Sex Longing & Not Belonging : A Gay Muslim's Quest for Love & Meaning (Paperback)

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Product Details

• Paperback: 252 pages
• Publisher: Floating Lotus USA; 1 edition (August 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0942777166
• ISBN-13: 978-0942777161
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #1,738,344 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

Customer Reviews

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16 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Searng honest account of being gay, Muslim, and omni-exiled, December 6, 1997

By A Customer

Although VERY sexually graphic, this book is an acute analysis of the confusions first of being Pakistani and attracted to males, and then of being a gay Muslim in Anglo North America (New York, Toronto, San Francisco). There are too many adjectives for some tastes, and more will cringe at how the author treats servants and other sex objects. He is more honest than most of us dare to be--particularly about the marriage he permitted his family back in Pakistan to arrange for him. One friend who accommodates his homosexuality to marriage and family in Pakistan and one who cuts his cultural and family ties to live entirely in a New York gay world provide contrasts of other possible paths and a (rather coldly academic) afterword by the author of ISLAMIC HOMOSEXUALITIES draws out other comparisons of gay Muslim lifeways.

17 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Too much sex and not enough substance, June 2, 2001

By	"shams-e-tabriz" (USA) - See all my reviews

But I guess that is what gay men want to read. As a Muslim, I was really hoping for more insight on Islam and homosexuality. Instead it's just the tales (many of which, the author notes in the introduction, are fake) of an oversexed man and his sex life. Probably most American gay men who have ethnic fetishes will find the book titilating, he does go into great detail of his sex life (ex. seducing the servents in his home, sex on vacation, when he moves to San Francisco). I on the other hand wish there was more to it than that.

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Extraordinary, December 7, 1997

By A Customer

Wow! What a find! This is the first book of its kind, and well written too! The book describes in first person the authors experiences, growing up Muslim and gay in Pakistan....but beyond that, it also includes striking commentary on what it means to be "gay" in North America, from another point of view, and a very educated one at that. I enjoyed the writing, and read the book at one (very long) sitting...couldnt put it down...it is a bit specialized, though, but a must read if you are interested in cross cultural issues