intellectual debt to von Hildebrand, especially in the matter of marriage." Alice von Hildebrand's 2000 biography of her late husband (i.e., The Soul of a Lion) features a forward by then Cardinal Ratzinger:

"Dietrich von Hildebrand was exceptional in many ways. His extensive writings on Christian philosophy, spiritual theology, and in defense of the Church's teaching, place him among the great thinkers of the twentieth century. His steadfast and determined opposition to totalitarianism, whether in the form of National Socialism or Marxist Leninism, a conviction that would cost him greatly during his life, illustrates the profound clarity of his moral vision and his willingness to suffer for what he knew was true."

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book for couples of any faith., July 7, 2004

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von Hildebrand recovers for our modern world a vision of marriage not often believed to be possible, showing that -- in fact -- such a marriage is both eminently possible and _necessary_, a marriage in which the bond is much deeper than legal or emotional, a marriage in which the couple -- as another reivewer noted -- "fight against themselves on behalf of the other." It is a thing of hard work, of surrender, of bliss, and of deep growth and union. It is a path to true sanctity. This is the marriage for which everyone longs but which few realize is possible.