Cure by Crying: How to Cure Your Own, Depression, Nervousness, Headaches, Violent Temper, Insomnia, Marital Problems, Addictions by Uncovering Your Repressed memories (Paperback)

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In my first session I remembered mom leaving. In my second session I remembered my birth. After 9 sessions I realized that I was more confident, I stopped procrastinating, I felt better -- Andy R., Salesman

I'm a hypnotist, but hypnotism could not stop my over-eating. After 5 sessions of crying, I realized I was no longer nibbling between meals -- Marianne P., Hypnotherapist

Cure By Crying helped me quit my addiction to drugs -- Beth B., Housewife

My only complaint about Cure By Crying is that I wish he had written it 40 years ago. I'm 71-years-old. I've wasted most of my life on my emotional problems -- Jim C., Retired Truck Driver

My violent temper destroyed my marriage. Cure By Crying has put me on the path to recovery -- Lewis P., Policeman -- Actual testimonials from readers of Cure By Crying

Product Description

How to cure depression at home, for free, without a psychiatrist.

Learn why crying in movies can heal your brain.

Learn why the genetic chemical imbalance theory of depression is a partial truth.

This book documents an amazing breakthrough discovery, how to permanently cure depression without a psychiatrist and without Prozac. Not a quick fix! Not full of psycho-babble about self-esteem and assertiveness. Cure By Crying is a hard-working process that physically repairs the brain.

Stone challenges the genetic chemical imbalance theory of mental illness. His method is simple:

Remember your childhood traumas, the day your father died, or the day your mother left you, and cry about it until you're done crying. Written by America's foremost expert on repressed memory, Cure By Crying is both a revealing personal story of abuse, and a step-by-step do-it-yourself manual.

The same method also cures headaches, nervousness, insomnia, violent temper, addictions, and marital problems, because they are all caused by repressed memories, according to Stone's theory ...

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Fifteen years ago Tom Stone suffered from depression, headaches, insomnia, addictions, and a miserable marriage. He tried marriage counselors, group therapy and psychoanalysis, but his symptoms wouldn't go away. Out of necessity, he developed a way to cure himself by remembering his traumas and crying about them. He found 25 repressed traumas, including physical violence, his mom leaving, the death of a playmate, and a near drowning. The process cured all of his symptoms. Today his method is used and recommended by many professional therapists. Founder of the Cure By Crying Institute, Tom and his wife Nancy live in Des Moines, Iowa.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 290 pages
• Publisher: Cure by Crying; 1st edition (March 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0964767406
• ISBN-13: 978-0964767409
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #732,332 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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18 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Profoundly insightful yet poorly written self-help book., October 10, 1999

By A Customer

"Cure By Crying" is at turns profound, sappy, powerful and disorganized. Its the worst piece of writing that I have ever read ten times. It is the story of how a man "cured" himself of emotional problems by uncovering and crying about repressed childhood traumas. The author, Thomas A. Stone, is obviously a genius at drawing insights out of his own emotional and mental experience. He has combined these insights with those of his "mentors" -- Freud, Janov (Primal Scream) and Hubbard (yes, L. Ron) -- to form a therapy that he modestly entitles "The Therapy". It is a serious, complete and straight-forward self-therapy, and may just help you understand and deal with your problems better. If you are interested in deep-feeling therapy or how the mind works, it is well worth the trouble.

23 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A well written easy to follow guide to self-regressive theap, December 10, 1997

