Recreational Sex : An Insider's Guide to the Swinging Lifestyle (Paperback)

~ Patti Thomas (Author) "I'm sure there could be as many different definitions of swinging as there are people involved in it, since each person may define what it..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

Review

Here is a marvelous opportunity to see the truth of swinging through the eyes and experience of a woman. -- Robert McGinley, PhD., President, The Lifestyles Organization

This is the first book that I can endorse as being a practical guide, especially for new and hesitant couples. -- Editor, Liberated Christians Newsletter, Phoenix, AZ

Wow! ...this is the first book that I can endorse as being a practical guide, especially for new and hesitant couples. Some prior guides I've reviewed have been more personal fantasy experiences, which for some people are great, but this is the first book I've reviewed that is personal, concise, and very practical. -- Editor, Liberated Christians Newsletter, Phoenix, AZ, September, 1997

Product Description

Recreational Sex answers all your questions about the world of swinging: who swingers are and why they swing; the best ways to find partners; establishing your own pace; handling your emotions and improving communication with your lover; the joys of threesomes; different types of clubs, trips, and conventions and what to expect once you get there, along with contact information; eight pages of color photos from various lifestyle functions; and much more. The third edition, released in April, 2002, includes the latest information for a variety of clubs around the country and many exciting lifestyle events.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 135 pages
• Publisher: Peppermint Pub Co (July 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0966439805
• ISBN-13: 978-0966439809
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.2 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #85,742 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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48 of 49 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Keen insight from a woman's perspective/ educational, October 4, 2001

By A Customer

An excellent introductory book to the swinging lifestyle. Patti provides an indepth look at swinging from not only a sexual view but emotional and spiritual viewpoints. Ms. Thomas addresses the issues of jealousy, fear of the first time, meeting people and placing ads in one of several mediums and not solely her own. She also addresses two key aspects regarding women and swinging.
One, the feelings of being forced into the lifestyle by husbands/partners and being told to wear revealing clothing at parties/resorts that don't make them feel comfortable. Two, the lack of information and resources for women interested in swinging either alone or with the husband/partner. She is dead on when she states that many more women would be interested in swinging if given proper education from society and positive support from their husbands/partners. I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK FOR WOMEN INTERESTED IN SWINGING AND FOR MEN WHO ARE CONSIDERING OPENING UP THEIR MARRIAGE TO EITHER SWINGING, POLYAMORY OR SWAPPING.

24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Good permissions to help with couples lifestyles issues, May 12, 1999

By A Customer

Dear Patti,

I wanted to write and tell you that I was impressed with your book. It think it was very well written and to the point. We also found it to be extremely helpful in addressing some issues that we were working thru. Let me say at this point that I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in the state of Florida, and a National Certified Counselor. We have been in the lifestyle for only three years and I consider us still to be kind of "newbies." I found your book to be very useful in opening up helpful dialogues and to give various "permissions" to examine issues in a "defense-free" manner. For that gift I thank you. I would also like to say that I liked your humility. While it seemed like someone as famous as you could really have a swelled head, you did not. I admired that. Thank you again,

M. H., Master of Arts in Professional Psychology, National Certified Counselor, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Very Informative Book, December 14, 1998

By A Customer

We were delighted to find this book! We've toyed with the idea of swinging for awhile now, but were not sure what type of people were involved or what to expect if we could find a club to attend. Some other books we found were primarily accounts of the author's sexual activities with other people, while we were searching for helpful advice & information for nervous beginners. Reading this book together helped immensely by making it easier for us to discuss sensitive topics. While we still haven't made a decision yet on swinging, all of our discussions about it sure helped spice up our own sexual activities!