Don't Be Afraid To Ask : How To Date A Beautiful Woman (Paperback)

by Bob Lott (Author) "Fear is something inflicted upon us, through no fault of our own..." (more)

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"All you have to do is get up, dust yourself off, get on your bicycle, and go find her, tiger!" -- The Tartan Newspaper: Carnegie Mellon University Pittsburgh, Pa. Sept. 22, 2003

Making more money is Not a required - not even a suggested - step on Lott's path to dating. -- Beach Magazine March 16,1999

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A beautiful woman glances at you, then looks away and doesn't notice you for the rest of the night. What did you do wrong? I'm about to tell you... and we'll fix it so it doesn't happen again. She could be a brilliant neurosurgeon, an accomplished jazz musician, or a compassionate listner.

When you first lay eyes on her sitting at the next table, your first impression is likely to be more on the lines of "Whoa-nice body!" Men's initial reactions are primal, simple, and to the point. Women are cool with that. That's why that neursurgeon gal is wearing the tube top/mini skirt. Therefore you need to understand that women's first impressions are anything but simple. She may look like she's casually glancing your way, but in reality her eyes are roving all over you like one of those bond-film mini-spy-cams, and her brain whirring like a high speed supercomputer. She's taking a complex head-to-toe inventory involving megabytes of clear and specific information that you had no idea you were revealing. No matter what the ads say, there simply isn't one perfect shirt, or pick-up line, or haircut,or cologne that will reel women in. All women are looking for the same basic qualities in men. The direct approach is the most productive way to break the ice with a beautiful woman. When approaching her, you look at her face-to-face and make direct eye contact only. The first thing that you must mentally show and prove to her is that you most importantly respect her as a human being,. This means look at her in high esteem. In this situation, the best way to obtain a friend is to be a friend.

She doesn't need to know that your checks bounce like a rubber ball in a handball tournament. Here are some free tips to exaggerate your wealth, even across a crowded room. First carry a money clip instead of a wallet. It's an accessory that show women you are financially secure enough to throw around money. Next, whatever else you have to skimp on, drop some money on the shoes. Women gauge other women's fiscal health by looking at their shoes.(It's generally easier to look good in inexpensive clothes than inexpensive shoes.) They will judge you the same way. Shoes that look pricier usually are made of smooth supple leather that doesn't crack over time, and thicker more substantial soles. Also note that a woman's subconcious mind toward your "resources" includes your education. Since studies show that women are least confident in the subjects of math and science, displaying confidence here will convince her you're Einstein across the board. So bone up on the Learning Channel.

When she passes you on the way to the powder room, the snippet she'll hear may sound like, "Although it lives in the sea, the horeshoe crab can actually drown if you turn it upside down and pour water over it." You see the human mind is motivated by one thing and one thing only. It is results. When your mind sees results it will do it again and again. It will take the success and automatically apply it to another situation and another and so on. We are leaders in the PRACTICAL APPLICATION of advanced technology guaranteed to produce immediate results that you and your brain instantly recognize. It is your great need for results that have motivated us to present you a manual that you will learn how to meet, date, marry, and raise a family with a beautiful woman in a normal, healthy, and functional manner.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 76 pages
• Publisher: Doveco Publications; 2nd edition (March 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0966363507
• ISBN-13: 978-0966363500
• Product Dimensions: 6.1 x 4.1 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 0.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 2.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #1,025,939 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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33 of 34 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Power Tool for Getting Ms. Right and Avoiding Ms. Wrong, August 4, 2005

By	Mark McDonald (Berkeley, CA United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Don't Be Afraid To Ask!! How To Date A Beautiful Woman (Paperback)

This book really just tells it like it is. I think that good men will agree with most of what he says. Bob Lott is really explaining how any decent man can have a really beautiful woman in his life, but it will take work and discipline. His first step is to really cast out fear of approaching beautiful women by making you understand that your beliefs that you will fail are not based in reality.

He makes it clear that women are creatures with intricate needs, and one of these needs is to associate with classy male companions. However, beautiful women have to protect themselves from the jerks that routinely approach them, and they need time to warm up. Furthermore, you must use the tool of indirection to get past her defenses, to make her feel safe, to let her know that you're different, and to let her imagine more than what is there. The central thesis of his book is to never worry about how a woman feels about you. You, as a male suitor, need only worry about how she feels about herself.

