What the Hell Do Women Really Want: A Guide for Men in the 90s (Hardcover)

~ Jama Clark (Author)

Product Details

• Hardcover
• Publisher: Island Flower Books; 2 edition (November 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0964225417
• ISBN-13: 978-0964225411
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.8 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #970,830 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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29 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Reality Check - Let's Get To the Point!, September 4, 2002

By A Customer

As you read the other reviews for this book you will find many people who are upset with what the author has said in her book. Those people are missing the point of the book. It's just as ugly and simple as this: everyone has standards and the people who have the most to offer (in terms of looks, financial assets, personality, etc.) are in a position to demand more than others. Whether you like it or not that is the way things are.

Yes, I know you talked to lots of cute women (7's & 8's) who claim they are not as materialistic as the book suggests. I just have two things to say about that.

First, if you lower your standards enough (not quite as cute or whatever) you can ALWAYS find someone to date. The rest will reject you based on exactly the criteria listed in this book. (Although you may be short selling yourself or sabataging yourself by not setting your standards high enough.)

Second, if you read the letters in women's magazines and their posts on the internet you will find women have two basic complaints about men:

a) Too many men act like doormats. Women aren't looking for guys who bend over backwards to please them, they want men with some spine!

b) The guys that they sleep with (ie. the good looking guys with plenty of money to flash around) usually turn out to be jerks. Notice I said these are the guys they are SLEEPING WITH! As their looks begin to fade and they get a little older they will eventually settle for someone a little safer, a little nicer, a little... boring.

The question is, which end of this deal do you want in on? Do you want to be the nice safe guy who gets the left overs or the guy who gets the action? If you want to be the one getting the action then you need to be aware of the criteria women use (consciously or subconsciously) in selecting the guys they will sleep with or bond with, and those things are spelled out very well in this book.

I'm not saying you have to like it, I am saying this is the way things are. The information in this book can help you do a LOT better with the ladies.

14 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A lighthouse in a foggy sea, January 20, 2000

By	Mark D. Frank (California, US) - See all my reviews

I met a wonderful girl a while back. She was smart, beautiful and intelligent. The only problem was, whenver I approached or saw her, my brain would turn into oatmeal and I wouldn't know what to say. I acted like Jerry Lewis in "The Nutty Professor."

If I had the knowledge and techniques in this book back then, I know things would have turned out dramatically different. I may not have won the girl, but I would feel better about myself for many reasons.

In her book, Dr. Clark taught me many things. I learned that the best thing to be is myself. And she taught me to do that by showing me how to talk to women, how to express myself in a genuine way, to ask questions that get women to respond and open up, and what appeals to a woman etc.

Maybe there are some people who don't need help, or maybe they are fooling themselves and their ego is resistive to criticism and change, like my ego was. I did not want to accept what Dr. Clark was saying. The sad fact was, deep down I knew it was true what she was saying.

The book is good and the Dr.'s arguments are sound. I have tried out the suggestions and they work. If you are not a born Cassanova or Bill Clinton, then read this book.

In a final thought, I had quite a few friends who are women read this book. They all were in agreement that this book was quite good and true. I have read quite a few other books about dating since then, to see if they had any merit. I can truly say that Dr. Clark is the high standard in which I judge all other writings now. None can match her insight and truthful insight. Thank you Dr. Clark.

18 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Yes, it IS a curse to be called "a nice guy", November 27, 2000

By	J. Collins (Las Vegas, NV USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Men have joked about this for years: "Ugh, she called me a NICE GUY", knowing that this killed one's chances for any woman. Well, it's true-a simplification maybe, but basically true. This book is filled with much research based on evolutionary biology and presented in a direct manner. If you are looking for a Touchy-feely, I'm OK-You're OK, Let's sing Kumbaya, relationship book; look elsewhere. Personally, I find this type of directness refreshing. For some readers who may fit the molds she describes, this book will be disturbing. I believe that's the author's intent: shock therapy for complacent readers. Read it, think about how it applies to your situation, and try it. If the book doesn't work for you, Dr Clark is willing to do over the phone consultations-she's listed her office number and email. Not many authors will do that. All in all, an impressive book for "jerks" and "nice guys"...