By	[e-mail] (Opelousas, La) - See all my reviews

In Cure By Crying, Thomas A. Stone tells an interesting story of how he was able to eliminate or greatly reduce many of his physical and mental symptoms. He had been bothered by a facial rash, by insomnia, headaches, nightmares, nervousness, depression, lack of energy, procrastination, colitis, violent temper, among a number of other health problems. The book will be a fascinating read for those in a regressive therapy. It gives detailed instructions on how to explore your own subconscious mind with the help of a friend or spouse. The author is convinced that for the first few months, or the first year, you definitely need another person to help you with your therapy. But later on, he writes that if it becomes necessary, you can continue alone. I am happy the author included an entire chapter about himself and his family. It is one of the last chapters and in it and in other parts of his book, he practices what he preaches and does not censor his thoughts. Stone opens his book with a recounting of his early traumas which were uncovered during his own therapy This short section may be read on the internet at this link: Amazon Book Store. Thomas A. Stone's neurosis became overt immediately after his marriage. He and his wife then had counseling. One night at home he watched Arthur Janov on the Johnny Carson tv show and became intrigued with the idea of primal therapy. The high cost of primal therapy at Janov's Institute prevented him for applying for therapy there. He went into psychoanalysis and decided to combine it with the isolation suggested in The Primal Scream . He writes that the results were not good because it was still psychoanalysis. His next stop on the road to wellness was reading H. Ron Hubbard's Dianetics. (Stone has studied 250 types of therapy!) Full week end dianetics' auditing sessions elicited many blocked memories and his many symptoms began to disappear. His auditor suggested that new procedures be used; he then discontinued dianetics because he was suspicious of the proposed new techniques. He reasoned that since uncovering his repressed memories was working the therapy techniques should not be changed. He and his wife (the daughter of an alcoholic father) decided to combine the elements of primal therapy, dianetics and psychoanalysis and worked with each other to eventually develop what Stone calls his brand of healing: The Therapy. Their process was slow and backsliding common. They wondered if the process of uncovering blocked memories and having regressions would ever end. This was his and his wife's foremost concern. Furthermore their symptoms were becoming worse. But, very slowly, over time, their happiness improved as more and more of their neurotic symptoms began falling away. * * * J. Konrad Stettbacher in Making Sense of Suffering was the first to write about the techniques of inducing primal regressions, but Thomas Stone's book is the first to give very detailed directions which before the publication of Cure By Crying, seemingly, were more tightly contained than the secrets of a magician! Some hard core self-primalers might not like his specific techniques of beginning The Therapy with someone else since many feel they can do the work alone. Unlike Stettbacher, Stone believes that the second person's presence is necessary. The way the book is written it would be impossible to do the therapy alone. Even after one understands and has been using the therapy successfully, a second party who is non-judgmental, loving and supportive can make it possible to access feelings in a deeper and more complete way. I have always done self-primaling alone, but on those occasions when I did use a second party, I have always been amazed how much easier, deeper, and more productive my therapy session have become with the aid and presence of a therapist. I was at first confounded, then amused and agreed when Stone wrote that you really don't need someone with you during the regressions, but that you must believe that the person is there! He gave the example of successfully regressing when once he believed his wife was present and listening to him. and was not present! Things don't have to be the way you think they are, since oftentimes your belief that they are, will still have the same effect. But every single feeling does not require another's presence, even though it usually makes quite a difference. You can even use a telephone as many primal patients have been doing for years. And, as mentioned, after you "learn" how to regress you can do a lot on your own. A central thesis of Cure By Crying is that The Therapy is different from Primal Therapy. However, I have my doubts. Stone explains the distinction in the section entitled, "Three Kinds of 'Reliving' and Fool's Reliving." All three types, he writes, when accompanied by tears, validly expunge the effects of early trauma. The first is called: Complete Reliving - Reliving in three dimensional stereo. You are there again in the early scene with almost complete sensory inputs. This is represented by Janov's Primal Therapy. Fragmented Reliving - This type of regressions happens continuously in The Therapy. Small parts of a trauma are reexperienced at one time. You get to relive only a "spoonsfull" during each return to the scene. The patient might even be uncertain of the truth of the experience. A fragmented reliving comes after a symbolic reliving. Symbolic Reliving - This would be a deep identification with, e.g, a character in a movie which triggers a feeling reaction in the patient. It could happen during a lecture, viewing a poignant scene of a father being loving to his child, etc. Fool's Reliving - This type is not curative since it is not an actual reliving. The unemotional remembering of an event, the author writes, means that it was not repressed to begin with. Here I believe the author fails to recognize that one can have a complete remembrance of an event but with the emotion or some of the emotions repressed. I believe that the author probably recognizes this distinction. But it is an important one which should have been discussed. Stone believe that usually it is not just a one time trauma which causes mental illness. Like others in the field, he believes that the cause is rather ". . .a lack of love and attention from mom and dad." He recognizes both birth trauma and intrauterine trauma as powerful forces molding our psyche, but does not discuss the reliving of these traumas. Dr. Arthur Janov has removed a lot of the mystique of psychotherapy with his primal therapy discovery. Thomas A. Stone has removed even more by revealing details ( and even giving the exact questions the "therapist" should ask!) of how regressive therapy can be practiced between two individuals. I wholeheartedly recommend that you read Cure By Crying. Anyone who has been in a deep regressive therapy will find in Thomas Stone's book much to agree with and also some issues with which to disagree. The author recognizes this. Those of you who are considering a form of deep regressive therapy as a do-it-yourself project (with a friend) need look no further for a complete guide to exploring one's unconscious.

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars One Of The Best Books Ever Written Obout Therapy/ Psychology, June 6, 2002

By A Customer

Well, me and my wife have been using this method for about 10 months. We have sessions about twice a week. My wife is on her 94th session. So, does it work? YES!! My wife has seen many symptoms improve. Depression and headaches are the two symptoms that have improved dramatically. Her ability to stand up for herself has also improved dramatically. I should mention that my wife cries easily. She cried within five minutes of the first session. Keep in mind this therapy takes commitment and time, but it is worth it.

On the down side, I have been unable to cry and have given up on this method. I tried following the book for about six months. Could not cry once. What this means is that *some* people's ability to cry is severely damaged, and this therapy will be extremely difficult for people like me. But I hope others (like my wife) will benefit from it.

However, even failure can lead to a cure. I began looking for an alternate therapy to get me kick started. I discovered a new therapy called "Redirecting Self Therapy". Can't provide a link here, but it is bringing many years of suffering to a rapid end.

Also, this book lists all the great discoveries (in psychology) made in the last few decades. It is an excellent primer on regressive therapies in general. If I had to recommned only one book on psychology, this is it.