Bob Lott explains that love, romance, and intimacy go hand in hand with each other. He adequately explains that many beautiful women HATE alcohol and that ALL beautiful women LOATHE problem drinkers. And he directs you to stay away from bar women, very wisely. If you are a man of class, dignity, and integrity, then those traits literally repel barflies. And the jealousy that beautiful women have to deal with from divas at nightclubs really hurts. Good men and beautiful women are not to be found in bars. And beautiful women know this.

The other crucial point Bob Lott makes is that the death of a relationship with a really beautiful woman is predictability. This does not mean instability, but rather always taking initiative to do new, fun, interesting things, and never being lazy. Keeping her around means constantly romancing her- taking a risk on her. It is through this selflessness that we come to love each other. Creating an affectionate, loving environment communicates to a woman that you think that she is not just OK, but rare and special. Intimacy exists only when we can deal with each other from an I'm OK- You're OK point of reference. But when you get lazy and cease to create a loving and affectionate environment, she will no longer want to be with you.

The mistake that most men make is that they believe, incorrectly, that being a woman's friend and being a woman's lover are mutually exclusive. It's just not so. Almost all women, especially the most beautiful (and also the loneliest of all), want to be closely attached to a lover who is their best friend and companion in life. It is precisely this kind of relationship that transforms us into better people, and helps us to get the most out of life.

And Bob Lott so wisely encourages you to focus on one woman at a time. He's right. Aim for the whole flock and you'll kill no birds, but aim for one and you'll hit it. Men who are constantly bedhopping are using sex as a narcotic. Their lives are empty and have no meaning. And when you've found the right woman, seen her display morality, character and integrity over and over again, and have a relationship based on loyalty and allegiance, this is when you should marry her.

And Bob Lott makes it clear that once you marry her, you can certainly never lie down on the job. You don't own her like chattel. She's your partner, whom you've chosen, and who has chosen you. If you want her to make your life wonderful, do your darndest to make hers wonderful as well.

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This book is really about dating the top 2 percent of the female gender. It's about relating to the women who have a well-kept appearance, brains, class and personality- true beauty that will not fade over time. [...]

So go for it guys. Never be the jerk. Don't be the fake, phony guy who uses niceness to disguise what he really wants. BE A GOOD MAN.

But don't take my word for it.

30 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Every Beautiful Woman Wants A Good Man!!, April 20, 2005

By	Harry (USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Don't Be Afraid To Ask!! How To Date A Beautiful Woman (Paperback)

If you want a beautiful woman in your life. You must show that your a good man that can be trusted. You could be the biggest snake on the face of this earth. Thanks to this book, you can be transformed into the love of her life. Love and hate is on a very thin line. You are only a heart beat away into becoming everything in a man thats she is looking for. Allow this book to make that happen for you.

50 of 56 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars A few good points in here, June 28, 2001

By	MISTER SJEM "sonofhotpie" (CALIF BAY AREA United States) - See all my reviews

This is an all right book but there are better ones out there if you want to improve your dating skills.

That said, here are the pros and cons:

PROS

(1) gives you a pep talk to work on your image in asking a good looking woman out; (2) teaches you how to have the right date with her; (3) teaches you how to act towards her . .. honesty, love, appreciation . .. realize she will walk if she doesn't get some basic needs met; (4) having a future with her; (5) how to break up with one beauty for another; what to say; and (6) marrying her

CONS

(1) Too much for such a small book . .. price, that is. (2) Not enough details on asking her out. It basically says to go up and ask her out after asking a question but spends no time in detailing to be aware of her body language towards you. The author makes it sound like just your sincerity will get a date. Not true. (3) There's nothing about the whole dating game. Not every woman you date is going to be a good match but you won't find that out until later. There isn't anything about dealing with manipulations or certain actions that a good looking woman will try, knowing that men will put up with more from her because of her beauty. (4) Conflict resolution skills, which are vital to any relationship, aren't helpful. He basically suggests you take everything in stride which makes you sound like you're afraid of conflict or want her to walk all over you; and (5) There's very little about making yourself presentable to a good looking woman. Based on the reading, the author makes it sound that a good heart will land you with the girl. Again, not true. Look at biology and anthropology, as well as the men good looking women are involved with; while they aren't always good looking guys or guys with money . .. they certainly aren't super overweight smelly guys with bad breathe.

... HOW TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN and R. Don Steele's BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS [are] good, too. If you want to know about long term, read John Gray or Barbara de Angelis.