The Principles of Seduction: How to Get Another Person to Fall in Love With You (Hardcover)

by G. Clayton Viddler (Author)

Product Details

• Hardcover: 268 pages
• Publisher: Pedestal Press (February 1993)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0962760269
• ISBN-13: 978-0962760266
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 5.9 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #764,586 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Just Enough for One Who "Thinks Too Much", November 19, 1999

By	Douglas C. Findlay (Washington, DC) - See all my reviews

This book may be dry reading for some, and perhaps annoying to proof-readers. If you can get past these hurdles, The Principles of Seduction is probably the most comprehensive, factual, and rational explanation for that crazy little thing called love.

Mr. Viddler relies mostly on existing research for this book, but like many true discoverers, pulls all the essential ingredients together to create something truly wonderful.

To some, love seems to come naturally. Others get lucky. Then, there are the rest of us, who can't settle for less than the real thing, and yet the real thing always seems to be out of our grasp.

Have you ever seen happy couples and wonder, "Why not me?" This book is for you, especially if you're the sort that longs for fulfillment, but can't trust it all to fate.

Mr. Viddler spends a fair amount of time explaining the basics, both of personality types and the fundamental elements of love. The title is misleading, since he does not write to the lethario (or letharia). It's powerful stuff, but like my good friend once said, "Use your powers only for good."

If your friends have ever told you, "You think too much," when discussing love (or more precicely, the lack of it), then this book is for you. I've gone from being very lonely to being very choosey, and for this I extend Mr. Viddler my most profound thanks. DF

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Mr.Viddler, please re-write this book, January 17, 2001

By A Customer

...and use someone who knows how to edit...it is by far one of the worst books ever written in terms of communicating ideas...it is not written in English...on the flip side your message is potentially extraordinary and is so powerful that it could change people's lifes in significant ways...I am one of those who was never successful in getting the woman I love to love me...I have recently started applying the principles..do not know yet if the principles would work..but have a feeling that it is working...but what I have seen while reading the book (guess trying to read the book is better description...gosh...what a horrible language and editing..) I saw all the things I have been doing wrong...and related to it...again PLEASE RE-WRITE THE BOOK then it will have a chance of becoming a masterpiece...short sentences please...no unnecessary words..plain English..please..

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Academic and thoughtful, but fatally flawed, February 5, 1999

By A Customer

A sober, well-written and well thought out set of instructions by someone whose knowledge of the singles market is clearly secondhand.

Nice psychology. Some wonderful truths. Yes, G. Clayton, being a good man wanting to fall in love means I have a wonderful gift for someone. And there are others that are wonderfully affirming. But here's the rub.

You say that women would consider the most romantic place to meet a man to be the New York subway system. That women would welcome a potential love-of-their-life in the grocery store, bookstores, art galleries, whatever. Makes good sense, and I bet lots of women would agree or even volunteer these things.

But to paraphrase Mammy in a certain 1939 movie, what women want and what they say they want is two different things. In my recent 2 1/2 year-long being single experience, top-quality women are as receptive to meeting men for romance in daily life as your publisher would have been to receive the manuscript for this book written in crayon on construction paper. These women go to bars - regardless of their socioeconomic status. They log on to chat rooms. They meet men through friends. They go to singles events (though that's rare for attractive women with good careers under 45). They occasionally let someone in when their guard gets taken down by stressful events, such as those who marry the security guard who helped them when their car was stolen. And in life as it is, rather than life as some think it should be, that's about it.

Makes sense, too. If you were a successful, attractive and smart early-30's woman, would you want to go through life looking at everyone, in romantically-available mode, all the time? You would get 20-50 men EVERY DAY hitting you up - you couldn't do anything else. And as for my wonderful gift, about which I sincerely agree with you, if the woman has the epidemic disease of fear and hostility toward intimacy, it will end up ungiven.

With all of that said, the book is heartening and useful. A good and worthwhile read.