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12 of 14 people found the following review helpful:
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The agenda of this book is ?, September 25, 2005
So, it isn't enough the adoption industry has managed to try and convince young fertile women that if they love their babies they will surrender them to their wealthy clients?They then want our children to believe that their Mothers didn't love them when they lost their babies to adoption? So, it appears that the adoption industry and those that profit off the hearts and bodies of young fertile woman are nothing but self-serving hypocrites .With the suggestion of this book to tell young children that their mothers didn't love them just goes to show you the industry has no problem with harming children if it benefits their clients. I am in contact with many adoptees and natural mothers and they have indeed been harmed from being separated by adoption. I believe that this is why the adoption industry has been fighting to keep adoption records closed.They need however, to stop using us Mothers of adoption loss to further their agenda of infant adoption. Mothers of adoption loss do not have the money nor the political clout that the adoption brokers have but we do have what they don't have;We have the truth and that will continue to be told to young fertile women so they and their children will never have to be victims of the adoption industry.Mothers of adoption loss want the industry to stop using us whenever it benefits them and their adenda.We are no longer the scared young fertile women that the industry could take advantage of and we won't stand by in silence while they continue their lies.....
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
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Highly objectionable adoption language, May 21, 2005
If one contributor's work can be taken as representative of the attitudes of National For Adoption Council thinking, the chapters written by Denis M. Donovan lay bare NCFA's real attitude toward birthmothers.
In his chapter entitled "Disclosure of Adoptive Status," Donovan emphasizes that "Adoptive parents are...the adoptive child's only parents. Thus there cannot be 'two sets of parents' nor can there be 'biological' and 'adoptive'.....parents." Therefore, if the child should use the conventional expression 'biological mother/father/parent,' the parent should answer with terminology like this: "...he/she chose not to be a parent, so you mean the 'biological stranger.'"
And how about if the child asks the question, which many adopted children do, "You mean she didn't love me? She didn't love her own baby?" Donovan suggests the mother respond thus: "No. She didn't love you. She chose not to ba a parent and not to get to know you, and not take care of you."
Later in this chapter, Donovan advises that the "truth" can be told to the child when he/she is older - in his example, age 14. Now when the child asks "if the 'biological stranger' was really that devoid of love and caring and a 'bad person,'" the mother can set the record straight with, "No, she just got pregnant when she was only your age and knew that, without resources of any kind at all, she couldn't possibly care for that baby. That's why she gave that baby away."
Donovan's crass adoption language flies in the face of every sound adoption psychology, let alone common decency. The fact that his work is included in this purported "factbook" surely categorizes the remainder of the book: useless fiction.
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12 of 15 people found the following review helpful:
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Adoption Factbook is Pure Lies, July 30, 2001
Few adoptions are happy, satisfying events. Very few. As an adoptee, I have researched this topic all my life. I have met 3 adoptees , over the course of my 61 years of life,who were happy with their adoptive families. The rest of us are displaced people searching for our roots, and feeling alienated. This book is false and misleading. Dr. Barbra Rubin
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